Hi, I'm an 18 year old girl .. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and something .. but I'm sure he is my life partner. We haven't taken care of ourselves for a few months now, but we don't aim to get pregnant ... I'm not of any age for a child, but I want it more than anything! So my thought is: someone who can give me advice to do it. Thanks
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I hope your friend is 25 years old to have something to feed this baby. Otherwise, you are in love and you are LOST. Under the influence of hormones, etc., you can actually have a desire for a baby, BUT we do not live in the Middle Ages, and in the 21st century and today we must organize our lives with the mind, not with our work and with hormones. In the 21st century, you as a woman are expected to have a profession, an education, a career, even to be able to eat and be independent. I don't want to scare you, but the Bulgarian woman is not protected by laws and if this man leaves you, you fall into absolute poverty. There is no maintenance for you, and for the child BGN 180. Watch a child with this money! You have another 20 years to have a child. You throw yourself into a huge movie. I am pregnant myself, but I am 32-33 years old already. I have 10 years of experience, maximum maternity, marriage, own home, car, license and I am a graduate. INDEPENDENT OF PARENTS AND HUSBAND Let's see which child has a better chance in life - yours or mine. .
You're late for baby! You should have done it 6-7 years ago. Now seriously! Just because you have a "life partner" doesn't mean you have to start breeding. Learn, work, develop and only then make children so that you can be useful to future children. After 6-8 years when you have gained experience in life, work, when you have become more educated, when you provide your own roof eventually, then give birth, if he is your partner in life then he will also be with you.
She wanted a baby, and if you have no education and no job, how do you think you will look after this baby? Don't you think that yours is obliged to support you and your child? This is not a toy for you to throw aside when you are tired of playing with it, this is a new life for which you are responsible for 18 years ahead and you have to build a good educated and responsible person from a piece of meat in it and you will hardly succeed at this age since you yourself are still a child of reason!
You at least wait to finish, and then make children.
Even though you are only 18, you are ready to give another life. But isn't it too early to have a child? If you have a permanent job or while studying you can work again. What does your friend say? I am 24, I have no children, I work and study at the same time. I hope you are lucky then write how things developed. Success! :)
I will advise the author not to get caught up in the things she writes №1. Things are not as simple as she presents them. You may be really young, but you certainly don't have 20 years to wait. Once you are 30 years old, your chances of getting pregnant decrease with each passing year, and there is also a chance that your baby will be born with a genetic disease. To give you an example I will use myself. When I was born, my mother was 35 and my father was 42 and I have had type 1 diabetes since I was a child. I don't blame them for anything, of course, and that's probably not the only reason, but I just wanted to share. Plus, a person is much more motivated and energetic while in his 20s. Isn't it better to use this energy to take care of a child than to pursue a career that you will most likely leave, so you can look after your child? As №1 said, we must organize our lives wisely. Isn't it better when you are young to have children, to raise them and already at the age of 30-35 to start building a career? That way, you won't interrupt your career to watch the kids. What does it matter what all other people do in the 21st century, we have to think logically! And now some of you will say: "What if her husband leaves her ?! Then what will she do ???? There is no help in Bulgaria, she will live in poverty !?" The solution to this problem is simple: Just find a man who he would not leave you for anything in the world! You need to have the ability to choose the right partner. I don't know what your current partner is and whether it's a good idea to start a family with him, but we're not discussing your boyfriend right now,
I turn to number 1 ... You are very proud that you have this and that, etc. and you think that your child has a better chance than the child of an 18-20 year old girl. You're glad you're independent, etc. (There's nothing wrong with being independent) But! This is not insurance at all for the successful upbringing of a child. Nor to ensure a good future for a child. Do you want to cultivate it with materiality or with love?
You know, I'm 19, I live in another city to study and I really live with my boyfriend. From time to time I think about how cute babies are. I raised my brother from a baby, fed him, changed diapers and played with him on the playground. I have an idea how to look after a child and why this is not an adventure once in a young person's life. Sometimes I imagine having a baby and the thought is kind of sweet, but it's just in my head. These are some hormones, you know. It is one thing to look after your child, to look after your brother or cousin, and quite another to have your own child. These are 24/7 hours of care. Colic, changing teeth, walking, then learning and upbringing ... it's fun and looks easy in the movies, it's good when you do it for a day or two, but to be in your house all the time, to be 18 and not be able to to look at yourself is already a kind of horror. At this stage, I am not completely independent. I moved out, studied regularly, worked part-time, but if I was left alone, if my parents didn't help me and didn't share my food with my friend, I would actually go bankrupt in about a month or two. You can't look after a child if you can't look after yourself.
