Hello. I will be brief. I am 33 years old, a woman. I've never had a serious relationship in my life. My longest relationship was 9 months. The men who came into my life had something in common: they loved their ex-girlfriend, and it's unacceptable for me to serve as an object that helps you forget an old great love. Another problem was their excessive jealousy of me. A few words about me: I follow hygiene, I exercise moderately and I am well financially. I have always strived for a serious relationship since I entered puberty, but maybe that's why I failed to establish such a relationship. I want to have a calm and good relationship and family now. If it were up to me, I would have many children, I am definitely very family oriented. But I'm afraid I'm very late, because at the age of 33 I don't know if I can meet anyone anymore, and even if I do meet there is no guarantee that something can happen. I don't know how others manage to meet someone and easily start relationships and start families. For me, this is a mission impossible. I rule out as an option just to be with someone to have a family. There must be some love and mutual respect so that we do not create and raise unhappy and mentally unstable children. I hope to get feedback on what I can do to change my situation. Please, no advice on appearance: I am an average-looking woman and I am already doing everything necessary to get the most out of what nature has given me. Thanks! I don't know how others manage to meet someone and easily start relationships and start families. For me, this is a mission impossible. I rule out as an option just to be with someone to have a family. There must be some love and mutual respect so that we do not create and raise unhappy and mentally unstable children. I hope to get feedback on what I can do to change my situation. Please, no advice on appearance: I am an average-looking woman and I am already doing everything necessary to get the most out of what nature has given me. Thanks! I don't know how others manage to meet someone and easily start relationships and start families. For me, this is a mission impossible. I rule out as an option just to be with someone to have a family. There must be some love and mutual respect so that we do not create and raise unhappy and mentally unstable children. I hope to get feedback on what I can do to change my situation. Please, no advice on appearance: I am an average-looking woman and I am already doing everything necessary to get the most out of what nature has given me. Thanks! I hope to get feedback on what I can do to change my situation. Please, no advice on appearance: I am an average-looking woman and I am already doing everything necessary to get the most out of what nature has given me. Thanks! I hope to get feedback on what I can do to change my situation. Please, no advice on appearance: I am an average-looking woman and I am already doing everything necessary to get the most out of what nature has given me. Thanks!
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I think you think things through too much and that's why you don't get connections.
That's why you didn't find the right person. I will only tell you that the evangelical churches are full of young people and young men just like you. People with the right understanding looking to marry a woman to the end. To give her everything and to take care of her and to have children and to love them. Such are the people there. They don't smoke, they don't drink, they don't beat, they don't swear. Gentlemen and respectful people who will help everyone at any time.
Pray! And believe me! You will meet him soon!
Up to 2 Pray to get out of the sects quickly
You do not say! To look for men in discos (the author is an old woman there), on websites (almost hopeless images), in dance courses and schools, I know, but in church it did not occur to me. Very innovative. I'm just a little wondering why the beautiful gentlemen there haven't gotten women and girlfriends so far?
I'll tell you as an engaged woman. First - accept that great love as in the movies is probably something very rare, 1 in 100. Wanting a family can not like everything in your partner - whether something in appearance or character, it will always be something. I think you have very high criteria. For example, I love the person next to me, but there are a lot of things that irritate me in him.
Oh finally, someone like me ... Honey, I understand you and I'm the same way. Safe from exes, safe from being a consolation and a screen to move on to the next one with which to start a family. Like you, I play sports, work and try to look more than good. I know .... just when you meet someone ask him when he ended his last long relationship and if there is still something to the former, not that he will tell you "yes, I have not forgotten her", but at least you will know that if he broke up with her more than a year ago, he was more likely to have forgotten her. I'm tired of men with emotional burdens from ex ...
number 2, why are you telling her to go to evangelical churches. She is an atheist and does not want to hear about religions or go to church. Absurd.
Be sociable, open to people. Aren't there familiar men who you like visually and are free? In the online space?
From the author: Thank you very much for the comments on numbers 2 and 3, which warmed my soul and gave me hope. Of course, in addition to encouragement, I also accept constructive criticism, I would provide additional information if there are specific questions. I do not know how some of the commenters (I am referring to number 9) decided that I was an atheist: this could not be further from the truth. I believe that faith in God and prayer combined with right actions give the best results. The point is that my current situation clearly shows that I did not choose the right actions. It will be interesting to hear side opinions. I see that there are comments awaiting approval. I sincerely hope they are not attacks on other commenters, because it does not help anyone. Thanks.
