Hello dear ladies I have a question for all of you. I live with a woman who has no desire for foreplay, no desire for kisses, no desire even for French caresses from me to her. Sex is rare with pleas and is hasty. He does not want to experiment. Sometimes, after a long time without sex, she comes to me alone, but this is a rarity. I've tried everything, and vacations and gifts don't help. I know you will answer me what am I looking for with her? Nothing, but I'm spent. I tried to get rid of her, leaving her free to find someone else. However, she does not want to say that I was the man. It wasn't always like that in the beginning it was a fire almost everything you can think of. As a final point to clarify is not frigid moisturizes normally ends normally. I tried to talk, she says she's fine.
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I don't think she just wants you to leave her because she loves you as a person. She doesn't want to have sex because ... she just doesn't like it. You yourself wrote that sometimes she comes to you alone. She just doesn't like to have sex as often as you want, that's it. If you love her, stay with her, because she certainly loves you too. :)
Do you have children? It happened to me, after I gave birth I have no desire for sex .. I don't know if the problem is physical or in my head, I just don't want sex, and before that I was a machine, I never had enough, I wanted everywhere, only new and new things to try. I've done it everywhere, in front of people, in places where now I think I was crazy!
Quite normal, dude. Understand that there are people (at the appropriate spiritual level) for whom sex is not a priority in life at all. Yes, there is a "fire" while they are in love, not frigid, moisturizing and ending normally, but this is NOT a priority at all. And let me tell you - they look at others as addicts, almost addicts (which it really is), just as a sun-eater watches as an "ordinary" man fills his stomach with all sorts of filth, and thinks that without them it is impossible. Or as a non-smoker views a smoker addicted to his cigarettes. It is not known for you whether in a certain period of your life activities such as sex and running on someone's ass will not go into the background and you will find some other things (sports, career, hobbies) far more interesting and exciting, than the pointless flattery back and forth for some elementary pleasure ... If you really love her, there are thousands of ways to show and express it to her - do something significant in your life and dedicate it to her: write a book, an article, a poem. Make a cake, serenade, party. Take her on a trip to the moon ... In that spirit! :)
I am a woman and to tell you the truth, I do not accept these higher goals and blah blah - for me they are just excuses. I guess you have some problems in the relationship - you insulted her with something, she punishes you for something. She may also be tired of being rocked in the same position in the same way every time, try to diversify. I had a similar problem with a man, I listened to all sorts of stupid excuses, and in the end, when I couldn't solve it, I would make a joke of him. What is your career, money, other goals for, if you can't be intimate with the person you love, give him love and bathe in his? !!
One of the possible reasons is purely hormonal. Read this article and especially the last sentences. http://www.dnes.bg/health/2012/10/25/kak-sa-svyrzani-hormonite-i-seksualnoto-jelanie.171428
Author, they call it asexuality. I have also encountered something similar. As you say, you should almost forcibly kiss, put it on her, put it in her mouth. I had several of them, and I had a serious relationship with one of them and in the end I couldn't stand it and left it, because for years having to be active without feeling any warmth is awful and has a very bad effect on self-esteem.
"I know you'll answer what I'm looking for with her? Nothing, but I'm spent." If (and most likely it is) your wife hears or feels this, then the answer is there. When we give birth to a child, we are tired. Of the 9 months of wear and tear, hormonal "wars", the extra pounds that hit self-esteem. Subsequently, the round-the-clock care for the child, the home, the husband ...... And if the husband not only does not get involved, but does not even remember to relieve at least the emotional load, then he becomes another child for the wife. Now I will ask you a question addressed to so many men here on the site: When was the last time you made a surprise, set yourself up especially for her, and said / showed that she is the most beautiful, the most beautiful, the most ) took the child for a few hours, to give her "female" time, did you look for someone to take care of the child for a few hours / one night, to give her a magical evening for two? I believe that your wife loves you, but you may also miss the thrill you had before. You know how you won it, you also know what you are NOT giving it anymore (don't forget that this includes the new gadgets around the child). You can (still) fall in love with her again;), you just have to bring back the thrill / reason for the passion. Good luck above!
Up to 3 - a sex addict is called a nymphomaniac :) Glad she doesn't want me to go to someone else. That means she really loves you, I hope you love her too. This may just be a slightly more special period, since in the beginning it was a "fire", it means that she is capable of passionate sex, which means that it will happen again, just do not push her, but talk to her and her normally ask if there is any problem. Pamper her, make her feel truly loved and the most special woman.
№4, well, that's right - everyone according to their intelligence and level ... Probably your child can't understand what it's like to be "busy" and thinks only of an excuse not to play with him. Some people eat to live, others live to eat. You are obviously one of the latter, only in an intimate sense. And since you're so touchy, why are you dating anyone at all? It is clear that whoever does not interact - only he is not wrong, so if you are with someone, you should be ready and you will be offended from time to time. But if this affects your libido so much, I don't know ... your relationships with other people have no future!
