Well what can I tell you I am totally confused. And I really need advice urgently. I don't know, maybe I'm weak and I can't make decisions on my own or I'm afraid of being left without him. I really don't know and that's exactly why I need help. My friend and I have been together for 2 years. During these 2 years I have endured lies of all kinds and kinds. He tells me to go home, go wash the car, etc. and whenever I call him, he is always in the middle of the noise, in the company. He's lying to me that he's not going anywhere, and the next day another friend of his just beats him up very badly. And when I opened my mouth and started asking him why he was doing that. His answer is "You're crazy. You're paranoid, you're just making nonsense." I can't understand why he's lying to me. I told him - go out with whomever and whenever you want, I don't even want to know who you are with, you have a personal space in which I have no right and I don't want to interfere, but I just want you to tell me that you're going out. That's right, but the man doesn't do it. Recently went to sea for 4 days. I didn't know at all. We had agreed for the evening to go out with some of our mutual friends. He called my phone at 8 pm and our meeting was at 9. And he told me, darling, we won't be able to see each other because I'm at sea. I just stared at when he left, how he decided, and I don't know. After all, we've been together for 2 years and for several months I obviously didn't deserve to know about his plans. And he explained to me that he would be back in 3 days. He went to take a friend of his because they had taken his book and apparently only my friend has a book and there is simply no one else to take this other boy, but anyway. And I overcame that. My boy came back from the sea and came in a trance. He decided to sleep at home, he was obviously a bit of a jerk. We go to bed and what to see his whole back scratched with nails. I hugged him and in the sweetest possible voice asked him "Abe darling, what did you do to your back, why is the tissue torn" And can you imagine what a stupid answer I was given "Well, me and my friend (the one who drives to the sea) we fought on the base and he must have slipped on my back. It took another half hour and I again "Abe dear, were you dressed when you fought" and he "I wish I was wearing a T-shirt" But I was not blind, it was neither slippery nor a friendly fight. These were nails. This friend in question is one of the most wanted men in our city, and I do not live in any small town, he is even quite big. I believe that he will go to the sea without a babe, my apk will probably shine for them, that is, it means that most likely there was a piece of the cake for him as well. So tell me how not to lose confidence ! He lies to me about the most basic nonsense. And to be honest, I have no idea why he does it. I'm not one of those women who make up stories and start arguing with their friends, I'm also not jealous for no reason. Nor have I ever tried to forbid him anything. Lies, lies and lies again. Of course, I no longer trust him for anything, and how can I have him ??? What kind of relationship would be without trust? And what do you think, did he cheat on me there? Did he go home every time he told me, and then he went out with friends, who knows, whether he cheated on me even then. Please advise me what to do. Thank you for being involved in my story. So tell me how not to lose confidence ?! He lies to me about the most basic nonsense. And to be honest, I have no idea why he does it. I'm not one of those women who make up stories and start arguing with their friends, I'm also not jealous for no reason. Nor have I ever tried to forbid him anything. Lies, lies and lies again. Of course, I no longer trust him for anything, and how can I have him ??? What kind of relationship would be without trust? And what do you think, did he cheat on me there? Did he go home every time he told me, and then he went out with friends, who knows, whether he cheated on me even then. Please advise me what to do. Thank you for being involved in my story. So tell me how not to lose confidence ?! He lies to me about the most basic nonsense. And to tell you the truth, I have no idea why he does it. I'm not one of those women who make up stories and start arguing with their friends, I'm also not jealous for no reason. Nor have I ever tried to forbid him anything. Lies, lies and lies again. Of course, I no longer trust him for anything, and how can I have him ??? What kind of relationship would be without trust? And what do you think, did he cheat on me there? Did he go home every time he told me, and then he went out with friends, who knows, whether he cheated on me even then. Please advise me what to do. Thank you for being involved in my story. I'm not one of those women who make up stories and start arguing with their friends, I'm also not jealous for no reason. Nor have I ever tried to forbid him anything. Lies, lies and lies again. Of course, I no longer trust him for anything, and how can I have him ??? What kind of relationship would be without trust? And what do you think, did he cheat on me there? Did he go home every time he told me, and then he went out with friends, who knows, whether he cheated on me even then. Please advise me what to do. Thank you for being involved in my story. I'm not one of those women who make up stories and start arguing with their friends, I'm also not jealous for no reason. Nor have I ever tried to forbid him anything. Lies, lies and lies again. Of course, I no longer trust him for anything, and how can I have him ??? What kind of relationship would be without trust? And what do you think, did he cheat on me there? Did he go home every time he told me, and then he went out with friends, who knows, whether he cheated on me even then. Please advise me what to do. Thank you for being involved in my story. and how can I have it ??? What kind of relationship would be without trust? And what do you think, did he cheat on me there? Did he go home every time he told me, and then he went out with friends, who knows, whether he cheated on me even then. Please advise me what to do. Thank you for being involved in my story. and how can I have it ??? What kind of relationship would be without trust? And what do you think, did he cheat on me there? Did he go home every time he told me, and then he went out with friends, who knows, whether he cheated on me even then. Please advise me what to do. Thank you for being involved in my story.
