Hello, I am a girl in my early 20s and although I often travel to Bulgaria, I live and study abroad for most of the year. Some time ago I had returned to Sofia for a few days and quite by chance I met a boy online and since then we have been writing to each other, but we never managed to see each other and postponed for the next time. We write to each other regularly, almost every day (he usually starts the conversations first), we used to chat for 7-8 hours and we went to bed at dawn. It's a lot of fun and it's obvious that we both enjoy it. So far so good, not much left until I get home for longer and in the meantime we can keep in touch and have video calls that are closest to a real experience. The problem is that I'm not convinced if I'm the only one who has an "interest". I am a busy person, I work and study at the same time, I play sports, I am social, I like to travel, which means that apart from him I don't have time to deal with others in this way, but as far as I know he has more time. Does the fact that we write to each other every day looking for me and spending hours talking talk to him that he doesn't deal with anyone else? When I like someone and start investing time and emotions, it means that I dedicate myself to the person. I have no expectations, I would not take him into account if he writes and meets others, but I want to have some attitude and know if I myself should be open to other possibilities. Lately we have started to touch on sexual topics and there is a fear that he may be mainly sexually interested in me, but he looks good and in that case he does not need to spend all this time writing to me as he can find someone more nearby. My questions are: In your opinion, are his intentions serious, are there meetings with others and is it advisable for me to be interested in others myself, and not to be so devoted? If I ask him directly, I don't want him to think I'm holding him accountable. Thanks in advance!
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Do you seriously think that someone here might even be close to knowing the answer to your question? Just ask him, it's perfectly normal! If you don't want to seem to control it or anything like that, formulate the question correctly. How can moments of sincerity be such a difficult thing to achieve ...
Hello to the author. Let's be honest - the boy certainly writes to other girls. From this, however, it cannot be concluded what and how serious his intentions towards you are. However, you have not seen each other, except for online chat and video connection ... For most men, sex is very important, as well as for women, but for them the feelings are leading, until in men they occur later. There are always exceptions, such as love at first sight, if you are a super romantic or suffering from unrequited love. Without actually meeting this person and not going out on a few dates, you can't really get to know him. In the chat everyone can be anyone !!! This is a virtual space and there you see only the cream. That's why first-person contact is the thing that will tell you what kind of person the boy is. There are no fortune tellers here in the forum, to judge him and tell you what his intentions are. Go out, get to know each other and so on ... I wish you success, but keep in mind that a relationship from a distance is a complicated thing. Greetings. > М. 32г <
I don't think you're indifferent to him
If you haven't mentioned to him that you will return to Bulgaria by now, do it and ask him if he wants and is free to see you. Everything will be clear from his answer, and even more so if and if you meet. - scorpion.
I think the boy is in love with you, don't miss him
Until you see each other and decide together that you are something more, do not close other possibilities. As far as I understand, you haven't even seen each other live yet. Things can be very different on the internet. So my advice is to keep in touch as soon as you are attracted, but don't cheer that you are more until you specify it. G30
I would like to answer you, but I do not have a magic ball and it is impossible. The same goes for anyone else reading and commenting on your story. I can only tell you that even the busiest people, as long as they want to, will find a way to lie to you. If married men / women manage to find time for infidelity, what prevents a man in another country from marrying other women? It depends on him. That's why many people are skeptical of long-distance relationships. He may be more attached to you, or he may not take you to heart at all. Your relationship is your job, you know it. It would be easiest to ask him if he is dating other women. Think of a way to ask this question normally. The good news is that you don't have to deal with others at all. There are many men and women with enough free time for outings, but with no desire at all. Talk to the boy, be honest and clarify the situation between you. It is complicated enough that you do not live in one country, and various ambiguities in your relationship will only further harass you.