First complete a course, university or similar to have a profession. Start working to have motherhood. Raising a baby is a difficult job, and there is no guarantee that your husband will not go to another in years to come. Then you will have to feed this child alone. If you are completely ready to take care of the child and feed him, then do it. Otherwise, the man can run away, your parents are up to date.
You can never be sure of something !!! From 2 years, and if you break after the baby, then what? You are too young to raise a child! 1) Finish high school! 2) Start working. 3) Prepare mentally. 4) A secure partner with whom you live together for years. You think like a child, but this is not a baby borne doll, to play with it all day, but a person who needs needs. And with the children come the problems in the family. You have to have an income, not to be like the gypsies, who do not have a month of work experience, but give birth with the attitude that the state will support them. -Grow up girl!
Well, if you write about this in forms, then it's not your time.
At 18 it is EARLY !!! I don't know how old your boyfriend is, but if he's a man under 30, chances are he's not your man. I want to say that men up to the age of 30 are still disoriented, most of them do not know what kind of woman they want, and so on. After the age of 30 (/ - 2-3 years) they become aware and realize their desire for family, settlement, children and so on.
Look now, it doesn't ask when it's written to a person then it becomes a baby! Otherwise he told you very well, number 1! There is simply nothing to add, create a baby when you are ready and INDEPENDENT! Baby is very difficult to look after and this is a big responsibility! Make a baby at least 23-25 years old but at 18 years old to inflate the abdomen is stupid. Wait a little longer ... live a little while the baby comes, you will say many things, but are you ready? !! Only you know the answer ... - Be careful
I became pregnant by my friend, with whom I have been together for 7 years, when I was 22. A student, with a scholarship from the university and future social motherhood. He was supposed to take a fairly normal salary to cover our needs. We thought we could look after a child with this income - yes, but NO !! Now we still don't have enough money. It often happens that I cover the costs myself. He goes out with his friends, and I don't move from home because I can't afford to buy new clothes and I'm ashamed! We fight all the time and the only thing I want to do is take my child and get away from him! Soon ... Well, author, don't make my "mistake"! First find a stable job, with a stable income, only then think about starting a family! :) Because without money, no matter how much two people love each other, there are always problems. Unfortunately...
Give birth! The earlier the better! It's hard to look after a child, but which one is easy? You will watch it, it will grow. Everyone is lucky. Don't procrastinate!
The first comment could not be more accurate. When will the minds of ordinary Bulgarian women come to your mind? !! Already such individuals are starting to disappear a little, but I can't help wondering how stupid you have to be without money, without education, with men who are the absolute brazen complexes and can't be relied on, to even start thinking about kid. And given that in our country 99% are just abandoned, uneducated women barely connecting the two ends, and every day everywhere you see children who do not have a normal life materially and mentally. ж21
Number 1 did not stop bragging .... There is time for everything, of course you have to work before that ... But you don't have to wait for maximum motherhood ...
I am FOR - let her give birth to the girl as she wants. Why do you always dissuade those who want children - they were young, they were old, they were poor, so I don't know what ... but you still find some reason. And those like me who don't want to become parents (I knew that as number 1 - both at 16 and 25, now I'll be 30 and I'm still like that) - just the opposite - you keep drinking on our heads, that this was the most important thing, the best thing, that we would be sorry (but because you really care a lot about us one day if we will be nice and what we will regret). And yes, we were selfish, everyone is selfish to me, albeit for different things. Everyone knows in the end and everyone has the right to do whatever he wants, as long as it does not harm others. If he wants to have children, if he wants no children.
For 5 minutes I have been trying to understand the logic of Homo sapiens from number 1 (as she called herself) and I can't. So if we give birth at 30-40 and are independent of men, parents and all kinds, "the child has a better chance in life", whatever that means. And with all her impudence, she allows herself, in addition to being arrogant, to compare her child with others in an insulting and humiliating way. Doooobre. But if her child is born stupid, incompetent and irresponsible, I do not see what chances there will be at all, but when the so successful number 1 says it, I believe unconditionally. I don't know how successful she was, but the tone of successful people without complexes doesn't sound as aggressive and arrogant as if they're waving a finger. For me, she has either not succeeded at all, or she has succeeded, but from the position of her inferiority complex, from which she has not yet freed herself.
