Hello. Is it possible for someone to explain to me what today's temptations of time are and how far we can avoid them in order to live in peace with ourselves. I am so misled by everything I see and like, despite the resistance in me. There are some things that if you do not imitate, you are not very literate or you are seen as another category of person. My question is, can we be modest even though we have opportunities? Can we not look only at ourselves, but help a little with a joint effort to get out of the mud in which we are immersed? What is this arrogance, this malice, this arrogance? Everyone is looking to register and point out what kind of car there is, what kind of phone, what kind of woman or man and things like that? I am surrounded only by such things and I do not see how to find peace of mind for my views. But that also changes me, after all, I want to be underestimated. For example, in the company where I work, all the women look good, look like flight attendants, even though they are secretaries, with expensive shoes, expensive bags and suits, and everyone brags. It is not malice on my part and I am headed there. Even the adults in the company advise us to dress sexy out of self-respect and to attract customers. And it's not just here. The Internet and these sites have become the best. Do we have to be modest to some degree? I have friends who are in a beauty salon every day and fix their hair, some facials, nails and so on and are generally powdered from head to toe. Of course, I don't like them, because it's a waste of valuable time to be narcissistic. Women tend to look cheap because they want to be cool, but only in appearance. Everyone strives to look good, to have something new in his life and that's how life goes. Am I the only one surrounded by such people or am I in the wrong environment? F 27
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I can say that you are a valuable person. The world is very stupid. I also try to dress well but I do it so as not to look crazy. Otherwise, it is not my priority ... it is very important that you do not care what others think of you, but it is difficult.
You're just a real person, darling! The bad news is that you happened to live in the worst part of history. Yes, it really is the worst. The Middle Ages were at least 10 times better than today's "modernity" and today's "progress". People are killing, cheating and manipulating like never before in history. And centuries ago there were nasty people and nasty things, nasty situations and so on, but there has never been such a sum of DEVILS, UNHAPPINESS, PROBLEMS and so on. The problem is not in you, I can assure you of this at 7,000%! It's just that the world and the age are so fucked up that normal people look like crazy. About 150 years ago, Botev stated the following in his immortal work: “The conscious in our country consider them crazy! “. Does it seem relevant to you today? Because it seems to me ... You just have to accept your destiny - you are destined to follow the path of the lonely and misunderstood, but spiritually and morally elevated person. That's it. Respectfully, a person similar to your situation, although a representative of the opposite sex, that even 7 years younger than you.
Well, I work as a freelancer and I don't have such problems, but if I worked somewhere in a company and an elderly person (or any other person) allowed himself to shake something like 'I've dressed sexy to be attracting clients' I would draw him a culture and tell him to dress for the clients, as he is so inspired! And if this movie was repeated, I would leave directly, because I live one life - I'm not for the dirty salary. I wear jeans, T-shirts and sneakers, yes, branded. I don't wear make-up, I'm 30, after years I can start putting on make-up, as I start to grow old, but until then there is time;) for now I just keep my face super clean. I like to be comfortable everywhere, to be valued for what I am and what I do, not for what rag I put on and how I slandered myself. And I don't miss men's attention. And yes, I say rag, because they really buy it en masse - rags at artificially inflated prices. I don't have a smartphone - I haven't taken one since they left and I have no intention of taking one. I have a Nokia with buttons and I really like how different people cycle when they see it. I think you are in the wrong environment. Among secretaries, bank employees, and even the state administration, but in larger cities, this is generally the environment in my observations. If you have the opportunity to change this company, at least because there is nothing self-respecting in dressing sexy to attract customers unless you work in a strip bar. I am very annoyed by older people who try to play it cunningly, greasy, arrogant and think that they can afford more just because they are older.
It is very common for him / her to say that he / she has fallen in love with him / her because he / she is a different person. Why are you afraid to be different ??? What is the problem of looking at you as another category of person - especially if you are a higher category ??? In general, you sound quite confused, both you want to be different and you do not know how to do it without looking like others - at your age it would be good to have your own style and the opinion of others is just corrective, not guiding Light! You are annoyed with your powdered colleagues, but you are also ready to powder yourself just to win a look of approval. You irritate their desire to be armed to the teeth with the latest means of communication, but I am convinced that your "smartphone" is the latest model - the same goes for the car, man, kitchen, washing machine, dishwasher, curtains, terracotta, Jacuzzi, spa breaks. I think it's good to dig in the net and see what the difference is between price and value - the high price does not always correspond to the value. And in order not to be unfounded, I will give an example with two "dear" colleagues who have no value for me - both have brand new cars, smartphones (latest model), homes, modern kitchens, washing machines, dishwashers. They are powdered, they are regularly seen by a beautician and a hairdresser, a garment is not worn more than 2-3 times (this also applies to shoes) - none of the above is achieved by own means (I do not say without effort, but not with effort, but by extortion). It's up to you who you want to look like, who and what you will imitate - I say imitate because everyone imitates someone at a certain stage of his life, but from some you take one, from others another, and the final image is your work.