I write here because I feel I have a problem with myself, but I don't know exactly what it is and how I can correct this part of myself that is obviously a disgusting trait in my character to ALWAYS be at both extremes about the women in my life. Before I describe in detail what it is about and what weighs on me, please only people who have been / have gone through a similar stage of their lives, if they consider that they can and are willing to give advice on how to get out of such a situation. At the age of 29 I am from Sofia, I define myself as intelligent, kind, good, cheerful type, my social status is also at a high level, with a good income I am in a managerial position in a large company .. etc. SHORTLY from the side, if he looks at me talk to me a person without knowing me would surely be cruelly mistaken that I have some virtues in me. The problem is, that for some time now I have been feeling such feelings of loneliness, redundancy, boredom, misunderstanding / distrust mainly from the women in my life, which in my case is funny because I don't miss contacts with people, women, colleagues, friends a bit, but they have proven themselves over the years as such and that is enough for me, but that is how I feel as a whole is a fact. My environment is, say, moderately normal for our latitudes and for the capital in particular.
I have had a SERIOUS relationship so far in my life and a very frivolous one. My long relationship was with a beautiful and valuable woman, but unfortunately, whom I met at an inappropriate or rather immature moment in my life in which I was studying and I was mainly interested only in developing my personality and qualities and pursuing my goals. Despite everything and all the accompanying growth and development problems of two 20-year-olds, we spent 5 wonderful years together, but the end came imperceptibly for many reasons, which I will not mention now. In short, I experienced it, as people say. receives. So ... the problem comes from the fact that every next woman I meet in my life in the process of getting to know / meeting, etc. turns out to be an absolutely insolvent, empty, hollow person who is excited only by material things, clothes, rags. , malls, excursions, cars, vacations, which drives me crazy and I can't feel any tolerance / tolerance for this type of flat and insolvent people.
I had a ridiculous incident with this type of woman with whom I decided to go out NATURALLY because I like it visually liking .. we go out .. we walk back and forth for a while. . we get to know everything wonderful the next moment I invite her to a bar, but before the bar I spontaneously decide to go eat something in a big Fast Food chain in the center which was on our way to the bar, where ordering some things for both of us and sitting at the table she tells me that she was not a woman who would sit down to consume food and drinks in this type of restaurant and got up and left :) I was shocked and immediately took the necessary lessons of course. I said OK, it's my fault when I go out with pranks, I can't expect anything else, look for other types of WOMEN, stop looking at the shell/vision as a priority.
I told myself that there are more valuable things from one shell that is up to time and so began my adventure .. I decided to totally change my thinking and worldview towards the women in my life with the sole purpose of being able to find somewhere there maybe the right person for myself, as I feel mature and ready for a serious relationship and starting a family. I started going out deliberately with women who visually do not attract me in any way more unattractive and indistinguishable type of women meeting them in different places, engaging in some casual and normal conversations / subway, shops, theater, parks, mountains / nice but. I tried in every way to abstract from the vision. I started paying attention to the little things, words, gestures, way of thinking / perception, common interests, hobbies, generally pleasant things that make a normal person want to go on a date to get to know each other, BUT this of course turned out to be the wrong decision. In short .. an absolute disaster .. we go out 5-6 times we like each other mentally, we share, common topics, way of thinking, etc. I feel how sympathy for me arises, but on my part .. NOTHING is empty I don't even like to hug, I touch a woman who I don't like it visually and the logical thing happens after 5-6 such meetings, it becomes clear to the person opposite him that I have no interest and everything ends. This is repeated again and again, I have not set these things as an end in itself, but it strikes me that something is not OK for me obviously and I have a problem / hole in myself / my perceptions of women or something, in general, is just wrong in me, which it prevents me from appreciating someone who might deserve to be appreciated properly. . I emphasize that I am not a closed type, I look good, I smile, I try to support myself, I have just as much self-confidence as I can afford to have according to my ideas about it. I have no idea what type of woman I might like and does it make sense at all to keep doing pointless exercises and waste my time? I get a little bit of paragraph 22 with these things when I got there and I lie .. what do I do, what is my social status again in order to check the thinking and priorities of the person I meet and of course you remember that things quickly fell into place. Don't get me wrong, I'm a horned calf ... I've been living and taking care of myself for a long time, I'm not one of those people who stays at home and gets depressed, or