Honey, girl, you're a great age to give birth. Whatever they say (to study, to make a career, to furnish a home ...), know that having a child is the greatest happiness in this world for a woman. Absolutely nothing else can make life meaningful. It is foolish to fly away, because for a woman the biological clock is relentless. Yes, there is time for everything, but for birth it is quite limited.
7, and if her husband dies, what do we do then ...? There are no guarantees for anything in this life!
* Those who supported giving birth, do you have children? And at what age did you give birth to them? * At one time it was normal to be born at the age of 17.18, but now not due to various factors. * Unemployment and lack of money. * Non-permanent partner. * Mental instability and physical unpreparedness. * Once upon a time, from an early age, they studied at work, served rich families, and hence the way to make a living and look after themselves. And then there was poverty, but the current poverty is worse. They had morals, and if a girl is not a virgin, she marries immediately to the one who dishonored her. There were exceptions who had sex to ruin, but then had a hard time getting married. There may not have been a burning love, but men and women were responsible. They suffer the consequences of fun, and they were as young as you, even smaller than you, but no boy has abandoned his wife after becoming pregnant. At one time there was no mental instability so much, because they knew how to avoid disappointment, and they were not allowed ... * Do you live together? * As they wrote above, you can't be 100% sure of anything. If you have lived together for 1.2 years and still love each other so much, it is very possible that you are ready for children, but you are tiny and live your years, because after the child you will not be able to, unless you are a "mother" who regularly he leaves his child with parents and relatives to have fun. * Get at least 23-24 years old, and by the time you get older, start working to gain work experience, to save money for the future child, and to be independent of others. * You don't have a magic ball to know if you will be with your friend for the rest of your life. Looks like you're in love, which isn't bad, but also look at the real side. There are many girls like you who have trusted their friends and end up abandoned and pregnant. Young Bulgarian women abandon their babies in the maternity ward because they are either minors and their parents do not know, or their father abandoned them shortly before birth and they are left alone, without any help except from their parents, but they are so panicked and mentally ill that they decide instantly leave the baby. * A baby can be looked after and you are poor, but if your family helps you in some way, a mother who has never worked alone cannot take care of herself / I am not referring to you /, to look after a baby who requires constant care. * Babies are easy to make, but their whole life depends on the mother. -Maryan Young Bulgarian women abandon their babies in the maternity ward because either they are minors and their parents do not know, or the father abandoned them shortly before birth and is left alone, without any help except from their parents, but they are so panicked and mentally ill that they decide instantly leave the baby. * A baby can be looked after and you are poor, but if your family helps you in some way, a mother who has never worked alone cannot take care of herself / I am not referring to you /, to look after a baby who requires constant care. * Babies are easy to make, but their whole life depends on the mother. -Maryan Young Bulgarian women abandon their babies in the maternity ward because either they are minors and their parents do not know, or the father abandoned them shortly before birth and is left alone, without any help except from their parents, but they are so panicked and mentally ill that they decide instantly leave the baby. * A baby can be looked after and you are poor, but if your family helps you in some way, a mother who has never worked alone cannot take care of herself / I am not referring to you /, to look after a baby who requires constant care. * Babies are easy to make, but their whole life depends on the mother. -Maryan but they are so panicked and mentally ill that they decide to leave the baby immediately. * A baby can be looked after and you are poor, but if your family helps you in some way, a mother who has never worked alone cannot take care of herself / I am not referring to you /, to look after a baby who requires constant care. * Babies are easy to make, but their whole life depends on the mother. -Maryan but they are so panicked and mentally ill that they decide to leave the baby immediately. * A baby can be looked after and you are poor, but if your family helps you in some way, a mother who has never worked alone cannot take care of herself / I am not referring to you /, to look after a baby who requires constant care. * Babies are easy to make, but their whole life depends on the mother. -Maryan
