Hello, dear readers! In general, I do not write stories here, it is "easier" to advise others ... IN BRIEF ABOUT US: I am 21, he is 25. We have been together for 5 years + We do not live together (not because we do not want to, but such are the circumstances for now), but we see each other often enough, we love each other very much, we have proven each other, he is everything to me - a worthy partner, my love and best friend. Responsible, good, honest, does not like "games", ambitious. BUT, back to the title- BABY Here comes our big difference with my man! I LOVE children and babies, he - far from it. He doesn't hate them, but he just doesn't like them. He has nothing to do with cute little babies and children. To him, they are ... well, in general: children - chirping, noisy, annoying, hysterical, etc. and babies - roaring and only "akat" (I will not use his word), " "I tell you, I'm far from thinking about getting pregnant at this stage. There is time, I'm in no hurry. I'm young, but I still dream about it! THE SPECIFIC SITUATION: Last night I invited him to dinner at our and after we were just lying in my room and I don't know how the topic "baby" came about, but in general I tossed this and that in a joking tone. made another statement (after I asked "will you want then"): "Well, I just want to ... I MUST have! "," It's not my dream to change diapers ", etc. And the conversation on the specific topic continued a little longer. In general, he wants a child (he wanted one), but rather, because that's how it should be ..." otherwise, when he grows up- this is what we will do, this is what we will do, this is what I will learn, this is what I will learn " But what a saying! After all, the FIRST SEVEN are the most important. The child is brought up from birth (even if it sounds absurd to you), and even in the mother's womb ...
Do not think that I am pressuring him. It's early for us. In principle, we don't talk about babies at all: D We have other topics, but this is about the future. And time passes quickly :) And communication is the most important thing, so we tell each other everything. Do you think it is possible to change your thinking on the issue? Dear people, give an opinion, advice, please! I will be thankful. And if it is from personal experience - even better :) And time passes quickly :) And communication is the most important thing, so we tell each other everything. Do you think it is possible to change your thinking on the issue? Dear people, give an opinion, advice, please! I will be thankful. And if it is from personal experience - even better :) And time passes quickly :) And communication is the most important thing, so we tell each other everything. Do you think it is possible to change your thinking on the issue? Dear people, give an opinion, advice, please! I will be thankful. And if it is from personal experience - even better :)
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It's different with your own children, you can tolerate them, they are not as annoying as other people's.
It may or may not change it. He is still young. And where did you get stronger at the age of 21? You don't even live together. I decided I wanted a child when I turned 30. Before that, the children annoyed me.
Where has it intensified? Amy to tie him to a baby and then calmly cheat on herself.
Well, he may or may not change his mind. It is up to a person. Some people do not like children because they are noisy, roar, make white, and a person when he is young still has dreams and aspirations and does not change diapers and fill pacifiers. But when they turn 29-30, they feel that they have already made a living and want a child. Others will never like a baby, for them it is not a reason for special happiness because they find happiness in other things. It's strictly individual. I understand your friend. I don't like babies or children (little ones). True, they are funny, they are sweet, but they are constantly screaming, shouting, if not, they are doing mischief, turning your house upside down. And they need attention 24/7. It is too early for you to think about children. It will be seen in time. Now enjoy your relationship.
With these thoughts and tales about babies, you look like 71, not 21. You will drive away many men if you continue in the same spirit.