I happen to be overwhelmed by the muse to write right now. I have fun and I have many hobbies and thank God I have the opportunity to practice them, but inside I feel empty facing the facts, which I mentioned above in my post and the inability to find a solution for myself. Where is the balance? Are there others like me? Is the rotten vision so important nowadays that you can get that passion that will make you later know / like / fall in love? Has everything already happened on the principle -demand / supply / -rich / poor / -good / bad What's wrong with me and where am I wrong? I thank in advance all those who will take 5 minutes of their time to read my confession with elements of light slander, but this is me and this is what weighs on me and I wanted to share. which will make you later know / like / fall in love? Has everything already happened on the principle -demand / supply / -rich / poor / -good / bad What is wrong with me and where am I wrong? I thank in advance all those who will take 5 minutes of their time to read my confession with elements of light slander, but this is me and this is what weighs on me and I wanted to share. which will make you later know / like / fall in love? Has everything already happened on the principle -demand / supply / -rich / poor / -good / bad What's wrong with me and where am I wrong? I thank in advance all those who will take 5 minutes of their time to read my confession with elements of light slander, but this is me and this is what weighs on me and I wanted to share.
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Hello! I don't think you have a problem with yourself, but rather with the world around you. I completely understood you, and just to mention that since you had a five-year relationship and you're 29, your experience is not small. However, you are not 40. It is normal to have a period of wandering after you have ended this relationship, and often it is not a few months. My advice is not to give in to your criteria for a life partner. You have already realized that compromising with a woman who does not attract you physically does not work. It just takes time to meet a person who has both a vision and a soul. But there are some. As a woman, I can tell you how they know each other. Women around your age who wear a little makeup, dress stylishly, but not too much, and are naturally beautiful. Focus on one. I just thought about people I know. And they also play sports, have some hobbies like mountaineering, and photography for example. I wonder how you haven't actually noticed one yet? Maybe with all the kitsch around, it's hard to notice the natural beauty, and it doesn't include hair done and stuff. You can also orient yourself by your hair. Wouldn't you like a beautiful girl on the beach with wind-blown hair? Before sending the comment, I mentally reviewed the women I know again. Those I consider quality and good don't do their hair unless it's a special occasion, put on minimal makeup, are skinny (and athletic), have a vision for professional development, and don't go to bars (at all) at risk. to think that I am describing to you some congested people, I am describing to you those whom I qualify as naturally beautiful, aspiring and conscientious women. And just to add - this with the incident at the fast breakfast struck me. The vast majority of women between the ages of 20-30 (I have no idea how old she is, but I guess she's in that category) are emotionally and mentally immature. This is a delayed development, whatever we talk about, the behavior of a 15-year-old. It comes from huge complexes of poverty, inferiority and dissatisfaction with one's own achievements. Her achievement would be to take her to an expensive restaurant because she accepts her appearance as her only '' skill '. 'So superficial, so silly ... When it comes to, even wealthy people sometimes go for snacks (celebrities filmed by paparazzi, for example), the importance of someone is not measured in how many luxury restaurants he has eaten. I hope my comment reaches more girls, especially those between 13-18,
I really liked the way you wrote thinking :-) In my opinion (no matter how big a cliché it may be) maybe you just haven't met your man. Things should not be done by force - if you don't like someone, you don't. There is no middle ground, everything else will be a pain for both parties. So continue to live your life as you like and the Woman will appear, good luck! :-)
I recommend you watch a movie: "The Downloader Hal" is called. There is it on Zamunda.
Hello, I, like you, am a 29-year-old man. with a good profession, good and close friends, hobbies, independence. Like you, I had a relationship for almost 5 years. In my opinion, you have realized what you have invested in yourself as a time for development. You realize that you are above the average intelligent level here in Bulgaria. I guess your ex-girlfriend was a nice girl. Based on these things so far, I guess (I'm the same) that as a person constantly looking for development, you look for the new one to be better than the previous one. That's why you want her to be more beautiful, smarter, kinder, etc. One of the mistakes in starting a new relationship is to compare the previous one with the current one. Look around a little more, I'm sure SHE is there. Number 1 has written a lot of good things. In my opinion, there is no problem in you, the bad thing is that you form such thoughts yourself, which prevent you from developing your own personality to its full potential. This text is as if I wrote it, with the difference that after my separation I do not see women.