from 1 to 7 You are talking absolute nonsense. I am 33 years old myself and creating a baby was the easiest thing in my life - 1 month of "work". My sister gave birth to a healthy boy of 3600 at the age of 36. Today we are not what people used to be. Today we do not work 24/7 in the field, we have access to medicine and we are in well-air-conditioned offices all day, we eat healthily, we play sports for health. At 33, I'm even healthier than at 18 because I have money for good food. At the age of 18, I fell ill with pneumonia every winter, because once a week we had the most meat, so to speak, and my friend was sick with turbecolosis together with her whole family. But even if we assume that after 30 years, women are almost doomed not to have children - Eh? Is this your number one goal in life? I'd rather not have a child 100 times than have a child, which I am not ready to take care of materially and MENTALLY. I also don't want to doom the little creature to poverty and be dependent on father-in-law and mothers-in-law, grandparents, a man who can break at any time. My grandmother was left a widow at the age of 35 with two small children, but she gave birth at the age of 25 and could still take care of them. At the age of 18, even my GRANDMA did not give birth in a nutshell. My other grandmother gave birth to her first child at the age of 28. This was in the 1950s, and life expectancy at the time was 20 years shorter than it is today. My mother-in-law gave birth to my husband at the age of 39 and she also had no problems getting pregnant, she even had an abortion just before that. Today you are advocating that we give birth at the age of 18, because at the age of 30 you almost expire. And yet - it is not better to give birth at the age of 18, because ZERO is the opportunity to achieve this, which I have achieved if you have children on your shoulders! The only one who gave birth at the age of 19 in my class now works at a gas station, and in the summer she goes abroad in the fields. She was exactly with my success, we both stood on 1 rank and she is not simpler than me at all, but she made this 1 mistake in her life, she stayed in the small town, even today she is divorced and what if she has a 13-year-old child ., and I'm still giving birth? She second child can never afford, I theoretically today and 5 can feed without effort. Hey that's the difference .... Plus I have access to top healthcare and doctors, and she didn't even have money for vitamins during her pregnancy. but she made this 1 mistake in her life, she stayed in the small town, even today she is divorced and what if she has a 13-year-old child and I am still giving birth? She second child can never afford, I theoretically today and 5 can feed without effort. Hey that's the difference .... Plus I have access to top healthcare and doctors, and she didn't even have money for vitamins during her pregnancy. but made this 1 mistake in my life, stayed in the small town, even today she is divorced and what if she has a 13-year-old child and I am still giving birth? She's the second child she can never afford, I theoretically today and 5 can feed effortlessly. Hey that's the difference .... Plus I have access to top healthcare and doctors, and she didn't even have money for vitamins during her pregnancy.
From 7 to 25 You are absolutely right that today we live in a much different and more developed world than in the past. But the fact that technology, healthcare and our way of life has improved does not mean that we are radically different from people 4 centuries ago. Evolution is much slower than that and does not depend entirely on the development of technology. There is enough research to show that giving birth in old age can lead to problems with pregnancy and the baby. I'm really glad your sister gave birth to a healthy 36-year-old boy, but that doesn't mean every woman will be so lucky. Plus, there's nothing wrong with being addicted to a man. Yes, it is true that there are men who will abandon you to chase young women. But there are also women who would abandon their husbands for someone richer or more beautiful. This does not mean, that we must all give up love. We just have to be more careful. :) I also want to add that I did not advise the author to get pregnant this year. I did not advise people to have children before they are mentally and materially ready. I just gave information that giving birth to a woman in her 20s is much better than in her 30s. I'm sorry about your girlfriend, but that doesn't mean every woman will be in such a misfortune. Plus, I don't see what's so bad about relying on your partner and family to raise a child. What's wrong with all of us being one big family? I just gave information that giving birth to a woman in her 20s is much better than in her 30s. I'm sorry about your girlfriend, but that doesn't mean every woman will be in such a misfortune. Plus, I don't see what's so bad about relying on your partner and family to raise a child. What's wrong with all of us being one big family? I just gave information that giving birth to a woman in her 20s is much better than in her 30s. I'm sorry about your girlfriend, but that doesn't mean every woman will be in such a misfortune. Plus, I don't see what's so bad about relying on your partner and family to raise a child. What's wrong with all of us being one big family?
