Hello. I can't stand my mother and father arguing every day. My brother annoys me all the time, and so on. I had the opportunity to go to my grandmother, but I love my family in spite of everything ... I will go and live with her at the beginning of the summer. After all, staying with my grandparents, don't I betray my father and mother? What to do with the feeling in the throat that they can kill each other? Whenever I'm elsewhere I get the most offended (I hate that) and only for a short time. Fortunately, my father hardly drinks, but something can always happen. Not that I will change anything, I will not be home forever ... But am I betraying my family like that? That's my question ... I don't betray the people I love so much, do I? Forget this whole thing about their personal changes ... It's true that we will keep in touch with the phone, but I feel like a traitor. In short: - I'm not like that, am I?
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I understand that they are your parents and you love them, but you should not fall victim to their quarrels. I grew up in such an environment and I was really afraid to go home because I didn't know what I was going to find. It also affects your psyche, your character and can lead to many future problems. Maybe when you move out, they will realize for themselves how wrong they are.
Dear boy, if you stay to protect them all your life, you will be a traitor only to yourself. You don't have to sit and guard two adults. As much as you love them, you have your own way. You are young and you feel responsible. Well done! But let this quality not be your Achilles heel. I am the mother of a 20-year-old young man. Years ago, my marriage was a daily duel. Even then, I called on my son to do everything possible to get out of this unhealthy atmosphere. Because I felt that his father and I could not control our emotions and hatred. Years later, at the cost of many internal conflicts, I was able to end this marriage. Before we destroy each other and hurt our children. However, the desire for change remained in my son. Now he is a realized man with a future. My thought is that children are birds that need to learn to fly. And they need to discover new horizons. And to have an ideal family, you have to fly. And when the situation at home is like that, it is even urgent. No it's not an escape it's not a betrayal. Coming out of this poisonous environment, you can look at the situation soberly from the side. You can even find a solution. You can also be a peacemaker. But the chances for change and development are not wasted sitting next to your parents' ass. You will only betray yourself like that. Success!
Thank you so much! And all the best in life to you!