Hello, I want to join, so I'm almost 19 and I'm a virgin. This is not my only problem - I have never had a boyfriend or kissed before - I am very ashamed. I don't know how to behave in the company of a boy, nor how to admit someone's feelings. I'm not ugly - people think I'm good and I'm weak, but I'm very shy and I can't beat it. I wanted to wait for the right person, the one who would appreciate me for who I was. BUT I guess I'll never find it. And I don't even know how to tell someone how to tell them all this will surely make me laugh and dump me. Are there other girls in my position Please share and give me some advice. And do you think this should be said to the boy you like when the time comes or should it be kept quiet? Thanks anyway :)
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I'm a boy and I would be very happy if a girl took the "first steps" to a relationship (I speak in an intelligent and polite way, and not like most girls rubbing pity ...) I would be very happy, honestly ...
Why the hell do today's young people (and not only) think that being thin and beautiful is a guarantee of a successful relationship ?! Haven't you heard of antisocial people ??? You may be the greatest beauty in the world, but you are a bad listener / interlocutor, you have a limited general culture or no everyday culture, which makes you unpleasant for company. My thought is that appearance is never entirely decisive ... Being shy is not a vice, nor being a virgin. Be yourself and judge people not by their weight and facial features, but by their character and actions. That way, the risk of bumping into someone who won't appreciate your innocence is lower.
Number 2, I guess under "I'm not ugly - people think I'm nice and I'm weak" the girl tries to explain that the problem is not having a boyfriend and being shy not in the fact that for example she is rounder and therefore men do not pay attention! You misunderstood this explanation! But, on the topic! I haven't written comments under any confession on the site for a long time and now I will allow myself a longer one (usually for me), for which I apologize in advance and if you can't read it, skip it! However, I think what I will write is important, many people know it, but do not realize it! To know is one thing, but to realize what you know is quite different. Have you ever wondered why, for example, when you were / or in class at school and the teacher asked a question to the class, if you are hesitant about the answer, you prefer not to answer. When you are at work and your colleague / boss asks you something related to the work and you are hesitant about the answer, you prefer not to answer. When you go to a company where you know almost no one, you prefer to stand in the corner and be silent, when you see a handsome boy / girl you are embarrassed to say anything, etc. etc. thousands of situations can serve as an example, but the answer is always the same! Have you thought about it? It's very simple! You have always been worried about what people, classmates, boss, colleague, friends, strangers will think ... And this is the main problem in most cases in almost all confessions here, which read: "When I see a nice girl / boy I become a tree "," I have no friends and I'm lonely "," I can't meet love "," I'm very shy "... And why all this! For one answer, for one opinion ... Einstein said: "I don't need to know everything, it's enough to know where to find it". Now think about the following. What would have happened if you had said, "Hey, you're very beautiful" without worrying about what the other party would think, think about how each person is more or less vain and happy when someone expresses positive emotions in his address. Think about what would have happened if you had answered: "I guess the answer to what you are asking me is ... but if I'm wrong can you explain to me where I went wrong" Think about what would have happened if you said, "Hi, my name is ... and it's nice to meet you." Everyone transfers situations through their minds, he creates imaginary dialogues and imagines how a conversation would go or how it should have gone, and then he regrets that he didn't have the courage to care what people or the other person would think if he said this or that. About 7 billion people live on planet Earth, is it so important what 1, 5 or 10 people will think of you? Is it so important that 0.0000..001% of the world's population will think you are stupid, crazy, weird, etc. Is it that important to you really? If so, I'm sorry ... then you're an unsaved case. Remember! There is nothing wrong with liking someone, not knowing what to say, not knowing the right answer, saying what you think, saying what you feel ... there is nothing wrong with telling someone I love you and if you answer, there is nothing wrong with that;) There is nothing wrong with someone not liking you, not to "fall for you", to think you are stupid, to laugh at the fact that you have made a mistake, there is nothing wrong with it, hundreds, thousands, millions come after him, who will have a different opinion! Especially to the author. I completely agree and support number 1, I will only add that there is nothing more exciting and sexy than some to tell you embarrassed and shy how he falls for you and to see the blush on his cheeks from worry. M24
Kissing someone, as well as having sex, is not a matter of sporting achievement. What is more important is what you want, it is good to know your desires. And I don't want to disappoint you, but a person learns about it all his life and sometimes he dies without knowing exactly what he wants. Didn't it occur to you that no boy was interesting and predisposing enough for you to be able to relax and feel ready for truly romantic experiences. Maybe the reason is not in you, but in the circumstances or the environment in which you move. And last but not least - 19 years is a great age for the first such experiences in my opinion :))), if you have to follow any schedule at all ....
