I'm 22 and the chick is 26. I'm angry with the text that she was "very sensitive and affected by the least", which means - complete nonsense and 1/2. She is ready all day not to pay attention to me, not to speak to me and not to respond to my messages properly, but not to say; Oh, fuck that now, I wanted ice cream with strawberries, and he took me with chocolate - big deal, isn't it the end of the world !? Oh, no ... at every opportunity. I said that or I didn't say ... I did that or I didn't. Just chess and checkmate everywhere. Whatever I do, whatever I say, there will always be something. She wanted to hear my opinion ... When she heard it - But why are you talking like that, I thought what are you ... She still has a headache, it was warm, she had to take care of her nephew and what not, because ,, which we spend 2-3 hours a day. Which, as you know, is not enough for a future couple. We are engaged, but we do not live together yet, because we have an upcoming trip abroad, where we will settle there. As far as I understand, she has always been like that, I wonder if it was like that with her exes ... I don't want to say it, but I sympathize with them then and I'm a little jealous of them now, because I'm in their place. I love her, find out - everything is fine. Great chick, of course with our grandparents, we've been here and there, vacations, sex is also at a pretty good level (although she likes it a bit ... "for me this is the last place" - girl , srsly right now? !!), wanted a baby too! And how this baby happens after sex is last - I do not know. Not that we don't ... when we start it's at least 2-3 times in a row. Body, butt, chest ... no mistake! But when it comes to going in sync and working together to smooth out these differences. I've always wanted to be with a bigger girl than me, in fact, the older the better, but she ... haha, she's 26 with a 16-year-old, but with the manners and manners of a 30-year-old. An interesting person, to be honest. I wanted a bigger girl, for exactly the same reason. Mature, knowing what she wants and how to get it, strong and independent (and mentally stable). I've had two such relationships, one kept crying about his ex, the other went abroad to his mother, and now the third is about to get mad at me for stepping on the left sidewalk tile, not the right, and you know that meant that I no longer hold on to her and do not love her. I have tried many times to put myself in her place, but no matter how I twist it and whatever I think ... it's just that the reasons aren't serious and it's even funny. As a parasite, it is her anger in our relationship and in our future plans that begins to fade in my mind. I don't know what to do, I talked to her in all sorts of ways, I tried to get into a position ... I've never raised my voice or anything like that. I am an extremely calm person, I speak slowly, I explain the situation well, but she is like a horse with caps, as if stubborn and deliberate. She ties her shoes to each other and tries to run, falls - fights and accuses the road that it was very flat. I have already gone so far as to seek advice from strangers and people who have fallen into my situation. There is no more positive person than me and no one can ever spoil my mood, but this girl is a Grand Master in this regard. And I don't find it attractive to imagine that it is fire and I am water and we are attracted to it - no ... hers is the pinnacle of total stupidity. Help! The final version and outcome is clear. I don't want to get there. I am a person who will try until the end to fix things and heal wounds until everything is on the right track. Others with such audacity as mine? !!
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So the body and sex is six, but the character is not worth it. Supposedly engaged, but do not live together. It irritates you when you see each other for 2-3 hours, and when you are 24/7 what will you do? You like her very much, but you envy those who are no longer with her. That's a little - don't ask me answers, ask me questions!
Next time, get even older than you.
Listen ... we humans have different emotions. That for you something is permissible, for another - not. The extremes for something bad, but there are people who are more extreme, more neurotic, more unbalanced ... I am very sensitive, but I am very calm and quiet, another in my place will scream, and rage, so we are different. Whoever it is. Neither you will change it, nor is it obliged to change because of you. The so-called anger, has various manifestations. If her behavior seems childish to you, find a woman with mature behavior. Why are you trying to be with someone, people ... when you don't like them? You struggle to change yourself, to change your partner, to make yourself a victim, or to become a bully. Hey, that's all the dramas on this site, in this section.
At 26 and such pampering is strange .. But just how you described everything - thank you. Make me happy. Leave her for a while ... she's obviously used to giving her everything, fencing her and that's why it happens. I'm not saying to leave or not to pick up your phone, but for example, if he wants ice cream - to buy it, as it is warm - to undress, to turn on the air conditioner, for example? !! You can't, like something she's not happy about, run and fix her mood. I'm a woman and it's weird that I give such advice for sure, but I don't hate such muffins. Sorry for the definition.
