Hello! A 12-year-old girl writes to you. I know, I'm still young, but I'm wondering some questions. I am in the sixth grade and my studies are going well, I am an excellent student and I want to develop. I have thought of many things in the future, I have an idea of what I will do, but it is too early to really say. I'm a messy person, chaotic. I don't squirm in front of the mirror, in general, the appearance, unlike most of my classmates, is secondary. I learn a lot, I like to do this and realize that I am one step closer to my goal. But, I'm afraid of one thing called puberty. My relatives kept mocking me that I would stop studying and deal with boyfriends and so on, but I kept doing what I wanted and I didn't give them the opportunity to make fun. So ... to this day. Now they take me more seriously, but it's nothing special. I'm waiting for 12th grade, it will be understood there. But it's not right, in my opinion, to upset someone this way. I take care of my body, I don't like sports, but I like to walk. What I'm afraid of is that, like most children, my moods will change, I will behave rudely, I won't think about learning, but about love, etc. However, it sounds a bit fantastic to me to depend entirely on puberty and upbringing and accumulated so far is the most important, but .. I am 1, 60 tall and weigh 35 kg. I don't have any complexes, but I don't want to be depressed, like most teenagers. How can I not fall into such states and fall into the trap of puberty? Thanks! I will behave rudely, I will not think about learning, but about love, etc. However, it sounds a bit fantastic to me to depend entirely on puberty and upbringing and the accumulated so far is the most important thing, but .. I am tall 1, 60 and weighs 35 kg. I don't have any complexes, but I don't want to be depressed, like most teenagers. How can I not fall into such states and fall into the trap of puberty? Thanks! I will behave rudely, I will not think about learning, but about love, etc. However, it sounds a bit fantastic to me to depend entirely on puberty and upbringing and the accumulated so far is the most important thing, but .. I am tall 1, 60 and weighs 35 kg. I don't have any complexes, but I don't want to be depressed, like most teenagers. How can I not fall into such states and fall into the trap of puberty? Thanks!
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Nothing will change as long as your thinking is like that. If you know what you want and you have gained enough "experience" in doing it, that is, "learning", so it will be in the future, for the simple reason that it has become a habit. And a useful habit. So don't worry.
Not that anything, but it's not normal to be 35 pounds. ; / Eat more!
Some have a very difficult puberty, but there are other factors, such as family environment, upbringing, circle of friends, etc. I, for example, was brought up quite strictly and did not have this opportunity for a turbulent puberty. Apart from the fact that my face was pimpled and I became very sensitive, everything made me feel better ... There was nothing else for me. Everyone is different. Don't worry, don't think about it from now on. You will not lose your mind if you think so :)
You are only 12 and you express yourself so well. I am glad that there are more such students! Good luck and continue with your development, dear child!
Hello! :) I don't think you really have anything to worry about. I'm an 18-year-old girl, I've been just like you since I was a child - I've always put teaching first, no matter what life has to offer. Some changes occur during puberty, but they are not striking. In my case, for example, it definitely didn't affect my way of thinking or my desire to be better and better, to develop. My body changed (normal) - bust, ass, pelvis, I got a little acne, menstruation. I turned 15 and for the first time I had a relationship with a person of the opposite sex, and nothing serious happened between us. That is, I did not give myself completely. We were together for 4 months, and I was again more interested in myself, my knowledge, the tests and trials. Childish "love" failed to change that trait of mine, but he managed to turn me into a more mature, moderate man. I've been single ever since. Well, I had a relationship, but it lasted no more than a week, because I found that I had nothing to give. As for the mood - I used to be angry, sad, but again - it's all normal. It is human. The important thing is to be able to learn self-control in front of others (no one is obliged to listen to grunts, for example). Don't think so much, don't bother unnecessarily. What needs to happen will happen! - Martina, 18 :) for example). Don't think so much, don't bother unnecessarily. What needs to happen will happen! - Martina, 18 :) for example). Don't think so much, don't bother unnecessarily. What needs to happen will happen! - Martina, 18 :)
The trick is not to care about people's opinions - not to be tied to criticism and ridicule from anyone, including your relatives. Also, don't try to prove yourself to people you really don't deserve to prove yourself to. And for learning - you will not get bored only if you learn things that you really like. If you force yourself to learn something that your people want to learn at some point, you will collapse emotionally because it is something you do by force. Remember that you don't have to be an excellent student in everything, and even if you are currently (which is not bad), you probably know that not every subject is close to your heart. And the goal of a person who wants to be happy is to do what is really interesting to him. And by the way, it sounds a bit fantastic, as you put it, because the truth is that every age has its difficulties. It's good to be mentally minded that a lot of so-called 'grown-ups' often underestimate teenagers just because they're in their teens. And it is very important that you do not care about them and if possible do not tie them at all. Even in general, until about 24-25-26, there is a possibility that you will meet people (several years old, right) who will perceive you as a person who is ... a kind (still) susceptible to manipulation, which can be influenced, which can be used for this and that ... it's a long time for an explanation ... just stick to the first sentence I wrote you and you should be okay. And it is very important that you do not care about them and if possible do not tie them at all. Even in general, until about 24-25-26, there is a possibility that you will meet people (several years old, right) who will perceive you as a person who is ... a kind (still) susceptible to manipulation, which can be influenced, which can be used for this and that ... it's a long time for an explanation ... just stick to the first sentence I wrote you and you should be okay. And it is very important that you do not care about them and if possible do not tie them at all. Even in general, until about 24-25-26, there is a possibility that you will meet people (several years old, right) who will perceive you as a person who is ... a kind (still) susceptible to manipulation, which can be influenced, which can be used for this and that ... abe is a long time for explanation ... just stick to the first sentence I wrote you and you should be okay.