That these today's women after 35 are starting to look for a serious relationship, don't despair like that ... But special ... "skills" are required after that age. You can get ideas from a neighboring topic "Pregnancy through fraud" ... Otherwise, more seriously, it is nowadays. There can be no serious relationships or even serious friendships, just because we live a frivolous life. As the saying goes, we are born with a silver spoon in our mouth, especially for most - it is quite obvious to them, and as there are no serious problems to fight in life - there is no serious attitude. In the past, friendships were born at the front, and people died to protect their families and children. Today they are soaking on Facebook, and the "drama" is who "liked" whom or what photo they uploaded. Unfortunately, this social decay affects mostly children. While our generation at least saw something like culture, as values, as goals (but in general did not "drink" who knows what), today's children who are born see only what we have today. Believe me, if you have any moral values, you don't want to have children ... Personally, I am sufficiently aware of myself and life to know that I don't want to ... Otherwise, how to catch someone more normal. No idea ... In my opinion, a normal person nowadays can only be a nihilist. Maybe you should look at the "controlled abnormality." In this category I would put various religious people, such as those who appeared here. The good thing is that you can relatively easily enter these circles and sing kumbaya together. You just have to teach them 2-3 mantras to repeat, and people will like you, even real ... Or at least more real than those on Facebook ...
Author, I fully understand you, I am M28 and your post written in this way is enough for me to find similarities in your thinking with mine. I posted a topic in the same section "Beauty, corruption and elegant decline" read it and you will understand I hope what a similarity I am talking about and if you like what is written in it I would like to exchange contacts!
I am a man of 33, without ever having a serious relationship, I play sports moderately, I am looking for love, I am financially well, generally like you, but I am a man. If we fail to start a family, we will have to find another meaning in life, but what?
Number 9, how do you know what the author's religious beliefs are when she didn't mention them anywhere? I ask out of curiosity. Author, you say you always come across the same type of men. This is unlikely to be a coincidence. Think about what attracts you to a man. What was your family like as a child, have you ever had the wrong pattern that you unconsciously repeat? If you find it difficult to self-analyze, you can try a psychologist. Get a list of the qualities you are looking for in a man and what you would definitely not accept. This way, in black and white, it will be easier for you to sift through what you are looking for. Love is successful when the heart and mind in sync give you the green light. Success!
Number 15, I'm number 8 let's meet
Listen to the Finnish alternative band Poets Of The Fall. It is very in tune with the thoughts of № 13, for example :)
You're a little late. You can no longer change. You have built other priorities so far that hinder you now. Well, that's what it's called to never learn to be a WOMAN. Here, the result is that you still think that everything is fine and the problem is in men. We are all like that, you know! You are very sweet to me as you begin to describe yourself, as a child. It's like being on a low-quality dating site or filling out lexicons. I don't know where you've lived so far, but you definitely disagree with reality on many points. But what you sow you will reap. I think at this point it will be easier for you to start coming to terms with the fact that you will never have children and that you will never have a family. This will make it easier for you. Also, at least you will not make other more fatal mistakes in your life, in which you will involve other born and unborn people.
In my opinion, once you come across the same type of men, you have most likely built up a system of false beliefs through which you are attracted to them. In my opinion, it is best to: 1. Do not think that it will fall from the sky. Go to school, play sports, expand your contacts 2. Write on a piece of paper what are your values, such as self-determination, what are your advantages, disadvantages, what do you want from life, what is your goal, what are your plans and dreams; and then write what you want from the man next to you - what qualities, values he should have. This is important because I think you have taken on the role of Mother Teresa, the position of savior, as a result of which you neglect what you want from the man next to you. What you're doing is catching friends who haven't overcome their previous relationship, you're probably comforting them, you serve as a crutch and that brings you ... the feeling that you are useful, that you have helped. I do not know how true what I suppose in point 2 is, but in any case I highly recommend FIRST: 3. Go to a psychotherapist (not a psychologist)! Success!
Love yourself and enjoy life, what will happen, it will happen you just keep wanting things to happen. I am sure you are a wonderful woman, LOVE YOURSELF !!! This is normal for self-care, but my advice is to give it easier, the one who will like you will not like you not only because of your appearance, but also because of your mind, your behavior .... he just will love you !!! Don't accept what fate throws at you, look for what you really want and you will find it
Abe, as long as you talked nonsense, it was too late for 33 ... Late, but another time! Just thinking about it sounds comical. You're filming. Just don't worry about missing something and who knows what will happen by itself ... I'm a woman of 30 and I'm an example of the opposite - I had a great long and meaningful relationship and see where it led. .. A year ago, just before my birthday, my friend, with whom we were happy together for 7 years, dumped me. And ruined our engagement. And guess why - because it was too early (!) For him to commit forever. For the record - he was 30 then ... So, we were supposed to be each other's greatest love, but here's the man thinking. As you can imagine, I roared like crazy for 3 months, I suffered from it and I wanted to be alone for the rest of my life because " fuck him like you used to. What if you stay a little alone ... And what's wrong with the old girls even. Maybe they killed a man, egati ... By the way, a relative of mine, who lost her husband at a young age and was a widow for many years, found a new man at 65 and the old ones have been living together for ten years ... I wish you success from the heart, may you find your man who loves you very much!