What are you going to fix - will you change your brain to an infantile that sucks like a child? It is a living pain to be with such a person. Like a Chinese drop.
You will not change it. Some are such curves. The reason is in her family, most likely. Look mother-in-law, your wife will be the same! You deserve more.
As long as your ass is more important than your character, you will not happen to a woman!
I can't understand why anyone would do this to a negative person. This is bad for your spirit, man. If a person doesn't support you for the smallest things, what's left for the rest ... Burn your mind. Brother.
Oh, inhuman torment. This girl sounds a little immature. and by little understand much. 1. Why are you engaged to someone you haven't lived with. In 1-2 years, life together you will see each other in a miracle and if you are married and have a baby, the divorce will be a thrill 2. My boyfriend and I went through this - I want to climb mounds, he is on the computer, after one Seriously and roaringly, on my part, in a conversation, he explained to me that he doesn't like to dance, he doesn't like to climb chukars, that's what I love about him and that I'm trying to build some imaginary idea of him that doesn't exist. I thought about it, he was right. It's hard to admit it but he was right: D Now things are ok. And we got engaged / he took me away / but after living for 4 years together and for 4 years we carved a lot of cod :) Good luck dude, and think carefully, do you see this man and the whims, grumbling and other flaws after 30 years,
Try a family consultation with a therapist who understands personal differences. This ex-husband doesn't sound normal to me, and he did. Let me not tell you how disgusting it is for a 30-year-old man to behave like a 2-year-old and roll on the ground in hysterical fits as something does not happen to him. Things will get worse for you too, now you don't live together, but when you live, it will start with blackmail, that she will commit suicide, for example, because something doesn't get rid of her. Don't marry her, wait at least a year or two and you'll see what I'm talking about. It's best to beat her up, but you probably won't listen to me because you're hoping things will get better. It will not happen, the situation always gets worse, it never gets better. You better find a normal girl, you sound decent to me and I feel sorry for you.
Honey, you're dealing with an emotional manipulator. I sincerely sympathize with you. It will make you feel bad and what you do will never be good enough. You will live by stepping on slippers. You will be constantly taught that you need to change and improve. She will tirelessly work miracles of courage to show her how much she is loved and great. And it will never be enough, he will act as if he is compromising, being with you. Happiness with such a person is unattainable, it is a chimera. These are usually very magnetic people, they leave a glamorous first impression and if you catch the rod they tell you the game. In relations with them, love explosion, devaluation, withdrawal / separation alternate. Constant drama- 24/7 https://www.manager.bg/lyubopitno/9-priznaka-che-si-imate-vzemane-davane-s-emocionalen-manipulator
You're cute, and she's a muffin, but not with jam, but with cottage cheese (a little sour, though). Well, you're just for different meals. Get some caramel cream, she will find ketchup. Your "together" leads to stomach problems. Regards, D.
My ex is the same as your girl. There were negative comments about everything, about my every action. You love her - normal. I love her too. However, here comes the big question mark. When you think about it, does it make you a full-fledged person - hardly. She drinks your life into you with all the dramatization 24/7. Not worth it. We men see the positive traits in women and we know that they are more than what you describe, BUT how much more than that. You live in the hope that something will change. Nothing will change, as in my case, at most to break your nerves even more and make you feel small and ridiculous, with shattered self-esteem. Number 12 also described it very well. Look at your relationship from the side and can you wish such a relationship to a close friend of yours - NO. Such women are emotional manipulators. Run while it's time because years will pass and you will miss the decent girls because of a vampire like the one who only drinks your strength and doesn't appreciate you. That is why we are exes!
"haha, she's 26 with a 16-year-old" - once you've figured out what else you expect, there are also slow-growing ones, apparently she is. Find a mature and calm woman, only then will there be romance!
From the Author Thank you for the quick answers to all! I see how even strangers to whom I just shared understand me so well, and the person who is in front of me every day can not see things. I will go with one of the commenters, so that at least I don't have these problems; e Daily vlog - I won't. There hasn't been much change since our last conversation, but I think a light comes on that tells her something's wrong. I hope things get better over time, conversations and moments. We are keeping our fingers crossed and if things work out ... send me your IBANs, I'll have a beer and a cocktail! :)