I was the same chick, but absolutely the same as you. The only thing that I am very poisoned and a lot of mouth, a lot of fun and I am the soul of the company, but at the age of 20 I had 1 kiss and the first sex :) And I'm not ugly and people and boys like me very much. But like you, I said that I am waiting for the person who will appreciate me and love me ... but ... It won't be like that, believe me :) don't worry and I'm already 21 and I haven't had a boyfriend so far. But I really hope that I will meet the right one :) I hope you will meet too :) Good luck chick ... and Go ahead, head up, say what you feel there is no shame in that ...
Number 3, you're very right, that's right. And the person who's embarrassed to go and say "Hello, my name is ......" why is he worried? Because he has low self-esteem. There are people who don't dare to say a word about what you say - what will they think, won't I look like a fool, etc. That is, lack of self-confidence. Unfortunately, the system, in schools, etc. it does not predispose us to communicate freely and normally with each other ... And everyone has to dig for their own self-confidence and relationships.
This is a personal personality, not a pathology and should not be a cause for concern as long as it does not hide the attraction to one's own sex ...
From the author: I can say that I have no hidden inclinations towards my gender, I like boys, but the problem just comes from the fact that for example if I like a boy I don't know what to do, and people think I'm weird because I'm not hollow like the other girls and maybe that's why the boys stay away from me ...
Well, for example, I like exactly this type of girls like you! more captive in themselves more modest because such girls are the most reasonable and when they get a boy at least they appreciate him and love him really and the other fuckers that every boy runs after them they start to swell that they are liked and their self-esteem grows you even think are what right ?! so in my opinion you are especially the right type of girl and you are very stable only when I read your story and realized that you are like me! I am 21 almost 22 years old and also like you I am more aware than other guys but you know that the times we live in have completely turned around and stable people are now accepted as "strange" and those who are not worth accepting them as a good thing, but of course I claim again that it arises from a bad upbringing in the early childhood years, low culture, etc. you know that you are a stable and decent girl and you don't care that they are away from you! you will find a boy, even I would gladly catch you as a boyfriend because that's exactly the kind of girl I'm looking for .. I haven't had a boyfriend so far and I'm also a virgin like you and I cry every day and it's hard for me to watch my sets live and when I see how I am and that kills me; (my skype is Drakona_283 if you show interest find me to write to you :) GOOD LUCK!
Author, you will not be without a boyfriend, do not worry. Shyness is not a vice, on the contrary. I think it makes a girl more attractive :) About being a virgin ... Great! I'm sure that when you find the right one, he will appreciate it :) Come on, good luck and don't despair! :)
Hello, I am just like you, I like 1 boy in my class, but I can't tell him, I'm worried that he will reject me, sometimes I'm jealous of the other girls, because he is the most beautiful in my class! :)
Just wait, if the boy has feelings for you he will invite you on a date, if not a small chance. I'm a boy and I know how it works;)
To the author: I understand you very well, I want to talk to you .... my skype is thepurelife1
I'm in the same situation as you. If you want to leave an email, let's exchange Skype and talk :)
There's nothing scary, you're still 19. And I'm 19 .. I've had boyfriends before, but recently I had sex for the first time with the boy I really love. So you have nothing to worry about, for every train there are passengers :)