Hello. I know most of you find this funny, but it's a huge problem for me already. I'm a good looking girl, a lot of people tell me I'm beautiful and stuff (and I'm not talking about relatives and friends), but I don't know why men just don't take me down, and it's all just a little flirtation. There is no such thing as a bold download that leads to more serious things. I don't know if the problem is in me or if I refuse them. I'm quite broad-minded and because I communicate mostly with boys, I know that I entertain them and they like to talk to me. And yet that's all - friendly jokes. Over the years, I cut off a lot of guys, I had relationships that were short-lived, because I was always looking for the perfect one and I found flaws in others. When I realized. (I realized that no one is perfect) and I began to accept the shortcomings of men, they could no longer accept mine, namely - virginity. So far, 3 boys have refused to have sex with me when they found out that I am a virgin (one even in bed ..) ... what about a relationship, for example. The worst thing is that this already complicates me a lot. I started to worry about talking to boys about such topics and making sexual jokes with them because I'm a virgin. k. and congested, apparently, in the eyes of today's men. And the worst part is that everyone thinks I'm super experienced, and when they understand how things are, their shocked faces just crush me. And the situation is getting worse ... from these complexes I have the feeling that I am starting to become strange and isolated, which worries me even more. Can anyone share if he had a problem of this sort and how he coped ... or at least give me some advice, I will be very grateful.
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Being a virgin does not mean that you are congested. And if they give up on you because of that, then they don't love you enough. I think you have to wait for the right person to show up.
Until recently, it was normal to marry a virgin. Either change your friends or become like them.
Your biggest mistake is that you consider your virginity a flaw. I understand he was 30, but you're 21. For God's sake ... I did it at 23 with my first boyfriend, which I caught at 22, I'm now 24. And my boyfriend was 26 then and had a lot of experience. It's all up to the boy ...
You have nothing to worry about, I don't know what are these guys who would refuse to sleep with you or have a relationship because you are a virgin. In fact, girls your age who have not passed 5-6 people are now rare and I would say that they are even something valuable and difficult to find. You just haven't met the person who appreciates it. M 22
In my opinion, a person who really loves you and cares for you would not matter to him whether you are a virgin or not. Now you obviously do the opposite - first a dump, sex, and only then possibly a relationship. I don't think that's a good option, but as you say "in the modern world", maybe it really is. And there is another option - why not open yourself? I know there are ways, and if you don't hold fast to a prince "tearing off your flower" - just act! Now, about experience - it is achieved only through practice. There is simply no other way.
Somehow I don't believe this ... why would anyone be shocked by a virgin girl ... Now there may be someone else ... but it's so massive ... I would take it only as a signal to be more careful , not that I'm generally not careful ... but to give up - absurd!
When you fall in love there are feelings on the other side and yours, if you refrain from today's perversions, vulgarity and hold back, you will see gratitude in the eyes of the boy and will go out with you with pride, not to worry, not to see boys who have teased you from left to right. Another issue is not to catch up (I don't know what kind of person you are), but virgin women are a diamond nowadays, and in the past it was something completely normal and no, you are not congested, you are a diamond!
You don't care at all! Act like you're not, but when things get serious with a boy, admit it to him, and if he cuts you off, the loss is at his expense!
Well, do you refuse whistles? Something smells in the whole story;))
No advice can give you you have to feel it and that you want it to happen the boy will only find you and fuck as much as you want. Михаил 36г.
Eeeh, why no one is looking for love, trust, matching. Why no one is looking for the magic of falling in love. What does it matter if someone is a virgin, a virgin. ...
"So far, 3 boys have refused to have sex with me after realizing that I am a virgin, let alone a relationship." I always thought that first a relationship was made, and then sex. I'm obviously old-fashioned, especially since I'd rather be in a relationship with a virgin girl.
My advice is not to say you're a virgin if that's the only obstacle. Grandpa Torbalan
Fake topic everywhere. Some injured rift, now a topic in which men refuse sex with a girl because it's a virgin .... yes, for sure.
Thank you very much for the kind words of some of the commenters. For those who found it strange that "they refuse me sex, let alone a relationship" I meant that nowadays most boys on 3-4 dates push them for sex and in fact first comes sex, then love ... and I will not comment on this about the whistles. I don't think it's adequate to give blowjobs without having sex :) From the author.
I'm one of those freaks who gives back when they hear "I'm a virgin." You swear all the time, here I am - one of them. Why? Well, because the first one is always remembered, it stays for a lifetime, right? That is, the girl you opened automatically cuts off your way to retreat, puts a moral brake on you "I am your most valuable, and you ...". Whether there will be a long relationship or not is a matter of development, it is not something that can be determined in the initial stage, when it is the first sex between the two. That is why I prefer to move backwards without additional moral commitments.
