Hello, I'm not in love, how could I not look for her, I don't like women. They don't flirt with me or around me all the time. But many people my age already have children (I'll be 30 soon). How does time go, as if I was 25 yesterday ... anyway, can a person adopt an older child born in 2013? Or are they already formed and will be difficult? This year was the most wonderful and I believe that the children born then are special. 2013 was the best year for most people in the world, much more wonderful than the next. And I really want to raise a little man.
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Of course you can. But it is not easy for women themselves.
The author is a man, he says I don't like women. Read more carefully.
Maybe, but as number 1 said, because it will be a little more difficult on your own, secondly, the procedure itself is quite cumbersome and time consuming, especially if you do not want the child to be of Roma origin. A few years ago, there was a report on BTV about a woman waiting for years for a child because of the claims about the origin. My classmate told us a few years ago how, after many unsuccessful attempts by her niece to have a child, she finally adopted, but waited 4-5 years until a suitable child was found for the same reasons.
You are a man alone. It will be difficult for you to adopt, and the children are stubbornly in need of a mother. Still a success.
1, why not give 'not at all easily' to a woman herself, or to a man himself, in general to a man himself, who will really be willing to give love to the child, and will not do it, for example, to receive some BGN 300 how many were there, where they give them to those 'foster families' ... The other thing is - if a person wants to adopt, a kind to take on 100 percent of such responsibility, it is certainly much more readable, although that he is alone (which is not really a vice) than those foster families who are just wondering in what scheme to get involved in order to get some levs out of our taxes.
To number 1: The author of the topic is a man not a woman.
The difference between you and the child should be a minimum of 18 and a maximum of 40 years. They will give you a five-year-old child because everyone wants babies, and the big ones are not children. Allocate time for therapies or more intensive activities with the child, because in the homes they are not looked after very well and accordingly they are stopped in their development. However, it is believed that up to 12 years of age a child's intellect can be greatly influenced by appropriate upbringing and activities. Then it can happen again, but up to 12 we are the most susceptible. So do not be afraid of the influence of home, together you will overcome it.
The problem is not the age of the child, but that you want a child and you are alone. Children are the fruit of love, not selfishness. What are you going to do, this child? One day he will want his own family and will fly away from home, and you, because you have watched him and you will have nothing else in this world, will push him and in every way you will prevent him from detaching from you. If you adopt a child, you now completely cut off your chances of finding a wife. Looking at the commenters on the site, most only want their own children to watch and do not accept others. I personally will think that something is wrong with you as long as they are such a fixed idea, and not a normal consequence of your relationship.
Why not try to become a foster parent first and then think about adoption? An acquaintance of the grandmother's watch so fills the void to some extent that his son has already grown up from the nest and lives abroad.
Congratulations on your decision! I like such people. I have a close adoptee and I will give you some advice. Maybe it will take time. We waited 3 years, but we also wanted the child to be a baby. If you want 5 years, I think it will be easier for you. There will be many documents to fill out. I guess once you adopt yourself there will be even more. You will need to specify years / gender / origin, etc. Write from about a 5 month old baby to a 6 year old. Leave a longer space. About the origin. Most likely you will write that it is not from Roma, but I recommend that you write that it may be from Roma, but there are no pronounced features (thick eyebrows, dark hair and the like). Because there are many beautiful Roma. If the child does not have Roma traits and will be brought up by an educated person, it is not a problem for me. Only you will know that. I can explain a lot, but I will stop. If you have questions, post a topic, I will explain everything in detail. GOOD LUCK!
Number eight is a classic portrayals of your own problems. I want to tell him that the fruits of love rot quickly in homes.
Cool, I'm in your position - a bachelor, a little older than you. I also want to have a child. But it shouldn't be. Please dont do it! A child needs a mother and a father. Otherwise, the family is not complete. No matter how cool a man is, he can't replace his mother, or vice versa. I understand your desire to be a parent, but do not cause this to the child, to grow up without a mother. Only my mother raised me, my father left us. And I missed my father's figure very much, that had an impact. Get a cat or a dog - it will still give you love and gratitude, and one owner is enough.
To number 12: One parent is not taken away from him, but at least one parent is given to him. There is a very big difference between the two. The child has no one. At the age of five, there is no one to adopt him. For him, this will be the greatest happiness - to have a home and a parent. One, half, is still better than none.
And I don't think it would be a good idea to adopt a child. Because of the child himself, because I, as number 12, grew up without a father and this definitely hinders me a lot in life. I just can't be happy and I'm always depressed even at this age. There is another moment that you do not realize, because you have not had a child until a moment that is normal. There is no physical way to deal with a child alone. Do you know how much time and effort it takes to raise a child? My wife and I are both together and at times we are exhausted. It should be taken to school in the morning, at noon to be taken, for example, you should take it to various classes, say, to doctors, when it is sick, respectively, you may often have to be absent from work (which will not liked your boss). You have to do household chores, shopping, upbringing, to help him with lessons, to walk him on playgrounds and a bunch of other things. From experience I tell you that these are not a few commitments, even for two (one not working), let alone for one person and working. There were many moments when my wife and I could not and the grandmothers had to help. It is no coincidence that this is done by two parents. My cousin was abandoned with a child, and if I tell you how she's doing on her own, she'll cry. In fact, it works pretty hard. It's good that she has friends and neighbors who help her at least pick up from the garden and occasionally go shopping. Otherwise he could not do it at all. Think about this chapter as well. Do you have at least one friend, mother, etc. to help you at least in some moments? Because imagine, for example, that the child is sick, they brought him back from the garden, and at the same time you can't get out of work right away. When you leave work, the doctors have already closed and you can't take him. Separately at home the refrigerator is empty and you have to shop and cook. And such moments are not insignificant. Not that it's always like that, but there are moments like that.