Please don't lecture me on my relationships. No matter how busy I am, I always have sex and I will always find time for sex, everything else is an excuse. You don't have sex - well, get together with someone like you, and don't torture people with normal libido. And now what, who wants to have sex has no mind and his level is low ?! And those who don't want sex are eternally misunderstood geniuses, rejected by everyone else - it sounds like an understanding of the world of the average teenager.
The situation is not just cooling down, but a kind of satiety for sure. However, you have every right to demand regular consumption of your relationship / marriage. She takes you for granted, maybe she doesn't want you to leave her, but she should try harder if that's the case. After regular refusals on her part, no one has the right to judge you if you seek your pleasure elsewhere. I hope she realizes in time that she will then start wondering where she went wrong, so that you can look for other entertainment outside of your relationship.
Maybe she is asexual (no desire for sex or has a very great desire for sex) she may be the first But every woman has such a period, I personally have had :)
Man, you just have to ask the question ... I know that most people here gossip nonsense "if you love her, drive a lifetime of qi ... etc." But they're not in your place, you know - on someone else's back and 100 sticks are few. I've had girlfriends who aren't much into sex - it's not a trick. Sex is the most important thing and it is the basis of everything, and before they decided to burn me at the stake - I will explain: It happened that I did not have a girlfriend for about 2-3 months and I survived without sex. But to have a girl next to you and still be without sex - is no longer sustainable. You go out, you see pretty girls everywhere, scantily clad, commercials with pretty girls, you go out in pairs, your friends push each other with their girlfriends and it all kills you. You become nervous, irritable, you start looking at girls who you wouldn't normally pay attention to. It's just AD. I quickly ended such relationships. I start first with good, I try to talk, I explain to them what I wrote above, that it is not easy for us men, to go with a nice girl at hand and nothing happens and if no consensus is reached - you go you are.
What if you thought that a woman could just be depressed, unhappy, stressed and have a lot of problems and that sex is her last concern at the moment? And no, she doesn't want to leave you because she obviously loves you, but at the moment you don't understand that she needs a friendly shoulder, not sex. Admit it, honestly, that when you have a serious problem and you do not want sex. So instead of harassing her, be kind to her and try to help her overcome her problems. You will see how sex will work then. However, while her head is smoking from thousands of other serious problems, there is no way.
What priorities it was, these two just don't match. In a relationship, if sex is lame, things start to compromise. What did you twist on pseudo-moral theories?
She may just not have that cool sex with you. I say it from personal experience. And the reasons for this you have to figure out for yourself what they are - size, routine, lack of passion, bad game, she wants slow, you want fast, fast ending and so on. I've been in her situation, but one-on-one as you describe it. The man was worth it, and that's why I was with him. But the nipple was bad. Sometimes I didn't feel anything and over time I lost desire. I've always been very crazy and I wanted to every day. With everyone without him! Once a month I wanted to go with him, and since I can't stand it anymore, I want it myself. Otherwise, I didn't tell him directly what problems he had so as not to injure him. I said it was from the years maybe. I'm not 18. Or maybe from stress and hormones.
You hurt her with something. Yes, I am one of them, he ruined everything, ruined the relationship with lies and then prayed for his return. Yes, he is with me only because he sucks like a small child, but for a year the desire for sex has not been with me and will not return! It just hurt me and that's it!
Um, in my opinion, either you don't arouse her, or she's complex about something and her desire for sex totally evaporates with every intimacy with you. If she doesn't want French caresses, then something is definitely wrong with her. Maybe she's one of those women who worries about smelling underneath? In my opinion, the problems are due to complexes.
Yes there is and no one wants to be with them. Unless you suffer from your love "irrevocably in love virgin" look for another girlfriend. Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship, but it is too important not to take place at all.
№3, it's not as normal as you think. Just because sex is not a priority does not mean that a person is at a higher spiritual level, and vice versa. The reasons why it is not so important can be very different and one of them can be the one you have in mind. But I still think that it can be the cause of really very spiritually advanced. Somehow I doubt that this case is exactly like that, and the author himself says that in the beginning it was not so - this chick either developed rapidly or the reason is quite prosaic ...
she's probably cold to you, for some reason, just watch her, I had an acquaintance who didn't even want to touch him, otherwise she ran to the bathroom to cool off ... there's a reason, but what is it .... not everything is said and shares ....
Well, she probably doesn't enjoy having a lover or having any health problems. Maybe if there's something serious he doesn't want to tell you so you don't have to worry. Sit with her and talk and ask seriously about her problems. If she doesn't, try to find out for yourself. It doesn't matter if there are such women, it is important to understand what your girlfriend has.