Woman22 6 months ago, the man my heart was beating for left me with the most disgusting excuse I received only 2 weeks after he told me to separate. With a lot of fighting spirit, I gathered the strength to ask for answers to the questions that tormented me day and night. "I haven't had feelings for you in a long time, I just didn't know how to tell you." Yes ... Love is blind. We were together for 3 years. I still loved him madly and did absolutely everything for US to make us happy. We have never cheated on each other, etc. After receiving an answer for his behavior and decision instead of regret and self-denial - I felt angry. I would say that he successfully made me hate him, and after all this two weeks of hell, I finally felt calm. Calm down, it wasn't my fault. That I fought to the end. For some time before parting with this man there was a man, who has unrealistic feelings for me. We have known each other for 5 years and we are extremely close friends. The fact is that his feelings arose when my ex and I were in their penultimate scandal. This new man is an incredibly kind, loving and considerate man, to whom I do not walk in love, as I do not walk for me. The truth is that all this time (nearly 8 months), he did not stop caring for me, despite the fact that I denied him feelings. I am still healing from this past relationship of mine. For me, this was another failure, from which I lost not only my partner but also my best friend. I'm afraid to get in a relationship with a man because I don't know if I'm capable of loving so much again. I'm afraid to get in a relationship from which to leave without 1 person close to me. I'm afraid they'll hurt me again. I'm afraid, that I will not be able to love him as much as he loves me, because of what I have already experienced. But most of all, I'm afraid that time passes and with each passing day, little by little, I lose a person who loves me madly. I lose him because I can't hurt him to continue to love me and end up wasting his life in me. What to do? I want to give myself more time .. At least a little more .. But I'm afraid that when I'm ready, it will be too late. And believe me, I will not meet a second person like him. Not if I lost him and became depressed again. Thank you. What to do? I want to give myself more time .. At least a little more .. But I'm afraid that when I'm ready, it will be too late. And believe me, I will not meet a second person like him. Not if I lost him and became depressed again. Thank you. What to do? I want to give myself more time .. At least a little more .. But I'm afraid that when I'm ready, it will be too late. And believe me, I will not meet a second person like him. Not if I lost him and became depressed again. Thank you.
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I understand what you went through. Except that I had to wait much longer for some words to allow me to move on. Accordingly, I know how difficult it is and how long it takes and you may never feel ready. Or maybe your man will allow you to forget the past and the pain. Don't miss it, so that you don't regret it later, such chances are not eternal, and if you miss each other, then there may be no going back.
A broken heart can love three times as much, as long as it has already come together. You worry that you will miss something beautiful, but you do not feel ready to appreciate a new relationship and love again. You need time, don't force yourself. You can try to be with this person, but if you are right that you are not ready, you will break his heart to save yours.
Until you feel completely ready, don't take steps, I think.
Look, give him a chance, but move very slowly, lightly and calmly in your relationship! I'm sure you can't be indifferent to such a person, especially since I didn't mention anywhere that you're not attracted to a gram or that you have to force yourself to be with him in principle. That's why I think he is nice to you and if you walk together slowly next to each other, things will work out, it may even be more beautiful and complete than your previous relationship!
From the author: I have decided. I talked to him about everything. Once again, he fully understood me and gave me his time, for which I have to decide if I could live with him. I don't want to get in a relationship without strong feelings, I can't hurt him, I appreciate him too much. Squeeze my thumbs one day to reunite with someone who would truly appreciate my love. This man is definitely not to be missed, but I have to feel ready myself, otherwise it doesn't make sense. Thank you.
It can't be broken again. That's life.
Go out more often and have fun, so you will close your friendship and you will have the opportunity to find yourself in favorable circumstances, in which your intuition will speak to you and you will understand what to do. If there is no moment when you are together to move on to the next intimate touch or even a feeling, then it is not for you. But at least allow yourself to step back from your fear and live in the moment shared with a good and kind person. Good luck.
a person either attracts you immediately and strongly or there is no point in pushing, let this friend go too