Ugh, number 1, when I saw your bragging and I wanted to break the monitor. WE ALREADY KNOW! we know everything about you - about education, how independent you are, how rich you are, what business you have with your husband, now and about the future prince you are waiting for, we know everything. but I do not know why you summarize your own experience to some general principles. understand, life is colorful, people are different. I know people who got married at the age of 20, gave birth to 1-2 children, coped with both education and business. and what, to measure with examples? and the author is really naive and immature, her desire is childish. I hope he doesn't learn everything the hard way G46
I don't know why number 1 thinks that not being dependent on a man and parents is a plus for the child. If there are more people to raise the child, it is much easier to raise and if something happens to the mother, the child will not be left without care. It is not a question of who is dependent on whom, but that everyone is responsible.
Thanks to everyone who took the time to read and comment on my inquiry. From some comments I was moved, from others I was surprised, from others I felt terribly bad ... In my opinion, those who commented on giving birth after 25-30 years are from this "new generation" that aims at aging and I don't know what more for the new generation. I don't think an 18-year-old girl can be simple, uneducated, unintelligent, etc. I have no plans to lose my education, and I have completed a course for a beautician ... THE AUTHOR
And yes ... I forgot to add. I have been a student for the last year and I am looking forward to graduating in order to enroll for a university degree here in Sofia, but remotely.
In 2, 3 years you will have a different opinion. It is not easy as the baby is jealous, you are constantly with him, you do not have time for yourself. You must have at least 2 years of experience. And how old is the man, does he want it mostly or you? Of course, it is better to be a young parent, but a person under 18 has not seen much of life.
23 - You pay your life insurance policy and you're the man. Mine is 250,000. That's more than the average Bulgarian family will spend in a decade. With so much money, you have to fix it for a while.
The problem of late pregnancy is still being addressed, and no one knows that early pregnancy at a very young age, 20 years ago, is also not recommended? As far as I know, the most favorable time for the first pregnancy is between 22-26 years old. how should we give birth at the age of 19 ....
"When I was born, my mother was 35 and my father was 42, and I've had type 1 diabetes since I was a child." I know people whose mothers gave birth to them when they were 19, but they still have asthma, diabetes, and so on. that this means nothing.
I have many famous ladies who gave birth at the age of 18/19. It's not as scary as they describe it. Their job was such that they had expenses mainly for the children. You remember living in the parents' apartment, not paying bills, rents, etc. It was helpful that when they wanted to go out for coffee and chat with friends, there was someone to look after the children. If there is someone to rely on and you can provide the child with a decent life, why not be a mother anymore. Also, regarding university education, as long as you have the desire, the child would not be an obstacle to development. As I read, I remain convinced that you have support, ie yours and the boy's parents will not leave you alone to fuck your heads, etc. You do not explain anything about home, income, family relationships. I am also a woman, I am already even 32 years old, but I have no children. Somewhat out of fear, partly because I didn't get along with men. Now I have a partner for 3 years, but nothing is certain if he leaves tomorrow and does not want to be with me anymore. And I'm afraid I won't be a good mother. That I will ruin my child's life as mine ruined it. I don't want to be a single mother - not that I won't be able to cope, but I don't want my child to grow up without an example and a feeling of warmth, togetherness and support that a family should have. Sometimes I think that I have nothing to teach this child, nothing to give him. But for me, children are the result of the love of two people who have decided to live their lives together without lies, and not just an obligation to continue the family, as is strange for many people. but nothing is certain if he leaves tomorrow and does not want to be with me anymore. And I'm afraid I won't be a good mother. That I will ruin my child's life as mine ruined it. I don't want to be a single mother - not that I won't be able to cope, but I don't want my child to grow up without the example and feeling of warmth, togetherness and support that a family should have. Sometimes I think that I have nothing to teach this child, nothing to give him. But for me, children are the result of the love of two people who have decided to live their lives together without lies, and not just an obligation to continue the family, as is strange for many people. but nothing is certain if he leaves tomorrow and does not want to be with me anymore. And I'm afraid I won't be a good mother. That I will ruin my child's life as mine ruined it. I don't want to be a single mother - not that I won't be able to cope, but I don't want my child to grow up without the example and feeling of warmth, togetherness and support that a family should have. Sometimes I think that I have nothing to teach this child, nothing to give him. But for me, children are the result of the love of two people who have decided to live their lives together without lies, and not just an obligation to continue the family, as is strange for many people. and I don't want my child to grow up without the example and feeling of warmth, togetherness and support that a family should have. Sometimes I think that I have nothing to teach this child, nothing to give him. But for me, children are the result of the love of two people who have decided to live their lives together without lies, and not just an obligation to continue the family, as is strange for many people. and I don't want my child to grow up without the example and feeling of warmth, togetherness and support that a family should have. Sometimes I think that I have nothing to teach this child, nothing to give him. But for me, children are the result of the love of two people who have decided to live their lives together without lies, and not just an obligation to continue the family, as is strange for many people.