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Not.
He's lying to you. The others are for fun - you are his constant. If that's enough for you, there will be no problem, don't go deeper. If that's not enough for you - run - he will always lie to you and you will be a hookah.
You doubt his every move and think he's not on the right track, but dump him then.
Just throw it away. A relationship is built on trust and respect, and he seems to be making fun of you and from what you write there is no respect for you. Stop calling him and start dating friends, and when he calls you you can play him a little to feel how unpleasant it is. The bad thing is that you just decided to tighten up and then he will remember how much he loves you and how you are the only one for him - if you give in after a while the situation will be the same. You better leave him and find someone who really respects and cares for you.
There are no faithful men who don't care if they hurt their partner and those who do it so that she doesn't understand anything and continues to feel loved and wanted.
oooooo, darling, i read the first 5 lines and felt it was my story. I don't know if I should keep reading down, but out of respect for you I will! Stop! For God's sake, stop, don't ruin yourself! Stop while it's time! You only lost 2 years, I lost 5! Leave it! I keep reading, if I'm wrong I'll fix it, but I bet he's the type I know so well!
Hello, it's me again! I'm not particularly happy that I was right, your story is as I thought it, painfully familiar to me! Don't, leave! I SWARN YOU, LEAVE YOURSELF! I would like to leave you personal data so that I can be of maximum use to you, but ... I do not dare, I will enter when I can and I will write to you here. I will sign with the name Berta. Don't think, even if you think you love him, the pain is many. passes quickly. There are people who like to steal - kleptomaniacs, etc. with other weaknesses, and people who like to lie are called losers! Success! And know that I am with you! BeRta
Yes, you will find the right man, but I don't know how long you can keep him.
(by the author) Well, I don't know how to address you with a number, it's not nice. Then I will call you Bertha. Well, I will give you my Skype if you want to write to me, if you have such an opportunity. This skype is not a real fake sense so we can find each other :) Thank you very much for the advice you give me and I will be happy if you find me, because maybe you will be the only person who will be able to help me overcome everything. Thank you very much. I will expect you to write me skype is: pain_pain2 Thank you very much :)
There are faithful men. The bad news, however, is that even if they are true, after a few bad girls they refuse to be true. Very few remain real. I am a boy and I know only one such person. It is generally accepted that cheating means that you are a dude, they stick to you. If you are faithful, you are a jerk. It's a pity a lot, but that's how people accept it. Simplicity walks people.
I'm Berta, you don't get out of my head all day! Who are you? I don't know you, I'm crying for you, I'm in pain for you! Say the time to meet in abv. chat, you are not in skype! There is an ointment for every pain. I'm ready to help you with what I can and can't do, even! BEWARE! BeRta
Hello. It says a man. You don't write anything about a child. If you don't have anything else do you do with him? I wish you happiness, but don't expect it from this one.