The chick was perched on your shoulder, but you didn't appreciate it in time. You're looking for him now, but he's gone. You'll have to wait for Sorry.
Just as you have claims to appearance, so women have claims to where you lead them.
Men are so simple, you only need one 90-60-90 and you are like a carp on a hook. All outside of this elementary criterion of yours are out, or you are deceiving yourself that they only serve to satisfy the bed urge. And then roar that with the next "most beautiful" everything is bad for you - of course, you were only interested in the vision, eat the extras with it. No one's "perfect" proportions (as you can see) have ensured a happy life. But you understand this when you are 80 years old and have lived with someone who poisons your nerves because of your own elementary choices. Your elementary choice, which is your own, leads to just such a relationship - elementary in itself. There should be people with nice bodies and decent, there are also nice people with not so nice bodies, but still cute and if there is chemistry between A and B it would work. But then comes the male simple philosophy like "what will mom say to me, and what will dad say, eee dude, I can't wave it to my friends, because she weighs 5 kilograms more and they will make fun of me" So my dear men-find your perfect girlfriends and live perfectly, sorry-get close to it and damn let the rest of the good and wonderful world breathe :) Good luck in the choice giggles And calm-I'm just objective as you can not be, because your growth rates are usually poignantly low
Typically, you think that each one will be better than the previous one. In my opinion, for a man there are at most 2 women who remain in his mind and heart. All others are filling time. Just don't necessarily force it to happen.
Author and but er 4, where are you going? Where can you meet a girl like me - nice, with a good job, non-commercial, who likes walks in the park and always finds herself unprepared for a serious relationship and family?
In short - you want a smart muffin. Well, there is no such animal. Change your ideal of beauty - stop the chalga, stop porn with inflated khakis that look like horses and brainwash yourself about what is beautiful / sexy and what is not. There is another trick - imagine naked women, both muffins and natural, and you will see how your sexual preferences will be reoriented. Imagine a shiny woman without makeup, with natural eyebrows and hair, without heels, without clothes and possibly without silicone (if she accidentally put on such nonsense). You will get a small, thin, with a big nose and juki creature, and burnt by many dyes hair. You will see how quickly her attractiveness will decline. You'll be wondering how to escape with 200.
If you are not attracted visually, there is no point in doing it for the simple reason that the plane will not take off, there is no feeling, there is nothing and forcing yourself to behave kindly and in love is of no use. Yesterday I read on social media a post of black women about what they deserved from blacks in America and what standards they should have for them and blacks were naturally super disappointed and angry, because there they expect everything from the man and they experience themselves as princesses who everything is due to them by right. Feminism is destroying their society, as it is destroying societies in the Western world and Europe, and wherever its abominable influence spreads. That's why you meet such surfaces and flat women, who are practically prostitutes looking for a sponsor. My advice is to look good, but not from women, who deal only with it and regard it as a kind of commercial commodity. Look for naturally attractive women who take minimal care of their appearance and have other interests.
Author: # 1 thanks for the advice and still this type of woman you describe I have not noticed and I have never met before. There is no way I can deviate from my criteria, of course, precisely because I formed them in a difficult way, unfortunately. # 4 Of course I want smarter and more beautiful and more capable, etc. than the previous one and I think this is the most normal thing maybe unconsciously a person compares what he had / experienced as an experience / situations and so on n # 7 If I start to answer your primitive attempt at analysis and in general what you have written from A to Z ... many things will suddenly become clear to you and how much our levels of growth / awareness are really with you. different and I think I miss this part :) # 9 In many places in Sofia you can meet me mainly in Mladost, # 10 Friend, I don't like muffins visually, I don't listen to chalgia and my porn is normal. My visual type can be characterized rather by a certain type of specific appearance and behavior. To change my sexual preferences very difficult ..