I gave birth to my first child at 20 - I watched and studied, with the support of his father, of course. It was not and is not easy, but it is not impossible. I would say it again if I go back in time. My child attends additional classes of his choice, copes with learning and sports, and the little one is still a little. I think they will both have even better than my future. When you want, anything is possible. However, I would advise the author not to rely on chance and to protect themselves, and if they firmly decide to have a child, then to act. There are no guarantees in life, no matter how much you have secured yourself, but it is still right, driven by the impulses to listen and reason. Good luck, love and happiness to all! :) Ж31
we will advise you, but we will not take part in the care, so it is pointless to do so. You need to have these conversations with the person who will take care of you: always have diapers, milk and everything the child needs, and find a way to develop as individuals and professionally despite early parenthood. none of this forum will look at your child to go out to cheer up a bit or to go to courses to find a job later. none of us will pick him up from the manger because you have a lot of clients and you can't. nor will we pay for his lessons and telephones.
n 26, from many "if" smells already. If ... If this and that - female menopause occurs at the age of 40-48. There are reasons for this - your shelf life does not expire almost at the age of 30 and while there may be some problems at birth after 36 (note, not 30), it also has research that the children of educated women with secure jobs are themselves more likely to succeed in life. Between 18 and 36 years there is an ENTIRE LIFE OF THE AUTHOR. That is, she can double her age and still be able to have children! We don't break up at the age of 36, and you women write off at the age of 30. At the age of 18 there is simply no way to be educated / qualified in anything, to have life experience, to have a good and secure job - absurd. I'm also not saying that the man could have broken up because of a younger one (as if the woman was 30 years old), but I'm talking about that in the 21st century, women also participate equally in the family budget and are also responsible for feeding the family, which responsibility at 18 you cannot take for yourself, let alone for a child. This is how you go from 100% dependence on your parents to 100% dependence on your husband / family. This creates individuals who have never taken care of themselves but have children. Now 1, but then a second will appear. A lifetime of parental support, motherhood and nonsense. You wake up at 30 and you're nobody. What helps you to have 13-year-old children at 30? What will you do in the next 10 years? At 36-38 you can become a grandmother if your children think like you. ASSOCIAL and normal only in the Faculty. Being 25-27 years old to have children and that is desirable for me is irresponsible. Not only do you not think about the burden you create for your loved ones, the man, but you also don't think about the child - what example are you in his life? Now as a pregnant woman I go to the clinics and there are more people in my waiting room / 30 /, quite pregnant actually with a second and third child even, some have children 12-13 from another father. Of course, a child is always a joy and when it appears you will always patch up your life somehow, but what prevents you from giving birth at the age at which you completed your education or professional qualification, you worked for 3 years, so to speak, and you have an internship with which to find a job again? What prevents you from giving birth at an age that has given you the opportunity to learn enough about people and life to choose a reasonable partner and create 2 children from 1 father, instead of your children from different fathers and 13-15 years difference? There are, of course, and pickles like the Author in the waiting rooms, however, did not realize what was happening to them - they were exhausted, with short skirts / pants and a huge belly, with huge heels, made up, as if they were not going to a women's consultation, but to a disco. They cannot realize that at the age of 18 they have already really ended up with men, that they are no longer interesting to anyone as a sexual object except for the father of their child and for some absolute perverts. It is a pity to see how the budding femininity ends in the maternity ward. I don't understand where you are in a hurry! Life is in front of you. Everything is waiting for you. The child is the most important decision in a person's life - all your life you will be connected with your children and with their father you want it or not. At 18, you can't make that decision. Yes, 200 years ago people gave birth at the age of 14, but lived until the age of 30. If my grandmothers gave birth at the ages of 25 and 28, remember,
