I want valuable advice. We were with my boy for almost half a year, after which I left him, not because I wanted to, but my parents forced me, I was small and I listened to them. I left him, time passed, I caught another ... I thought that with the new one I would kill my boy from my heart, but alas ... I hurt myself. After two years of pain, we got together with great difficulty and we are together again. We both love each other, but he doesn't believe me. I understand him, but we are already big, in five years I proved to him that not only can he trust me, but he is in the first place in my life - before work, before parents, relatives, friends. And yet he cannot regain his trust. We have a very strong spiritual connection with each other as people, but I don't know how to regain that trust. He has recently started to disrespect me and that worries me a lot. It's true that we both have a lot of problems, but I don't think we should be pitted against each other, but deal with them together. I talk to him about it, he realizes it, he says the word "sorry" and I see how it still hurts him and soon poisoning caused by mistrust and disrespect begins again. We live together, I do everything for him, the house is tidy, and the more I love him, the more he gets on my head. I want to regain my trust and respect. If anyone knows a recipe to share! I want advice - should I continue to fight for this relationship, since even if we break up I do not want to have any other man in my life? as well as disrespect. We live together, I do everything for him, the house is tidy, and the more I love him, the more he gets on my head. I want to regain my trust and respect. If anyone knows a recipe to share! I want advice - should I continue to fight for this relationship, since even if we break up I do not want to have any other man in my life? as well as disrespect. We live together, I do everything for him, the house is tidy, and the more I love him, the more he gets on my head. I want to regain my trust and respect. If anyone knows a recipe to share! I want advice - should I continue to fight for this relationship, since even if we break up I do not want to have any other man in my life?
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In your case, only perseverance and proof will win his trust, be patient and do not force, you will succeed! SuccessChocolate
Trust, contrary to all the clichés that exist for him, is something that is given as a gift, it is not built. I have been betrayed many times, but I believe because when I do not believe, I suffer. Look ... there is a truth that is valid in full force. You cannot make the other love you, trust you, you can only be a person worthy of love and faith. For a relationship you work bilaterally, even if you fight for it alone - it makes no sense. He himself must want to water the flower of your relationship every day, all you can do is be happy, support him, show him that you are ready to build a future for this relationship - everything else is simply not in yours power. Unfortunately or happily, tomorrow is not guaranteed ... now you can be beautiful, worthy and love your boy - what else could you do. Flame
For a relationship to be normal, not only does one have to compromise, but so does the other. Sit down and talk, say that you are not to blame for your parents' decision and that you were with that boy in order to stop hurting you!
Hey don't be sad ... time will tell if he is the man for you !! It is quite normal for him to be afraid ... not to lose you again !! And .. maybe that's why he behaves like that but you realized your mistake .. he is also certainly not sinless !! .. I am sure that you will find out if he is the man for you .. and if he is not one day you will find your soul mate !! Calm down !! Without rain there will be no rainbow !!
Look, my girl, I've been through something like this, albeit a lot more seriously. First of all - nothing depends on you at the moment, the past cannot be changed, the future is unclear - it all depends on the boy, on his strength and spirituality. Then the boy must forgive you, and sincerely, from within. Trust can be strengthened, albeit difficult, over time, but it depends on the person. Of course, even if trust and respect, which is difficult in itself, are restored, there will always be one thing in mind - somewhere deep inside the mind. It's been a long time, things are getting worse, which means he hasn't forgiven you, he doesn't forgive you, and he doesn't seem to ever do it because he doesn't have the strength to do so. I have to disappoint you, but from now on things will get worse until they reach their natural end. There's nothing you can do, if you want to be a decent housewife, a super erotic model and whatever you can think of there - you will not satisfy him, because his thought will always be there. You are already at the crossroads and the only thing you can do is sit down and talk to yourself that the past cannot go back or change, the past does not exist and does not exist, if the boy is smart and strong, he will forgive you and find out (well, there will be moments of remission), if not - you have no future. Good luck.
Tell him, explain to him how you feel, tell him that he can trust you, I think you have already proved what you need! ;)
You look like an intelligent being, writing and expressing the case. If you lose trust once, there is no going back, that's how you will make sure, your husband will show it to you ... and finally you mention separation, this is very indicative, clarify with yourself. In my opinion, you say it's been 2 years and you've reunited, it's your fault you had to continue without it, it's both bad, it's no guarantee for the people of the past, it won't show up again in life, and I understand you until somewhere, but we must beware of this, because it is very wrong. I will follow the topic, share it again in the future ... Greetings
... One question during those two years you weren't together ... did you see each other, were you "indifferent" to him and did you care about him at all after you cut him off right away ... ? !!
I have the same problem, it's just painful :(. My friend says that if I do the right things for him, he will gradually start to believe me, but even if I do that, he says I'm not doing anything. I have the feeling that it's just impossible. , and I do not want it to be so and after one is made to suffer, that is, sooner or later his friend will find another who can make him happy. I do not know what to do. I sympathize with you is very painful and tiring.
From the author: To Number 8 - I have not stopped loving him for a moment. I left him because my parents told me to. I explained to him how things were, because he was first and foremost my best friend. Then he absolutely categorically offered me to live with him, to help me, to start a business, but to be both of us and God forbid we get married one day. When I heard this, I became even more frightened. And the easiest thing for me was just to leave. Now I'm sorry, because I wasn't ready for that then, but I can't change things. I am guilty of this act and I will live with it all my life. For these two years apart, I called him 2-3 times a day, but he did not answer me, I texted him often, I asked him to forgive me, and only before we made two years apart did he agree to listen to me. While we were separated, I did another stupid thing - I decided to find another one - which I regret 10 times more, not only did I hurt the other with my indifference to his feelings, but I also hurt myself more and made my boyfriend even more disappointed. These were my years when I didn't know where to take, what I wanted and how to achieve it. My boy is an extremely difficult person (he is a Scorpio zodiac sign) - unsurpassed squirrel, very spiteful, very vindictive, but thank God that he loves me infinitely and is not able to hurt me in any other way than with words. And let me clarify the above comments - today we have a great relationship, we love each other as if we met yesterday, we always have a thrill between us, but there comes a time when I do not know what is happening to him. When he's more nervous at work or something is bothering him, he starts making money on me. And for all these old things. It's just that his need to vent his anger, and even when he was calm, he told me when he saw him that he was starting to pick on me, to go out and not pay attention to him. And he does not want to behave like that with me, because he loves me and realizes everything, but when his nerves are more, he immediately thinks of before and starts eating me. I can't figure out what's wrong with him. Thinking about the past and being able to start throwing everything past him. Will this ever change ?! I can't figure out what's wrong with him. Thinking about the past and being able to start throwing everything past him. Will this ever change ?! I can't figure out what's wrong with him. Thinking about the past and being able to start throwing everything past him. Will this ever change ?!
To burn once yes, but to burn a person a second time is a living masochism. Trust is unlikely to return, because he is afraid of hurting him again, three times .... Once you betrayed him, it means that there will be more sooner or later, so the problem is in you and not in him. Think before you touch the stove on. This will be a lesson for the next one ... If you pass it on, then you haven't learned the lesson (supposedly you can't do anything) SUCCESS