I am a 15 year old girl. Last summer I met a boy (I'll call him X) at a pool ... Anyway. We later became boyfriends. We wrote to each other at the beginning every day, because the pool was not in Sofia, X returned to Sofia 1 week before me. It was the beginning of September and I also returned to Sofia. He said he wanted to see me ... Then he said he was busy, that his mother had punished him, etc. In the end, I got tired of these excuses because I knew they were a lie. After all, it was summer, there's no way he didn't have even 20 free minutes to see me. I broke up with him ... Then he asked for a second chance and I foolishly gave it to him (please don't judge me for this, I just want advice). I got along with him because I think everyone deserves a second chance. The story repeated itself ... He arranged meetings again, he didn't come, he postponed them at the last moment ... I had to leave him again because there was no development here .. The problem was my strong feelings .. After about 20 days he started asking me if I still had feelings .. We fixed our relationship. We saw each other twice ... My question at the moment, do you think it's normal ... Two people who live in two neighboring neighborhoods to see each other 3 times in 8 months .. On the one hand, it sounds silly to be with such a person and on the other hand I really have feelings. It may be affection, obsession, but I really care about this boy. Something I really can't figure out: Suddenly he stops writing. I can accept that he is busy to see me, but I don't understand that he is constantly online and super rarely remembers to write. He wants us to have sex. Talk about it all the time ... But it's good how it could happen to a person I've known for 8 months, and I have seen 3 times. Even if I was addicted to doing it, how can it be that we don't go out? And the worst, most insidious thing is that when I decide to leave him, he starts: I love you. You're everything to me. I don't want to lose you. a girl I really love If you leave me I'll kill myself I'm made for you Well .. What can I do ... I don't understand if he's sincere or just says it so I don't dump him .. If I stay with him the story repeats itself , if I break up with him, I feel guilty that he dumps a person who said similar words to me .. And now we are in the situation that only I write to him, he answers sometimes, other times he leaves me blue and when I try to stop everything, he starts with the same lines ... And I ask you what to do.? ... Does that make sense or not? Please no insults, criticism, etc .... I just need your help ....
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These words are his clichés. I think he's lying to you. Are you sure he lives where he told you he lived? If the place of residence is true, then I don't see what his problem is to see each other, and of course money is a problem ... So if he really loves you, he won't play you like a monkey and make you a fool. You have to ask him why he does that. But you could have known / worse - to wait for him at the meeting place and not to come and turn off his phones or not to pick up even more humiliated and ridiculed, you will feel. He's still napping. Now are the best years for you to flirt and tremble if this and that like you, because it's for you to lose them with this confused boy. Talk about it
Honey, you're still young and there's no point in wasting your time with fools. And sex, wow, you're still young, as I see, he only wants sex and that's why he pretends to be busy, because he doesn't want a real relationship, but a fuck and the road. You better look after your education, not who to deal with.
For example, I don't go out with friends or boys. My parents worry a lot about me and don't let me go anywhere, but I don't have a problem with that. Obviously, the reason is different. If it's still online, and it doesn't write to you, and it wants you to do it ... You don't have to do it, and it's better to wait another 3-4 years. He may be honest, but I think he's just bluffing so you don't break up with him. There are boys who only use their girlfriends and want to do it (There was a similar story on this site, about a 12-year-old girl who became a boyfriend with a seventh-grader and did it the same day - and this 12-year-old got pregnant ...). But there are also boys who are honest and intelligent, boys who will love you. You will find such a boy, don't worry! Don't feel guilty, your current boyfriend probably just wants to use you, but you won't let him!
There is an important lesson that we women are good at learning - it doesn't matter what he says, it matters how he acts. Deeds are important, not words. According to his deeds, he hangs you and does not want you to see each other. It doesn't matter what he writes to you. Drop it and find someone who will want to be real with you. He lies to you and hopes for sex, and then he'll dump you. They don't deal with it.
You better break up with him. This is obviously rubbish that gram doesn't care about you. The fact that he writes you this nonsense is just a sign that he wants to keep you just to make intimate contact, and if he doesn't like you, he will never look for you again. And what future do you see with him? As a boy, I would tell you that if he really liked you, he would write to you every time he was online.
These are children's stories. They are stupid, but sometimes you will have a lot of fun with how bad you were. It's not such a drama, it will pass you both. Don't have sex with him, it's just not worth it.
I'm 20, I've been through the same things at your age. Get away from this one, even if you sleep with it, then it will block you or worse - it will spread to everyone and you will get glory. The latter is especially dangerous if you are not from a big city or you have a lot of mutual friends. Of course, it is completely absurd not to see each other for 8 months / 3 times is nothing /. Do not believe in words, but in actions. I am currently going with a boy who is 16 / yes, the difference is not small /, but the attitude is completely different - he appreciates me, respects me, looks for me, we write to each other every day, we go out at the first opportunity / every week 2 -3 times /, because I often travel to Sofia, he also doesn't study in our hometown, when I have a problem he helps me, he always LISTENS to me / !!! /, for me this is very important. He never forced me to do something I didn't want to do, we slept in the same bed without being pressured for sex if I didn't want to. He showed me to his parents and all his friends, we go out with them. And he is 16. I used to like a boy who is as big as me, I have never seen this attitude - he was ashamed of me, because his friends, who are not even like him, told him nonsense about me when we were in high school , and he himself knew that he was interested, but he was very much influenced by people. I always congratulated him on his birthdays and names, he doesn't know when and for sure. So do your math. Over the years, I have been very humiliated and have endured all sorts of humiliating treatment in the name of my strong feelings, but now, if I could go back in time, I would give just such advice to myself when I was 15- 16 - TO KNOW THE PRICE !! Every girl and woman should know this. Success!
Darling is familiar to me, but it's worse for me. So did I, we just met in a game, but we haven't seen each other. He knew formal things about me, but in the beginning we wrote as friends. I didn't feel anything and we wrote to each other, he stopped and I called him fuck him. Then he comes with the excuse that he was somewhere and that he was punished for something. I didn't ask him for an excuse, but. Then if you give yourself Facebook, I want your bodies. Finally, I deleted my account from this game. Good thing I didn't give anything away, otherwise. Abe dumped him if he wanted to be with you, but he didn't. Get him a fuck and bye. And that he wants sex, isn't he insolent.
He plays you and shows himself. Blinded by your own feelings, you probably aren't able to see it on your own, or rather you don't want to. Besides, he keeps asking you about sex ... think about it, isn't that all he wants? It's best to dump it, but once and for all. Be strong. Only then will your decision be safe.