Let me ask you, are the parents of the author and the boy still obliged to go through baby roars, nappies and urination, children's hysteria, just because the author and her boyfriend were happy to have a baby, because they are so cute? And I write this provoked by this statement of the author: 'We have not been careful for several months, but we do not aim to get pregnant ...' - so the young lady both wants a baby, but she did not intend to get pregnant. This is a pure strategy - the author wants a baby, but they still do not have the opportunity with her boyfriend to afford to be parents and she realizes this. That's why our trickster wants to make him get pregnant by accident and to tell his parents and the boy's parents the fact that has already been done - I bet that if he tells them in advance: 'we will have a baby', neither her parents nor the boy's parents will be fascinated, because they will know that everything will fall on their shoulders, at least for the first 7 years. And these people are not surprised that they are not rich, that they are low-paid people, as there are still a lot of people in Bulgaria, especially in previous generations ... So the author now wants us to inspire her here, because she still doesn't he squeezes enough to realize his scheme, something inside gnaws at her - otherwise he wouldn't ask us at all. (the other option is for this to be just another provocation topic, in which to draw delicacies when 'should / shouldn't' be born) Well, to do what he wants. I am writing this comment only for denunciation, not in order to stop it. However, everyone is free to do what he wants. And at number 7 I just want to say that his problem with diabetes is most likely due to that his parents had bad genes. It's just his luck - and if they had done it at the age of 17, they would still have glued their genes to him - both the good and the bad.
Not to summarize, but what do I think that the various 18-21 year old mothers and fathers mostly grandparents raise their children? In those years, barely having a breakthrough in the profession, they have neither the money nor the time to look after children, but they give it to their parents. It's a little rude, don't you think?
Darling, I don't want to put everything under a common denominator, but at 18 it's too early for a baby, if it comes to every little girl dreams of being a mother ... remember your childhood with dolls and strollers! Men don't care what, what! I am now the "mistress" of a boy, not a man, a boy with a child just born a month away! Of course, when I found out, I disgusted him, but I still feel guilty
At 18 it was early for a baby, one time my grandmother got pregnant that much and gave birth to my uncle at 19 years old. Wait until 22-25 at least or no later than 26.
N. 1 come on, stop bragging ... We read the same thing in every topic. Sorry, but I think at 33 or 36 you and your sister are a little old for a first child. You are energetic now, but when your children become teenagers, you will find it difficult to impress them. But at the age of 18 it is still very early. For me, the ideal age for birth is 24-26 years. or you must have done this work by the age of 30 ... otherwise the children feel the great distance between the generations.
To the author: Work at 8-12 (h) to see if you want a baby. Little ones like you want children because they don't know what a job is, they don't know how to look after and raise children, not to mention the future. One course will not fix your little life. Start working, not only will you not have time for yourself, but you will pay less attention to the man next to you, and for children not to discuss, because when they intervene and it becomes a mess. Become a babysitter for a familiar baby child and write to us again. :) :)
№ 1 liked this topic, but she is not right in her arguments. At the age of 18 it is too early to get pregnant, but at the age of 30 it is too late for the first child. You can look after a child, even if you work as a cleaner, general worker or seamstress. I will ask you not to "introduce" the law that the mother must have a university degree and work in an office. It doesn't matter what education you have, it doesn't matter what job you do, the important thing is to gain experience and know at what price money is earned in order to decide at what age you want a child. This is a completely different topic, that you did not want children before, there are many women like you, then they realize they have become 35-38 years old, then they start to hurry, but there is an in vitro for what to hurry. Who wants to give birth when, who wants to develop his life,
"We haven't taken care of ourselves for a few months, but we don't aim to get pregnant." Oh, my tears flowed. My satirical gland itches, my sarcastic muscle hurts. First, since we don't know how the process is done at all, it is obvious that we are still young as a child (joker: without "keeping" is ONLY if we aim for it). Second, why not use protection if pregnancy is not required? Oh, yes - that's why: "(...) we don't want to get pregnant (...), but I want it more than anything" The author can now be pregnant without knowing it, so at least let's pray for the genes from the father to be of better quality - the intellect here was obviously recessive.
