Hello, I am a 22-year-old woman. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, he is 21. We are both students. We live in an apartment together. Everything was fine, but I inadvertently became pregnant. When I found out and told him, he seemed happy. However, I am not ready for a child and when I told him that I did not want him, he began to explain to me how he also did not want, but he was happy. He said that we would find a home, that his parents would help in every possible way, and even if he had to, he would find another job. However, I firmly told him that I would remove him, and then his smile evaporated. He told me that no matter how much he loves me, if I have an abortion, everything ends between us. These words of his shook me. I'm not ready for a child, but he wants it and I don't know what to do. I don't think we can take care of a child because I know him even better than myself and I know that we are both not ready. I'm at a crossroads and I don't know what to do - remove the child and lose my loved one, or keep them both, even though I don't feel ready.
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Hello! Like any unexpected pregnancy, you have a shock, you are confused. As much as you are not ready, as long as you want you can handle it. Even if you know him well, once a baby appears, everything changes, he will change himself, just like you! I am very much against abortion. You're killing a life after all! I think that's why your friend told you he'd leave you. A little man to be killed :(. You are not so small. BUT, if you really don't want him, don't give birth to him. He will grow up unloved, he will suffer, when he grows up you will accuse him that you did not live your life as you You have to think very well! Good luck!
Don't make the mistake of having an abortion. Leaving the end of your relationship, although this is very important, of course, the worse thing is that you may lose the ability to have a child forever. Don't do this to yourself, don't make yourself curse cruelly one day for your frivolity. Remember that we are seldom ready to have children in the full sense of the word. And when we are ready, they do not come. And this is because from another place it is decided who, when and whether there will be a child at all. And your friend is right - your gesture tells you that you have no feelings for him. However, I think you still have feelings for him. And if so, take on the challenge that God is giving you and boldly move forward. Everything can be achieved by a person - to have a job, a new home, money and health to some extent, at 40 or 50, but to have a child is not possible by his will - not at 20, and even less at 50.
You just don't realize how much you are benefited when your loved one is ready to accept the child! Usually the opposite is true - the man presses the woman to make a forced throw! On the other hand, the very phrase "get rid of it" makes me shiver! If your mother had decided to "take you away" in time, you would not exist now! You may think that if you kill a child now (and this is pure murder), it is like recovering from a cold, but the truth is that you are doomed to a life of remorse and depression, unless you are a completely dead soul being. Do not be afraid of the future, but bet on love - and you will see how everything will turn out. I admire your loved one, and try to realize how valuable and responsible a person he is!
Keep the child, it will be difficult for you, but this way you will move forward. If you have the support of your parents and love the boy, you will keep the child. This is a great happiness. Many women can't or have struggled for a long time, like me for a child.
Give birth to your baby. Do not kill an innocent little one who is not guilty of anything. One is never "ready" for a child. But when he is born, things take care of themselves. Don't be stupid and cowardly. Dad is right. He also has the word, right? This is also his child. Give birth to your baby. This is the right decision.
Author, can you tell me why you think you're not ready for a child? I also didn't feel ready, financially. But we did it. I had postpartum depression that I didn't realize and thought I didn't love my baby. It was very difficult for me. But little by little, it's getting easier and now my daughter is my whole world. I can't live without her (she's 3 years old). I wish you to make the best decision! And share with us.
Save the child. Even though you're not ready, you'll do it, don't think bad things from now on. You will see how much joy it will bring you, especially since your father wants it. Don't hurt him or yourself. After all, he is also his child and you can't get rid of him on your own, he is a living being. Good luck and you will see that you will succeed.
Author, make your own decision, no one can tell you what to do. I had an abortion, it's hard, but I never regretted it, my situation was different from yours. It is important that the boy wants him, but you listen to yourself, think for yourself, he may say something else tomorrow or disappear. Ask your parents, talk to your friend, the child is not yet a child, but an embryo. Good luck, write what you decided
Get rid of him after you don't feel ready. You are too young! Life is ahead of you! Since he does not want to comply with your desires and needs, imagine what will happen if you give birth to him! Men are in pain. He will not be the first, nor the last one! Make a living, and then think of children!
(The author) I don't think we are ready for a child, because we are both not responsible enough yet. We have created habits that are unsuitable for a child. We like to go to restaurants every free night, to gather with friends constantly, to party. The other reason is financial. We don't have enough money to raise a child, we don't have a permanent home and we are both students. At the moment, our education is in the first place and I think that the child will radically change our way of life, and I like it so much for the moment. I thought he was of the same opinion, but it turns out he wasn't. I don't want to lose him, but I don't want a child.
That's right 10, he doesn't comply with you from now on and tells you that he will leave you, imagine after the birth. If you do not want a child, do not give birth to it, psychological consequences can also have if you do not want it. Do not delay your decision for a long time, there is a term for abortion. And one more thing - protect yourself by not wanting children