Hello! I will tell you briefly the situation in which I was placed by my friend recently. We have been together for more than half a year. We were guests and drank a little, he doesn't drink in principle, neither do I. But we had gone out anyway. We went home and went to bed, he hugged me very tightly and said he loved me. He had never said that before, we don't talk much. The next few days I was recharged anyway. After a month, somewhere he started to get a little distracted and I shouted at him "Where is your mind", and he replied: "You didn't take it" .. just like a slap. Then it became obvious to him and he changed the subject, and I still have it in my head. What should I believe? He shows me that he loves me when we're together, but when we're out it's like we're friends, or he doesn't write all day, he only calls in the evening as a check. Men, when are you telling the truth? Do you really suffer from love? At 22, he is over 30. Big difference, the word should be in place, but which one exactly?
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I am a woman, but I think when he is sober he is sincere. Although, there is no guarantee again. When he drinks, he can talk to himself whatever he wants, but his mind is clouded. But this is not always the case.
Look now, I'm also a 22-year-old woman and your situation is quite complicated, he's behaving like he's younger than you, which is pretty stupid. I have a serious friend who's 26 and sober and drunk, he's still the same. Only when he gets drunk he tells me 20 times that he loves me and hugs me, but when he is sober he still tells me that he loves me, but 1-2 times a day. In my opinion, the man with whom you are a terrible moron and you waste your time and youth with him. When he told you that you did not take his mind, it was brutally insulting. In your place, I would raise a scandal and tell him to be go to the one who took his mind.
I can't lie when I'm drunk, but nothing! But to behave so sober I do not understand it .. Either you have feelings for a person or you do not, it does not matter if you are drunk or sober. For example, when I'm drunk, it's a little easier for me to say how I feel, that's ... I don't change my mind when I drink.
When you get drunk, you become relaxed and nice, you "love" everyone and you are generally in a more loving, relaxed mood. Judging by myself, friends and other people I've seen slightly treated. I'm not talking about pouring alcohol, am I ... Personally, I would have more faith in sober words. His behavior when you're out is indicative - you're boyfriends all the time, not just when you're alone. In this sense, he should pay attention to you and show you love when there are other people around. So it seems that the others are more interesting to him and he shows you attention when you are alone, because there is simply no one else. I had a boyfriend like that - if we're both, everything's fine. If we go out with other people - end, as if I do not exist.
He just doesn't like to share intimacy in public. Many people are like that. And let me tell you, this is even more normal behavior. It's just that when there are other people, it's not appropriate to push each other and exchange love words. What he told you - that you did not take his mind, in my opinion is a defensive reaction, it is clear that he is offensive. He took your joke as a criticism and returned it to hurt you, obviously you hurt him too. It's hard for him to share his feelings, it seems. Maybe he considers the manifestation of love feelings as a weakness and is afraid that he will look weak in your eyes. There is an emotional problem and a barrier. You look at the other - to hold on to you, to respect you, to be faithful to you. If so, know that you are loved by a man who finds it difficult to be shown.
The only truth is that some people tend to tolerate such treatment just to not be left alone.
Most people show their real face in a drunken state.