It's as if I'm frozen and can't do almost anything that requires some proactivity. I do my daily things, but I need external stimuli to become active for something different that requires some effort from me. I had a very busy and demanding job, I replaced it with something much calmer and physically I feel very good, but mentally I was completely confused. At the moment I do mostly things that I like and I just panic when I have to do something new or I'm not sure about. I didn't have this problem before. I thought that after I left and minimized the unpleasant experiences I would overcome the stress, but I feel so helpless and stiff and absolutely unable to change anything in my life.
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Your story is extremely familiar to me and I partly recognize what I have written. I recognize what I was a year or two ago. There is something I call pleasant stress. It is "stress" that activates you, makes you feel strong, adaptable and productive. In fact, it burdens you in a pleasant way. There are still small annoyances, you still think about various small problems, you work hard, you try and these are stressful elements, but you are mentally satisfied and you have the desire to cope. Some time ago I fell into various nervous states caused by stress, it was like a constant panic. I removed the stressors from my life, but then I fell into a slight weightlessness, I had no direction, I was still afraid, I was just not busy and it was as if I was inactive. I was not well, I was physically alive, I had emotionally stabilized, but I was far from happy. I started to get this useful stress in moderate doses. I did things that I enjoyed, but I challenged myself and stepped out of my comfort zone. So my comfort zone began to expand, my boundaries shifted significantly, and I felt more productive. Not only did I do different things, but I felt satisfied that I was doing it and I managed to accomplish small goals one by one. It is very bad to be without direction and to stop in one place. It may be convenient for you, but it's as if you're not living your life. I understand this feeling well, I struggled with it a lot. When you are under stress for a long time, your first job is to eliminate stress or reduce it to a minimum. Your second task is to find activities that make you feel alive and challenge you. The challenges are sometimes scary, but as long as they are desired, they help us upgrade. If you do not fight fear, he is a winner. The confidence that we are doing something builds up with attempts to improve our skills. Do these attempts for things you are not sure about. As for the others you can't handle at all. Give yourself some time, make an easy plan from very small steps and start working gradually to learn. No one is born with knowledge, one tries, learns, makes mistakes and thus becomes good in one's endeavors. Accept that it is perfectly normal not to handle everything, but make the necessary efforts. make an easy plan from very small steps and start working gradually to learn. No one is born with knowledge, one tries, learns, makes mistakes and thus becomes good in one's endeavors. Accept that it is perfectly normal not to handle everything, but make the necessary efforts. make an easy plan from very small steps and start working gradually to learn. No one is born with knowledge, one tries, learns, makes mistakes and thus becomes good in one's endeavors. Accept that it is perfectly normal not to handle everything, but make the necessary efforts.
I am the same. I feel empty for new ideas at work, and when someone tells me to learn something new to replace a colleague ... and ... guess what's going on :( White spot, I can't learn anything new ...
Once the stress really crushes you then it gets scary. I speak from personal experience.