Hello, the topic is aimed more at the ladies reading the site, but of course I will be interested to hear the opinion of other men. The next situation - a man is crazy about you, he is in love, you like him outwardly, but his character is not what you are looking for in the man next to you. Accordingly, there is no "chemistry" and you are not attracted to it. At the same time, however, you can talk to him, he respects you, you are calm and you are cool. The man has accepted that things will not work out, but of course it is clear that if they do, he will be happy and will not give you back. Is it possible over time to change things and look at such a person with different eyes. Would you even sit next to such a person? I am in a similar situation. After 3 years of friendship, I fell in love, confessed and expected to fly into oblivion, but the girl constantly shows that she cares about me, that I am important to her and she does not want to lose me. I don't want to either, but I suffer a little because I want her, I want her a lot. She likes me as a person and we supported each other, probably that's why she wants us to have a relationship ... I don't know. Things are mutual, I'm sure he's not using me. What do you think and do you think it's worth it at all? I don't think so, but he feels what to do. We are 23, if that matters. Thanks! :)
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Friendship can easily turn into a love affair, so what's weird? Still, the girl has been booked so far and I think she's compromising. She has good feelings for you, but she hardly faints for you. and to have a relationship. In principle, even those who faint for someone, there is always something they do not accept.
It's different for each person, author ... I'll tell you about me. When my husband and I met in the beginning, I was not in love with him at all. There were no butterflies in his stomach and no emotions. I just liked him as a cheerful man, with a great sense of humor, kind. He was madly in love. And very persistent. Over time, feelings arose in me as well. We have been married for many years, we have a happy and harmonious marriage, I know I can count on him for everything. For a moment, I did not regret my decision to marry him. He is my greatest luck in life. And I know people who have married with crazy love, who have been divorcing for a few years. Of course, there are those who marry with love and survive as families. But I can't understand your question - from what I read I think you both have feelings for each other. What is the problem really?
You have her respect. Now you are absolutely ready to have her love. Good luck on the difficult path to your fit!
She has not been a girl for a long time, and clarify their relationship. Or do you want to drive like that for 2, 5 or 10 years? If he likes you, if he cares about you, he will admit everything to you and give you a final answer, not to behave like a student. At the age of 23, life is ahead of you, should you limit yourself to a minimum and wait for the unknown? If you thought things were mutual, would you write on my site? !!