Hello. I am an 18-year-old girl. I know my life is just beginning, but I want to love. I have been alone for more than 2 years. I've had a few suitors, but nothing to impress me ... Until last month. I met a really great boy. But our acquaintance happened through the Internet. And even worse is that it is 300 km from my city. So we met and kept in touch. I've seen pictures of him, do we talk, do we fit a lot ... So much, that he invited me to go to. guests at them. My problem is that I'm scared and I don't know how to tell the people around me who, if I go, need to know where I'm going.
And I'm not sure if it's possible that our feelings are real ... Please tell me, would you go? I like it a lot, but I'm not sure what to do. So I ask for advice.
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alicestein answered · July 18, 2020
I don't think you can have feelings on the internet, but you can definitely meet someone on the internet with whom you can have feelings later.
For a first meeting with such a stranger, I advise you either to come to your city or you to go, but not alone, but take a close friend. Stay in a local hotel and don't stay with them or see yourself somewhere else, but don't go to them alone.
You are 18 years old, most likely still a student, you live with yours, and if he is older and works, he will probably have the opportunity to come to your city, and who knows - when you graduate you can go to work. either to live in his city or to go somewhere together
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bubblesubboy answered · July 18, 2020
in no case, invite him to your city otherwise you risk lifelong injuries
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angiebaby78 answered · July 18, 2020
I certainly wouldn't go to the feet of someone I "know" only from the internet. it is better for him to come to your city, to go to a hotel, then you can see yourself in a neutral place - a cafe, a restaurant, a park and see how things will go.
otherwise everyone can be behind the monitor and the keyboard, and the kind words can be copy-paste. The Internet can be a place to meet, but it cannot replace real life, so the feelings there you can have towards the image that is built, not towards the real person.
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crazykelley10 answered · July 18, 2020
Of course he can ... I met my great love on the net, even before I saw him live I knew I loved him. The first meeting was in a foreign city for both of us, ie on neutral ground. But you are still young and you probably do not have much experience with men, so it would be better for him to come to you. Be careful, it is obligatory for someone close to you to know where and with whom you are, even ask a friend to call you every 2 hours, for example, to tell her if you have a problem. You also need to have an action plan if you don't pick up the phone ... I wish you a wonderful first date, but always keep one thing in mind ...
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hellendraw answered · July 18, 2020
We are the same age as him. He has the opportunity to come and will come, but he wants us to go to his city together afterward.
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darkdaydream7 answered · July 18, 2020
I wouldn't go. And for the feelings - definitely not
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sophie_stone_ answered · July 19, 2020
The question is a bit naive, of course, there may be feelings through the Internet. You're testing them on this boy right now. The difference with the real acquaintance is the less information you receive about his personality, which gives room for expression of your imagination to supplement the missing elements according to your hopes and not according to reality. In real acquaintances, there is also a need for time to get to know each other, and it is not uncommon after a few months, when they get to know each other, to find inappropriate traits in the other and to separate.
By no means go to him, a gentleman would suggest that he come to you himself. It seems doubtful to me that for only a month he has been offering you to go 300 km. to him. Invite him to come to you. They say that love is blind. I would say that virtual falling in love is even more blind.
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alisonandcristh answered · July 19, 2020
I was 24 years old and I also met a girl online. She claimed that she loved me now for 3 years. later she still claims that I am the most important in her life. I love her, not like before, but I love her. We never saw each other, we just wrote to each other. So I think we love the words we write to rather than ourselves. But there was a moment when she left with a real boy, from her city, and I experienced disappointment and anger.
Yes, I can say that even though we only wrote, there are definitely feelings in both of us.
But I would not compare them with the feelings that are felt towards a real person.
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kellyrun answered · July 19, 2020
I am the author. I say this that I will not go directly to him. He will come here first. Then we will eventually go to his city.
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mina_babe1 answered · July 20, 2020
Absolutely NOT! There may be illusion, hope and desire, but no feelings. As "primitive" as it sounds, isn't it to observe in conversations and body language, to judge according to it, to look into the eyes, to feel, even to smell ... there can be no feelings. They are a chemical process that cannot happen through a computer screen.
Still, if you like it (or at least you have the illusion) it doesn't matter, it's even advisable to see each other, but the fact that he invites you to our territory is not masculine at all. Either he comes to your city and sees you in a public place, or if you go you are not alone. If. I will have a second meeting and after at least one of your relatives knows him, you may decide to go to his city. Don't accept sleeping with him until you're sure you want something more. If it's for sex, he'll give up quickly.