Did you miss the title? No, I'm not just another frustrated young man with a broken heart. On the contrary! My question is quite different. A bit of background: As I wrote in another topic, at the age of 29 I am happily married to my wife with a child. For half a year, sex has stopped, but this is not the main topic now, although it is closely related to my question. My question is: can a person fall in love again with the person next to him, as in the beginning of their relationship? Everyone with a relationship over 1 year knows what happens. Everyday life and everyday life kill those emotions that you feel for each other in the beginning. I have a relatively large experience with long relationships. My first 2 boyfriends x 3 years, and now my wife and I have been together for 4 years. Every time almost the same thing happens, everyday life overwhelms us and love in its original form disappears, most likely this is why the problems in sex that I mentioned appear. Although my first two relationships failed because of my girlfriends' infidelity, I never allowed myself to, even though I thought about it, but I have established principles that I want to follow. Usually when love disappears, it is either replaced by hatred, or indifference, or LOVE and respect. At the moment, as I mentioned in my other topic, I feel a strong and endless love for a woman, respect and friendship, but not love ... I feel her more as a very good friend, as a sister, than as a woman. And lately, I'm starting to miss that feeling of falling in love a lot. Those emotions when you kiss for the first time, the emotion when you can't wait to see or hear your loved one, the smile that appears only when you think about him. And since I neither want to separate nor want to cheat on myself, I thought about this question: CAN I FALL IN LOVE WITH MY WIFE AGAIN? I am sure that there are people here with experience and all kinds of positions, so I will be glad to hear your opinion on this issue! Have a nice day and thanks for the answers! :)
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To be able to!
Absolutely not! It's like ... can the same lunch be freshly prepared for the second time ... Or .. can you learn the news from last year's newspaper .. Maybe other feelings may arise between you - of partnership, of friendship, of mutual respect, pride in the success of the other, but ... falling in love again - directly forget!
Yes, you will fall in love again! This is absolutely certain. But unfortunately - not in his wife :)
In my opinion. This is an initial past stage. Love, dear author, is not just thrills, first kisses, butterflies and first sex with someone, it is an alloy of many more things - from trust, respect, patience, sacrifice of self-interest and ego to the wisdom to realize and apply in your life the maxim that love does not take, it only wants to give. If it is true, love will withstand all trials, will pass through all obstacles and sufferings. When you look at the young and handsome man next to you, imagine him as an old man and ask to be with him even then, to love him. Few people can do it. That's how I understand it. For another it must be something else.