N 46, the average age of mothers in SOFIA (highest standard in the country, highest level of education) is 33. If you think about being rejected at the age of 30, it is your problem. Of course, if you have nothing to do all day but smoke, drink, do drugs, abuse food and go to different men at night and at 25 you can get fat. However, it is better for such people not to have children at all, both at the age of 18 and 30. You create children, but your grandparents will actually look after them. It's easy on someone else's back. Then at 30 you are single mothers with 12 year olds. The great achievement, well done - you used your eggs and you "squeezed" 2 years more than the gypsies in FacultyO
A single mother is one whose child has no father, has not recognized it. Whether you will get married at 20 or 30 and in both cases there is no guarantee how long the marriage will last, for the help from the parents - it is good to have it, but it is good to have your own finances ...
Up to 48 -Come on, enough envy and malice, look after your life and do not interfere with others. Who are you? !! To tell how old to get pregnant What are you? !! That here you earn materially and intellectually good, but it is clear that you are neither materially nor intellectually on a level. Everyone can lie on the site, and when they want, it is an anonymous site, you do not share anything with anyone. For this, finally "shut up", no one is obliged to tolerate your hysterical and insistent opinion. If you can't help but intervene, I will ask others not to pay attention to you, because only in silence will you defeat her. Let him "talk" and pretend to be right, let others be crooked, let others be poor, young, immature and uneducated.
On the contrary! You have to be born at a young age! First, that the woman is still healthy and second, that she will get used to being a mother from an early age, and not to some harassed aunt who cannot accept her role and is two generations behind her child and is harassing him to stay at home. with her while she sleeps, instead of going out with the child.
In my opinion, women who give birth early, after 30-35 years become super annoying and obsessive, is of course not all, but many of them, because they are usually people who had no interests, are not realized as individuals and their only achievement in life is that they gave birth. Over 30 start to harass them quite a lot and that is why they become quite controlling, obsessive and demanding of their children. They want their children to realize their unfulfilled dreams, suffocate them with their sick ambitions and generally constantly confuse them with everything. My parents made me when I was 36 years old. They looked at me, not different grandmothers. We went to my grandmother's, but only as guests, as is proper in a civilized and advanced society. I didn't miss anything, although I didn't think so before, and I was relatively free to make choices for myself. Of course, I had a few more serious arguments with them when I was a teenager, but now that I go back and look at things as an older person, I see that my childhood was quite satisfying. And in general, my parents were much more progressive and wise people, compared to those of some of my peers, who are about 10-15 years younger than my parents. Today they are 60 plus years old, they are healthy, they are retired, they even lead a social life. I'm not interested in the fact that some people are annoyed by the reasoning of number 1. Tease each other as much as you want. But do it in a way that doesn't affect people like my parents. but now that I go back and look at things like a grown man, I see that my childhood was quite satisfying. And in general, my parents were much more advanced and wise people, compared to those of some of my peers, who are about 10-15 years younger than my parents. Today they are 60 plus years old, they are healthy, they are retired, they even lead a social life. I'm not interested in the fact that some people are annoyed by the reasoning of number 1. Tease each other as much as you want. But do it in a way that doesn't affect people like my parents. but now that I go back and look at things like a grown man, I see that my childhood was quite satisfying. And in general, my parents were much more progressive and wise people, compared to those of some of my peers, who are about 10-15 years younger than my parents. Today they are 60 plus years old, they are healthy, they are retired, they even lead a social life. I don't care that some people are annoyed by the reasoning of number 1. Tease each other as much as you want. But do it in a way that doesn't affect people like my parents. who are about 10-15 years younger than my parents. Today they are 60 plus years old, they are healthy, they are retired, they even lead a social life. I'm not interested in the fact that some people are annoyed by the reasoning of number 1. Tease each other as much as you want. But do it in a way that doesn't affect people like my parents. who are about 10-15 years younger than my parents. Today they are 60 plus years old, they are healthy, they are retired, they even lead a social life. I don't care that some people are annoyed by the reasoning of number 1. Tease each other as much as you want. But do it in a way that doesn't affect people like my parents.
51, not that anything, but it strikes me that the "harassed aunts" are not women who gave birth around 30, but those who gave birth at 20. As if subconsciously blaming their child for their unexperienced youth. And I observe something else. Women who gave birth around 30 look much better at 40 than their rebels who gave birth at 20, although it is logical that the opposite is true. Of course, there are many other factors that have nothing to do with the birth and care of children.