I have a "husband" with whom I live and two children. However, for a long time now he has become very badly attached to both me and the children. A 49-year-old man accidentally wrote to me. We wrote to each other, and for me everything was like that, I told him how we didn't get along, how he cheated on me with a friend of mine, how badly he treated his children, etc. after a while wrote that he wants to see me and be with me to live with the children. I'm 26. to admit and I like him (although I haven't seen him live), he had a wife and a 13-year-old child (without marriage) who cheated on him and went to live with another man. Do you think that with such a big difference something would happen? Because when I look at men up to 30-35 years old what they are .. that they are useless ..
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Yes, there will be a new topic on the site - "Lie to me, live with me and my children and leave me."
You are 26 and you want to commit to 49? Sorry, but this is going to be a bad joke. You will not get the relationship. Between my mother and father there are 10 years. difference, I will not tell you how the difference affects them. Even I would not dare to have a huge difference with the person next to me. I just can't stand his attitude. I think he's looking for someone to look after his house.
My first husband and the father of my child is very different in age. I'll tell you the disadvantages - he is getting older, he has no strength for sex, he is starting to be interested in retirement issues concerning health, medicines. He ate garlic as if for health, in the morning he smelled like an old man in the room. He is visibly getting older. Well, do not break and do not go to bars, but what is the plus against the background of the minuses? With the same success you can take your grandfather home to watch him. That's why my second one is my age. Educated, faithful, caring, energetic and potent, this is what a young woman needs. Not uncles, to do to him. half an hour blowjob, you want sex and everything. And it's a good idea that he'll be sitting at home and won't cheat if he stuffs himself with onions, beer, chops seeds and rubs your couch from lying down. Not to mention as a parent zero.
If you like it and you're happy it doesn't make much difference.
Author, why do you put everyone under a common denominator ??? If a man between the ages of 30-35 has disappointed you, that doesn't mean you automatically make a sieve just for that age limit! As for me, I can tell you from experience that women under the age of 30 don't get up ... Yes, but no - only some. It is also looked at which zodiac sign it is ... Not to miss the material condition! And whether there will be a car and an apartment is still not a guarantee that he will not beat you, cheat, insure and kill you.
Fiction This is a kind of Fantomas, you will get into a movie that will become a horror movie, for you to know!
It will not be the difference is big. My husband and I are 10 years apart, not much, but he grew up in the 80s, I in the 90s. That is, he grew up and studied and lived during his childhood during communism. Difference in thinking, difference on an emotional level and in many things in general. While I was 10, he was 20 - active sex, etc. Now he is old and tired for me and for every other woman. And you and your candidate with a 23-year difference do not think of me. He is old, you are young, you need emotions and vitality, apart from controlling you as a parent, I don't see anything else if you start a relationship.
It's all up to the man. They can be said for women that they are not literate until 35, but in reality those who did not realize it until 25 and will not do it until 45. In this case, everything sounds idyllic, but you haven't even seen this man live as far as I understand. First, find out what it is, what kind of product it is and don't trust it too easily. And if you want to dump your husband, do it for yourself and your children, not because you have come up with someone more comfortable. Then you will be able to calmly decide what is best for you. Other men may like you to suit you, but in most cases, really decent men will not deal with a woman who is engaged. If you free yourself, you open up many more opportunities.
All the same story - a bored woman wants a man to pay attention to her. He puts his own in quotes and deifies the other. Of course the other was betrayed by a terrible woman, infidelity, grief and you come different .... bored housewife thirsty for sex. Leave your husband, take the two children and take them to a man who will never look after strangers. You will return with the feat of a homeless queue to yours and then you will write a topic like the one where he asked if my lover owed me support. I am a woman too, but I swear many simple women write here. Understand that this is life. Diapers, bills, deprivations, be it financial, personal time, etc. Why did you give birth to two children? What will you teach them? I remarried, at 33, with 2 children. Not with my first husband, things went smoothly, nor with my second. I realized what a family is only at 30! I sit and last, I look after the children and I try to find time for my husband and me. Nothing is like in the beginning, but it is not the same for me. When they flood accounts, financial problems, 2 children get sick one after the other, a man who works non-stop to give you everything, the priorities are different. I have always wondered in this difficult life, crushing everyday life when and how you find the time and energy to think about infidelity, foreign men or women and wonder how to lie and say so as not to get caught .... After motherhood I was left without work, no one to look after the child, is not accepted in the garden. My husband works in 2 places to support us and I feel terrible. I help him as much as I can and I have completely and completely taken over the children and all kinds of household chores. I'm bored all day with 2 children and everyday life ... we fight with life together. He is tired and has no time for us. Not for sex, not for walks and so on. . Can you imagine while he pushes day after day to put me on the table to wonder who to sleep with, because I'm lonely ... Well, there is no such impudence in the universe. The coin has 2 sides. Respect your husbands a little, they are the fathers of your children. A little common sense, but on time.
Men 30-35 years old are not good for anything, and you are 26 / really / with children / how much / are you good for something. In my eyes, you are not good for anything, because who is this man to burden himself with other people's children plus his own. You think that your age is the most important element in your relationship with an older man. You are very wrong.
My parents are 12 years old and have such a family ... I envy them that I will hardly get along with my future husband. My father is a super young and athletic man, and he is 58 years old, even people who don't know them give them a go. 4-5 g difference. But the difference you describe is definitely not small and will be obvious. You better not get hired, and if you can't stand the current one, leave him.
On the subject: in principle, something can happen. But it does not mean that you will get it with him. I am impressed by some things from your thought process: - he did not "write to you by chance", it was quite targeted - a woman could not stand it anymore - you grab the first straw - you did not see him live, and we are already discussing your future - you are in a hurry with the generalizations (men aged 30-35), there are men-children, insecure men, men-strippers and decent men of all ages.