There is something that has not given me peace for a long time and makes me feel bad. I have a non-committal relationship with 2 girls - I guess it sounds good, but for me it's not. She feels more and more that it's more about female competition, and I'm just a pawn. The two know each other, but have never seen each other. My question is, what role do I have in this situation? Are they interested in me at all, because I am a person who insists on pure relationships and sincerity.
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Yes, it is obvious how much you care about pure relationships and sincerity ...
author, you contradict yourself - a clean and correct relationship is the complete opposite of non-committal relationships!
Hmm ... I advise you instead of two non-committal and rather even no relationships, to start a SERIOUS relationship with a serious girl to devote your time and attention to. And if you insist on sincerity - Tell them you can't do that anymore. Just be seriously engaged to a girl, you will be much more pleasant. At least that's my opinion.
You made me laugh. You can't both stick to "pure relationships and sincerity" and turn them both on your finger. It is normal to have competition between them. Once they know each other, even if they haven't seen each other. Each of them wants you only for themselves and is not inclined to divide you. How do they feel knowing that they are sharing with someone else? To put up with such a thing, girls really care about you. I certainly wouldn't put up with it - if someone cares about me, they'll just be with me, not a few more, to see who will export the most. And as for your role ... Now is the time to behave like a man and decide which of the two you want! Without looking back and without keeping in touch with the other. Otherwise, they will soon be fed up and you will be left on the ground with two chairs. Trust me. We women suffer for a long time, we forgive a lot,
Do you maintain 2 parallel connections? !! What do you find in this? !!
If they were interested in you, they wouldn't agree with the stupid situation. Obviously for both of them some temporary fun, as they are for you. At first glance, there is no problem, but while you serve two, you will not be on the same level, I guess you remember that you can not be a very complete lover. In principle, women need more sex and a lot of attention in general, and you can't provide it for them.
They must be as non-committal as they are in relationships. The role is as you made it, do you expect them to define you?
I fell out of my chair. Oh, my back! ... Bye, "pure and sincere" boy. Kate
I think you should stop doing this because one of them will one day be hurt, I don't know what kind of man you are .. you seem to stick to pure relationships and sincerity, and even you don't know what you want .. very unfortunate really :)
"I have a non-committal relationship with two girls."
Thanks for the emotional and comprehensive answers. I didn't want to go into details, but I obviously had to. My relationship with the 2 girls is completely open. I have not engaged any of them and they have complete freedom to do what they want and with whom they want. They know that in their relationship with me there is no way to get anything more than what is now. Regarding the relationship between the couples (I will limit myself to the comments ...), they can be any - it all depends on who wants and prefers what. Number 6 ... I've been an inferior lover for 3 years now .... I really want to have a serious relationship, but when I see that things have no future and that I think I'm going to hurt the other person, I say everything before it's too late .. .
Well, author, since you want a serious relationship, why do you support frivolous ones at all ?? Don't blame the girls - the problem is only in you!
I think you're right. Today I finally broke up with a girl. Now I will answer the question I asked at the top and which no one paid attention to ....