Not worth your wonderful thinking! As if I wrote it! If you say that you are also from Varna, then we are one person! One girl
Number 2. Brother, I know a guy who is in 7th grade and weighs 29 kilos. For a girl it is not who knows what, but it is still weak. And about the topic. It is possible to get depressed or to have a change of mood, to change there is no way to get away with things from puberty, but everything will be ok do not worry. After all, your 6th grade should already be in puberty and it depends on you how things will develop. ;)
You think of a girl your age as a mature person, but aren't those 35 kilos a little - at least 60 70 should be for your height. Eat more and you will succeed for your height you need to be a maximum of 60 or 70 kilograms -35 are not enough
They told me them too, but they were wrong. My dream at 20 is the same as it was at 12. I made decisions I didn't think I would make, but over time I became a little smarter and started thinking about food, not just dreams. In the end I did not give up, rather I try to work in 2 different directions. In puberty I went out almost every day, I had love and friends, but this life happened after homework and school. The point is not to be lazy, it is clear that you will want to live your years, but homework does not take more than 2 hours. It's all about priorities and thinking. It is a fabrication that one cannot balance between duties and pleasures, everyone can, but few people try because organization, patience and motivation are required. You do not give up, work responsibly and I hope you will have everything you dream of now. To reassure you, I want to share that my first love was dizzying, it was an incredible thrill, but it was the thing that made me work a little harder every day than before. I was with a man who would never let me fail and would refuse to meet or talk on his own if he knew I hadn't learned my lessons. We had our class, which was strictly observed and before that class were homework and lessons, and then there was love. Follow your heart as you use your brain, try to find that balance that makes you happy. Don't listen to anyone, you can have everything, as long as you work for it. who would never let me fail and would refuse to meet or talk on his own if he knew I hadn't learned my lessons. We had our class, which was strictly observed and before that class were homework and lessons, and then there was love. Follow your heart as you use your brain, try to find that balance that makes you happy. Don't listen to anyone, you can have everything, as long as you work for it. who would never let me fail and would refuse to meet or talk on his own if he knew I hadn't learned my lessons. We had our class, which was strictly observed and before that class were homework and lessons, and then there was love. Follow your heart as you use your brain, try to find that balance that makes you happy. Don't listen to anyone, you can have everything, as long as you work for it.
My dream at 12 was to finish and start a good job. And I achieved it. Then I realized that I need a new dream :(
Number 9 .. I'm from Varna: -D :-D :-D So, thanks for all the comments! About 60-70 kilograms for me is already overweight, just my structure is such a small and thin body, long and weak legs, outlines around the bones. My father is like that. Regarding all other positive comments - thank you from the bottom of my heart. So I will do so by combining all your advice in one conclusion - I do not care about the rest of the opinion, not to be influenced by other people's opinion, to be myself and continue my development, to put learning before everything and to be organized, to have the opportunity for pleasure and rest, and no one is obliged to listen to my grumbling and drooling, because it is unethical, rude, disrespectful, ugly. Thank you again! I got a clear idea! -The author
I am number 9 and I am also from Varna!
To me personally, it all seems a bit exaggerated with puberty. I have absolutely never been depressed, nor have I been more emotional than I am now. The only thing I remember very clearly is that at the age of 16-17 I accumulated a little more anger, it filled the school environment mostly. The first signs of acne started in 9th grade, and every week I had a new friend on my face. At first I thought it would never stop and I would have pimples before I was 30 years old. But at the age of 19 the acne stopped, the scars started to fade and by the age of 21 I was like a new person, and plus, I have oily skin, which in the beginning I had no idea what to apply, etc., which is also contributed to acne. I know girls who have not had a single pimple during their entire puberty, but when they were in their 20s, they started to appear. Drinking a lot of water helps, it sounds worn out, but it's completely true. My first period was in 7th grade and since then, until the age of 20, it has not been regular. I want to say this about those girls who are worried that they didn't get it when they should. Stress has a huge impact on the case, so don't be surprised if it doesn't come on time. Never do the thing you don't want to do, just because most people do it. In my class, almost everyone smoked, except me and a few other girls. I don't mind those who smoke, everyone decides for themselves, but if they start offering you if you want, pull only once, don't. At first I thought it was cool because the guy I liked was smoking and going out in the company of smokers (which I really wanted to be in because they were cool to me), and I even thought about starting to smoke myself, so I can get closer to him that way. Now that I look back, I'm outraged by my thinking. To my delight, I didn't do it, which I'm very happy about. Realistically, not to say that they were geeks at school, but they were close to that. I am very glad that I did not cross paths with them, and then I was very sad about it. There will be dramas, there is no way to do without them, there will be hypocrisy, so be careful with whom you share what, because everyone can turn their back on you at any time. I had the most hypocrisy. Materiality is also a big thing, fortunately for me it appeared in the 12th grade, so there wasn't much left until we separated. Don't rush into relationships, don't be with someone because you don't want to be alone, just don't. When the time is right, the man will come for you. Everyone says, that friends from high school are for life and similar such statements. Of the 25 people, only 2 still keep in touch and I do not regret it. With your head held high, the years will pass without you noticing, so do what you think is right.