17 that why be a freak? The fact that you don't want to have sex with a virgin doesn't make you like that, it's your choice, so it would be mine if I were a boy. Basically, those who opened them first happen to behave like that, because it's just their first time, first sex, maybe first relationship, but even so these things depend on the two to say "I to you the most - you are valuable, and you ... ".
Horror! To be denied sex for being a virgin. It's like you're a leper! I was horrified to read this! But don't worry, you will find the person who is for you. Do not give up. And even if you remain a virgin, for example at 26-27, still do not despair! And number 5 is right, if someone really cares about you, they won't leave you for being a virgin. This is not a disability, it is not a sign of congestion. And I wonder how there are so many beauties who are alone, virgins, etc. And it is very strange that for such beautiful virgins there are no men to fall in love with them. I wish you a soon discovery of love!
My wife was a virgin when I met her, at the age of 21, and two of her friends did it at the age of 22 or 23. Tip - don't blow the whistle on someone you don't have a relationship with. M36
Our old grandmother can't stop writing about sex. She always spits on men, but this time she changes her approach. The fact that three boys refuse her sex (even one in bed) but how can she not be dissatisfied. Are these men, freaks? To refuse sex to a virgin girl and a beauty. Here is how she changes the option to spit on men with her sick Roma psyche. I can't imagine how the men commenting here can be so naive that they go so far as to be stupidly naive. This author has published so many similar topics and it never occurs to anyone that the author is the same. Only Number 15 realized that the topic was fake everywhere. If a person can make an analysis of everything stated in the topic, he will understand that the topic was invented from end to end only and only to accuse the men of being moldy. This is the author's goal. And you number 7, not knowing what kind of person the author is, stop telling her that he is a diamond. You also called her a diamond in other topics where she pretended to be a virgin. Apparently you are a virgin yourself, that's why you value virginity so much. With your naive brain, can you assume that the author is not 21 years old? and is 62 years old. and you are mocked. And you are 62 years old. grandma you say it's a diamond. Grow up and be transparent, as long as you expose yourself with your diamonds. Shame. Moderators, please post my comment. as long as you expose yourself with your diamonds. Shame. Moderators, please post my comment. as long as you expose yourself with your diamonds. Shame. Moderators, please post my comment.
Most likely, men are afraid of cutting them off. Or that you already have a boyfriend. When you say they consider you beautiful. This is good, however, you can choose who you are with, you just have to offer with the one you want. And no, it's not like you're 21 and you haven't done it. There is nothing wrong with that. If you find a decent boy, even if only to do it, you have to give a decent one. Because as you tell him you didn't do it, he has to spoil you. Not to take advantage, not to laugh at you, to show understanding, to lead you. To say what you like and what you don't without being ashamed. Yes, even the first time. He takes you as an example and strokes you somewhere, but you don't like that. Say it! Do not give up! Keep looking for the one who will understand and will not be afraid of such a ridiculous thing! It is very clear that they will be shocked. If you're pretty most will think that you have done it for a long time and many times! You need to find someone who has enough brains to understand that girls your age who are beautiful can still be virgins. You are not strange calmly! The strange thing is relative. Different things are strange for everyone! For some this is normal, for others it is strange. That shouldn't bother you.
So they are just looking for sex for one night. In other words, if you are a virgin and they lie down with you (at least such a thing is remembered at least for the girl) they think that they will have glue, you will fall in love with the boy in question, and he doesn't care about you being another number. Wait for the right boy best not just at any cost. I was 18 when I did, all my friends had passed at least 20 boys by then. And of course I seemed clogged to others. But I waited, I wanted him to be the right boy. And I did it with my first and last boyfriend :) and soon a husband. We have been behind for 3 years now, there is no such happiness.
Those who refused were not men at all!
Number 21, not all men are as naive as you think. "Grandma" writes from at least 5 IP addresses, comments from a male point of view, and broadcasts topics posing as a man. And why you're doing it you're not quite right, there are other reasons. Because you're not "stupidly naive," he thought to himself.
Virgin girls over 20 do not have girls at once. These are girls with whom a lasting relationship is built, they value their partner. That's why they are diamonds. Girls who started early and by the age of 20 have accumulated numbers and let go easily, not that they can't get into a long-term relationship, but they already have the psychology to change partners. Therefore, a virgin girl of that age would not do it if she knew that the boy did not have serious intentions. And these three boys obviously didn't have any. Mine, for example, was a virgin at 23, and she lived alone in Student City. Well, she's a diamond, she's been my wife for years now.