Hello! I decided to write to you because I have experienced a similar story. All the comments so far tell you to run away from this link. Well, I'll tell you the same. The reasons are many: lack of trust, many lies, other preferences, etc. But I want you to ask yourself if you are happy in this relationship. What you will do depends on your answer. I wish you happiness and love to find with the Real Man.
(by the author) Thank you very much for the nice and useful advice you gave me. I am really grateful to you! But I've been thinking for a long time and I've come up with a solution that may be in complete conflict with what I wrote above. Yes, everything I have written is so, but I love this man with all my heart and although he causes me a lot of pain, he brings me twice as much happiness. No one can make me shed so many tears, but at the same time no one is able to give me this joy and happiness, I know it sounds very strange. And you probably think I don't know what I want myself. When I posted my story on this site, it really was, but not now. Now I know what I want and this is: Only HIM. I may be suffering, but no one could make me happier than he is. And I realized that thanks to a boy who found me here on this site. If he reads this, I want to tell him that I am terribly grateful to him :) Of course, thank you to all of you who wrote to me and were moved by my story !!! :)
Hello. sorry to tell you so straight away but he doesn't care about you at all. I know you love him and it will be hard for you, but get rid of him now. Don't think that there is no one else who can't make you happy ... on the contrary !! The same thing had happened to me and I dumped him and you know what he kept cheating on the other girls after me. So this one of yours doesn't even deserve to be thought of, let alone loved. He is complete rubbish and DOES NOT DESERVE YOU, PUT IT WELL IN YOUR HEAD. AND EVERY TIME YOU WANT TO CALL HIM, REMEMBER ALL THE TEARS AND PAIN HE GAVE YOU (HE CAN ONLY DO THAT). I CAN WRITE A LOT TO YOU, BUT YOU WILL UNDERSTAND (I HOPE) HOW MUCH HE LIED TO YOU AND WILL CONTINUE BECAUSE HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU. GOOD LUCK
This is called female masochism. I can't understand him, you know he treats you like a rag, you love him ... a terrible thing.
To the author of the story and to comment number 5. I am a man and I think there are no faithful men. And even if there is such a miracle of nature, it will be 1 in several thousand and will be the kind of careful, kind and romantic men who please you for everything and let you lead them by the nose as you wish. For this type of man, the Bulgarian woman accustomed to the Balkan macho says "This is not a man at all". So 4e forget about fidelity. BUT, the important thing is not to be the only one, but to be number 1! And here, in my opinion, number 5 has given a very correct answer. Find a man who respects you and takes care of you, to always be in the first place for him. When you need him to be with you and help you, to take care of the family and to ensure it and to give his health so that it is good for the woman and the children! And that he's cheating on chat ... fuck, as long as he doesn't do it in a way that humiliates you in public. If women could understand this, heaven on earth would come. Remember man is an animal, a primate with an instinct that has nothing to do with feelings and whether the other is nicer or sexier. This would not change his attitude towards the incumbent if he was a man on the spot! We are like that, accept it!
Judge if there are any qualities that will attract you to him. Enthusiasm is not enough. Compromising his constant lies is a waste of time. Yes, I agree that men cheat. But let's at least be "serially" monogamous.
I have had such a relationship for 8 years and I want to break away from it, but I can't, I want to catch mine in a mold, as they say, but I still get away with it !!! If I can contact the author or Berta I will be grateful, I suffer, I want if you can a little advice! Thanks.
You write that it gives you twice as much happiness as pain. If you stay with him, you will create five times more pain and take five times more. Then all you want is to get away from it. And will you have children ... And do you know who the real boy is who found you on the site. I wonder how neither a man nor a woman advises you to stay with him here. But you decide.
Abe has some faithful, but sooner or later they come to their senses.
There are faithful men ..... But the last one was taken nine months ago :))) (Male of 48)
(the author) for № 19 if you want to contact me my skype is: anityoyo
There are faithful men !!! You just have to be one of those women who will make him faithful. I've had a lot of relationships and I've cheated on all the men. No one caught me in the act. I love my current one to the point of pain and I will never let him cheat on me ... and just don't tell me "if he decides, nothing can stop him", IT'S NOT SO!
