Hello, I'm desperate now. Men hurt me terribly. They don't show anything serious. They only want sex and only when it is convenient for them. I wonder if I don't play every month, if something serious will happen. My experience shows that this does not work much. For example, a man invited me to them every Saturday night. I told him why we didn't see each other during the day, he was busy. I refused him several times and he told me that I was not serious and did not want to deal with me. He had started relationships and so on .... Yes. They are so bad that they are too lazy to invite you to a meeting. I look good, I'm smart, they take me down, sex, but that's it. Thought. That the mistake is in me. That I write to them a lot and they get bored ... And this is not ... I stopped, the result is the same. At the slightest interest on my part, they take me for granted. Do you think that if I start spinning for a month without letting him go, will it be more serious? unfortunately, men who did not insist on sex were even more tragic. They turn out to be non-sexual, and maybe that's why they don't step in at first. I am afraid that this will attract only such people. Just to add that I behave positively, I'm not jealous, I don't care about them ... I don't know what else I need to change and do to stop this ..
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Now, I do not offend anyone, but in my male company we talked about women with whom we would only be sexual, but so far. I don't know what you are, but we came to the conclusion that as soon as we see them, we know what they are like. You can't have anything else with them. Easy, "light".
If you do not have sex for a month and therefore there is no good reason, it can lead to your separation.
How old? If you are over 20 and not a virgin, it is perfectly normal to sleep with someone in the beginning. Can you have a relationship with someone without sexual attraction? I've had relationships that started with sex, let's stop with these prejudices. You don't make a sacrifice if you sleep with someone, even for one night. Stop benefiting her vagina. It doesn't wear out ... F, 31
definitely not whether you will delay or not it doesn't matter things happen or don't happen love is blind, it's not looking for guarantees because no one can give them to you
I don't know if there will be comments that will spit on you, but I think a lot of young, beautiful and intelligent girls have this problem. Maybe you behave in some way or you speak so that they think they can play with you and not take you seriously. Keep in mind that if you have something serious, they should introduce the girl to her parents - what she looks like, how she talks, whether she works / studies, whether she is good, etc. For example, I have tattoos that his mother knows about, but his grandparents are very much against it and hide it from them (as he does his own). It's not always your fault, of course, but I'd tell you to change the environment, maybe the type of boys, and focus on yourself until you find someone who appreciates you.
It seems that something in you makes them perceive you as a number, not as a woman with whom they would like to have a relationship. In my opinion, this is your disguised low self-esteem, which they perceive and take advantage of. You fail to earn their respect for this reason. Defend yourself more, tell the man directly, when something is not to your liking, be a woman with class. And yes, definitely postponing sex is part of the game.
There is a book - "Men fall for bitches." Don't be shocked by the title. Read it and the situation will become clear to you.
Author, if a person stumbles constantly, the blame is not in the stones, but in him. Apparently something in you leads men to think that you are easy, I apologize for the word, I do not want to offend you. But the man usually knocks on every door, wherever it is opened. Women also like sex for the sake of sex, with a cool and interesting man, but the inherited false morals, conservatism and double standard in the assessment of female and male behavior prevent them from acknowledging it. That's why all sorts of "schemes" are invented, nonsense like "but I'm not one of those", "I'm not like that", rules for the third, fifth, tenth meeting, etc. In the end, the "moralist" in question again lies that she even surprises the man with enviable skills and experience. Lying mainly to herself, how modest and inaccessible she is. If you really fall in love, shaking and insane and if you are lucky enough to answer him with the same, the time until the first intimate contact is irrelevant. This is important after him.