My friend is returning to her hometown for the weekend. Write to me to go out, but at this moment I am not well financially and now is not the time for me to spend money on pubs. Would you say that reason? I just want to add that some time ago I confided something very personal and intimate, and she told it to other friends of ours, and in a particularly offensive way for me. I understood it after a while and I was very sick that they learned this secret of mine, which for me is something very personal. I made my own conclusions and more, I don't trust her at all, even though she is constantly trying to dig into my life. Now he's arguing with me to go out, but I just can't right now. Arguing and arguing is how to tell her the truth that I have a financial problem these days. So when I don't go out, she will start to counter me or avoid me because I refused. He will hardly be offended, but I don't want that. The other thing is, if we go out only the two of us just grumble and grumble about how dumb and boring she is, she's in a hurry to leave or she wants to go to crazy places. However, if we go out in company, he behaves somewhat arrogantly with me in front of others. There is one more thing, I am already married and she is not yet. The fact that I have a child more or less limits me, but she still takes it wrong. I have been friends since I was a child, I respect her, but it is stressful for me. Would you say that about the Finns or what would you say? I have been friends since I was a child, I respect her, but it is stressful for me. Would you say that about the Finns or what would you say? I have been friends since I was a child, I respect her, but it is stressful for me. Would you say that about the Finns or what would you say?
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I read the first paragraph and aha to say to myself "Well, what's so scary or embarrassing, she will understand you, isn't she your friend ..." and I read below. To me, this is neither a friend, nor should you care what she thinks if you refuse to go out. I don't even know how you keep in touch with such a person at all! Let the children know that you can bear to be carried away or to be naughty with you in the presence of other people. If you can't be as direct as your "girlfriend" deserves, divert her desire to go out with some excuse. Apparently in both cases (to see each other and not to) will behave like a fool.
show a little honesty to yourself and just tell her you don't like going out with her. if it bothers you so much to tell her - send me her phone, sometimes I really like to behave badly with someone who deserves it :)
You can share everything with a friend, as long as he is your friend. In your case, we are talking about a woman who betrayed you and behaved arrogantly with you in front of other people. In my opinion, nothing should be shared with such a person. There is no shame in your financial situation, but if you are worried that it will be heard, keep the reason to yourself, it does not need to be made public. In case you want to see each other, which I doubt, say that you have outlived the pubs and you prefer to sit quietly in a cafe. Don't worry about drawing the line on a relationship that is not at all friendly and warm. It is not at all a loss to let go of a person who has long proved to you that he is not with you.
Don't tell her you have a financial problem - she will tell all your acquaintances. Stop all contact with her - do not pick up her phone, do not answer her messages ... It will not be difficult for you if she lives far away and you do not see each other every day ...
I don't know where you will go so much and why you want to go at all, but you can, for example, take water and a salad (or some juice if you are in a bar or a disco) and tell her that you are on a diet and cannot drink. For example.
Do you call "this thing" a friend? !! It doesn't matter what your personal income is or how you arrange your life. To meet a stranger on the street with your child, ask him directly what he thinks of you. I can guarantee you that you will only hear good things. I stopped admitting people to me a long time ago. In the sense of "friends". But we've been together since we were babies. But I respect you. Not to me. I had "friends" before I entered the barracks. There I learned that faith except myself, no one else. Nowadays, 90% of people try to harm the other. For this I have only acquaintances. When I need help, I pay. If I can't pay, I tear my gut myself. Provided she told you. He behaves arrogantly. Uses you as a background. What girlfriend? !! That's right. It hurts when he stabs you in the back, but hers is for the reproductive organ of the one who gave birth to her. Try to check my words. Ask her for some help and see for yourself. Don't deal with it. Just tell her that your child and husband are more important. Then you will see the black side of her essence.
But why do you even want to go out with her? Once you know what will happen. You'll be bored all night because she's bored, then she'll gossip about everything, and in an insulting way, everything you've talked about ... God forbid you tell her you have financial problems. Everyone will know tomorrow! So tell me, what do you gain if you still see each other? Any positive emotions? Have a good time? Noooo! Then why do you want to do it to yourself? But you were friends from childhood, maybe, but in the past. Now this person is not your friend, but just an acquaintance who likes to pretend to be interesting. In your place, I will not explain myself to her at all, I simply state that at the moment there is no way to see each other. To think what he wants. Just don't give her any personal information that you see what's going on, you share one, she spread something else and in the end you look dumb in the eyes of the others because your "girlfriend" told them a lot of nonsense. So why do you even want to keep in touch with such a person? Accept it, you used to be friends, but over time you both changed and now you have nothing in common and there is no point in pretending that you are super fun and pleasant to go out together.