Hi 19. I'm Berta. We met the author! I hope to be at least a little helpful. Now my best friend is in the same situation, it weighs on me, it hurts! I know, girls, I understand you! But men are pigs! Before, when I was in this situation, a woman pulled me out. I met her in the chat on abv. Now it's my turn to help others! Find me in the abv chat, I will be with the nickname Berta, let it be tomorrow (13.9), if he is not looking for me in the evening after 22 hours! Congratulations and good luck!
Hi, I'm sorry to tell you this outright, but he's not interested in you at all. Apparently you love him when you endure all this .. But Dear Life is only one and remember that everything is curable - it seems this is not the man for you .. leave him and move on, it is not easy, but life is in front of you.
Hello, your story shocked me! It's like telling my story, I just shivered, I experience the same thing with these lies, but I love him so much that I can't live without him, and I don't know what to do if you want to talk to me, write to me on Skype, which is: silvelinka. Bye and good luck.
leave it immediately this is scum
Darling ... run ... while it's time .... Don't bother ... No man deserves it ..
There are faithful men, I am one of them. It's a pity that this is not appreciated by women, I think it will be something to like, but alas. At one point in my acquaintance with women, I reveal this trait of mine in my character - I say I'm serious, I've never cheated on me before - they probably either don't believe me ... or it's just not a value nowadays, I've had no more than 5 relationships, male 30 years old.
I also advise the author to leave it - before she has a child, before the bitterness increases ... but things are not always in black and white, I understand her too. There is a book that I really like - "Donna Flor and her two husbands" by Georges Amadou, which has a similar story. It's a pity that in real life the end can't be like in the book - you always have to choose, you can't be with the charming gambler and the loving kind pharmacist at the same time ....
Yes, I have had 3 serious relationships so far and I have never cheated and I never would in the future. M 31
The same question applies to you (women) :)) Some guys are good with you all 6 "dream relationship", and what are you doing ?? - You do not appreciate what he does for you. - You don't pay attention to him .. - You do what you want, because you know that he will forgive you, isn't he a "good bastard" - You look at every stocky dude and only with a look and you are already his .. KU * VI to 1: )) I'm sorry about this statement, but .. I don't think anyone can dispute any of these facts :)
I have the same one at home ... constantly lying, but constantly, from the smallest to the biggest and most serious lies, I don't know how such people can exist, I'm just amazed at the horror of horrors ... it lies from 1001 nights, it's normal to be from 1001 nights is still an Arab liar .... I just do not want to explain what stupid explanations are in question, then even a 10-year-old child will laugh at his stupidity .... and I love you, this you are what you are, and his love for me is only in words, every single day I raise scandals and in the end he says that I am sick, that I am crazy, and that "poor" is the most normal, he just that day a lot he gets cruelly entangled in his lies, I can't even realize what's going on .... but all sorts of idiots, thinking that they can deceive us, I catch him for absolutely every lie, he denies absolutely every lie, and swears miracles ... .there are no such types simply
Comment 17 made me laugh sincerely - that it and women carry the primitive in themselves and are susceptible to primary attraction. I am a woman and I admit it. The question is whether you will respond to your instincts. It's all about reason, principles and morality. Some people own them, others don't! So get used to the idea that we can easily replace you with a better copy, even for one night. It will be easier for you as the woman next to you stares at men more attractive than you :))
There is no. There is no such animal. Even the most monogamous did not die with just one woman and his wife. Even if he loves a woman, they still cheat, at some point. About your story. It is clear that he is lying to you. Aren't there other men ... Run
My father is 100% a hell of a believer, he observes all fasts and is serious in this regard. I am also 23, I have had a relationship for 8 months, I had opportunities, but I had no desire. Only once did I fuck my girlfriend on the 24th day of my relationship, I kissed and danced with another girl because I was angry with my girlfriend, but to this day I would not replace her with another, I just believed her that she does not use me and she's lying and I wouldn't risk another one, no matter how greasy she gets and how beautiful she is. I have no desire to cheat and be used by anyone