Hello! I know no one will like my story, but I really need to share my problem with someone. So ... I'm a woman, 20+. I have a friend with whom we have been together for two years. We keep in touch from a distance, but this has never been a problem, we love each other and plan a future together. BUT ... Lately I've started to feel confused. This is an acquaintance of mine, with whom I have known for several years. Honestly, during this time he was always very strangely connected with my life (but I will not go into details about it). So many times I have foreseen some things that will happen to him that I even get a little scared when I think about it. I have some inexplicable relationship with this person that I don't have with anyone else (even my parents and friends I grew up with). To be honest, when I first saw him, I was attracted to him and I'm sure it was mutual (he showed it), but then I liked his friend.
Then he caught a girlfriend. Then I found my man. During these years we were very close, there were days when we were constantly together, he knows my friend, I knew his girlfriend, the four of us went out. So ... Everything was fine until before the holidays he and I found ourselves together at an event. I had overdosed on alcohol (something I'm not proud of), and he started explaining to me how much he loved me (and we used to say we loved each other) and invited me to go to them (he was sober). I flatly refused him. Now is the time to insert that, in essence, nothing has ever happened between us. I refused him, but since then I only think about how I really want him very much, but it's not just that .. I also have strong feelings for him. And I feel damn bad and wrong to experience them while I'm with someone who might be for me and with whom I could start a family. I do not know what to do. I would not cheat on my friend, my conscience would not allow it. The options are to end contact with my acquaintance or to sacrifice my relationship for him. I would not want to end my relationship just because of one sex, which is very possible to get. But on the other hand ... What if this is exactly the person for me and we should have been together since our acquaintance? However, the risk is too great. I'm glad I shared though. Don't eat me, I'm tormented enough, and as I said, I wouldn't cheat. I would not cheat on my friend, my conscience would not allow it. The options are to end contact with my acquaintance or to sacrifice my relationship for him.
I would not want to end my relationship just because of one sex, which is very possible to get. But on the other hand ... What if this is exactly the person for me and we should have been together since our acquaintance? However, the risk is too great. I'm glad I shared though. Don't eat me, I'm tormented enough, and as I said, I wouldn't cheat. I would not cheat on my friend, my conscience would not allow it. The options are to end contact with my acquaintance or to sacrifice my relationship for him. I would not want to end my relationship just because of one sex, which is very possible to get. But on the other hand ... What if this is exactly the person for me and we should have been together since our acquaintance? However, the risk is too great. I'm glad I shared though. Don't eat me, I'm tormented enough, and as I said, I wouldn't cheat. What if this is exactly the person for me and we should have been together since we met? However, the risk is too great. I'm glad I shared though. Don't eat me, I'm tormented enough, and as I said, I wouldn't cheat. What if this is exactly the person for me and we should have been together since we met? However, the risk is too great. I'm glad I shared though. Don't eat me, I'm tormented enough, and as I said, I wouldn't cheat.
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Break up with your friend and act! When you feel this way, in the end you will either commit infidelity or you will always wonder what could have happened and you will regret it. And the boy obviously has some feelings for you too. Don't miss the chance, you have been apart for a long time and at some point it will be too late. If you loved your current friend so much, you wouldn't feel that way about someone else.
You may need to ask yourself if the distance between you and your partner is not the reason you think about the other person. When a person is physically separated from his partner, it is normal in my opinion for a person to "slip" with such thoughts. The body wants its own. Do you just want sex with the other or something more? Ignore the plans you have with your partner and answer this question honestly in front of you. If the answer is - just sex - I think the desire is caused by loneliness, which is inevitable in a long-distance relationship. But if you want something more with the other - just love is exhausted and rather your partner is comfortable. Success! G30
It is not at all clear to me how you can seek advice on such an issue on the Internet from people who are not in your place ... how do we know what will be better for you and whether we will not harm you. Gather your head and think for yourself, I feel sorry for your friend. M29
I do not agree with number 1. At the moment it is difficult for you because your boyfriend is not with you .. Every normal woman wants hugs, kisses, attention and so on, now you miss it and it is much easier for someone to tempt you ... I don't know what advice to give you ... Don't ruin your relationship, because of the boy in question, because if you wanted each other a lot and had feelings, why has nothing happened between you so far? Besides, you used to drink alcohol, which leads me to think that he may have tried to seduce you to sleep with you ... Your situation is really nasty .. Follow your heart is one piece of advice, another if you decide to listen to reason, weigh everything that prevails, do it ...
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And what can we advise you? Let's throw beans and tell you what's going to happen and what's better? Everyone is a blacksmith of his own destiny. You have to decide for yourself.
Break up with your boyfriend, but before that sit down and talk to the boy in question seriously and ask him what his intentions are towards you.
Thanks for the comments. For the moment, I decided to step away from my close friend and think, "more sober" of things. I think that my staggering is really due to the fact that my friend is far away, I need attention, attitude, tenderness .. And they can't catch up with phone calls or Easter eggs, I want to share my daily life with someone, that's it.