Hello! I have read a lot about the mental harassment, which I have also experienced for many years. I am a mother (25 years old) with 2 years. child and I literally ran away from the child's father .. He always abused me, crushed me and I was still guilty at home and in public places .. I LEFT HIM !! I have been living alone with my child for a year now, so that I can grow up with love to give myself as two, but even far away the father continues to harass me by watching me where I go and who I go out with, he calls me regularly, always looking for a problem in me. I repeatedly try to dismiss it from my thoughts, not to pay attention, but it doesn't work ... I tried to share it with people, but no one believes me that it is like that and I can't prove it !! I'm really on the verge of despair now .. please tell me what else can I do ?? Thanks!
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Do you have a mother? Are you close to her? If you are, it's not a problem to share with her, because I think she needs to understand you. Share who you feel closest to. Search the internet on this topic for something similar to read how far such a relationship has come, etc. I think you can file a lawsuit or something like that.
He complained to the police.
Don't pick up his phone. If it is too much, ask for a restraining order from the police against him. As a last resort, is there no one to step on and intimidate him? If he can deprive him of parental rights.
Consult a lawyer. If he can issue a restraining order against him.
So far I have been to the police 4 times, ie 4 complaints, but he still finds a way to get out of the situation .. and I did not pick up his phone and he becomes even more aggressive as he takes it to his child .. he always threatens me that he will take it from me, although it can't happen .. in the whole situation it suffers the most .. I would gladly agree to beat this monster, but I'm defenseless! There is no support from anyone!
I have quite a few acquaintances in your position. Surely there were people in the past who told you not to deal with him because they saw what he was, but you fought for him and told yourself that you loved him and nothing else. Consequences are an integral part of the choices we make. He must have come to you before you gave birth to him. He is angry only with himself. No one has and is not obliged to help you, the child is his and he has rights over him as much as you.
Talk to a good lawyer about what can be done.
The story lacks the answer to the question "how did you get here?" What attracted you to it in the beginning, when did you start showing your bad sides, why didn't you pay attention to them in time ... I think this answer starts the solution to your problem .
So it prevents you from seeing others, which is normal, and you accept it as mental harassment.