Hello. A young man writes to you, all opinions will be welcome, although I am here just to pour out my soul. I grew up in a close-knit family. My mother never cheated, she always took care of my family and my father. My father didn't cheat either. They still love each other, and maybe that's why I have a desire to have a stable family and a loving wife since I was a child. My mother raised me and brought me up as a gentleman - both to women and to life in general. I have been taught to adore the women I am with. I'm not handsome, but my manners, style and behavior attract many women. When I turned 18, I started looking for a woman to start a good family with. I met a girl from university who I liked very much and with whom I thought I would build this family. For this purpose I worked hard so that she would not miss anything. I pampered her with gifts, tenderness, excursions, I drowned all the love I have in me. She cheated on me. When I asked her why, she replied that she was drunk (it happened at a party with her colleagues). I couldn't forgive, I kept going. After a while I found a very decent Italian girl. And I think only I thought she was decent, because she was spinning 2 more men at the same time. I dumped her, I was disgusted. From her, from yourself, because I believe that what kind of person you are, you attract such a partner. After this relationship, there were several others who followed a similar scenario - I was the donkey who paid for everything, and she cheated. Then I decided to reverse the approach - to be the bad boy. I lasted 2 weeks. The worse I was, the more attached my friend was to me then. But I'm not like that. And the moment I became good, she told me she had found another. That was the moment in which I stopped believing in women. I'm not saying that all women cheat, that's ridiculous, of course, but I'm saying that non-cheating is a negligible percentage and may not be worth looking for. As I squeezed my heart to the limit in the whole carousel of relationships, it shuddered and stopped feeling. I went to bed with a woman for the first time 5 months ago, without any feelings. Then I realized she was married. I thought of her husband. I took his place and became furious. I kicked her out of the house at 3 in the morning. A month later I met my current "girlfriend". I put quotes because she is also married. Do I love her? I'm more attached to her. She speaks against her husband, but does not intend to let him down. She likes the love and tenderness I give her. And I know that if she ever becomes mine, she will find someone else to cheat on me with. That's why I don't rush things. Sex is good, we do it often, sometimes I hunt, I will be a little jealous. She claims she didn't let her husband go because of me. I know this is nonsense and he is trying to throw dust in my eyes. I pretend to believe her, because I already have this one. Yesterday I realized that I am emotionally damaged and even if the most decent and good girl sits in front of me, I still can't believe it. And that I can no longer create a real family. Or maybe someone is meant to be alone. Maybe, as Oscar Wilde said, I am one of those men who have fallen in love and are single ... that I am emotionally damaged and even the most decent and good girl will sit in front of me, I still can't believe it. And that I can no longer create a real family. Or maybe someone is meant to be alone. Maybe, as Oscar Wilde said, I am one of those men who have fallen in love and are single ... that I am emotionally damaged and that even the most decent and good girl will sit in front of me, I still can't believe it. And that I can no longer create a real family. Or maybe someone is meant to be alone. Maybe, as Oscar Wilde said, I am one of those men who have fallen in love and are single ...
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To be educated to be a gentleman is not only required to be able to open the door to women and worship them (the latter is even nonsense). You have to be intelligent, well-read ... This is achieved not only with education, but also with finances. That's why it's so hard to be a gentleman. Anyone can open the baby's door, and she knows it. But just because you're kind and adore her doesn't mean she'll open her legs just for you. This makes you look stupid and uncovered. Such gentlemen's pain and women shovel them. And to be a simpleton is easy, but unfortunately fruitless, as you have seen. I hope you didn't misunderstand me. Accumulate money, be kind, not stupid, and educate yourself, educate yourself, educate yourself.
You will not find a righteous woman. Fuck you and that's it. I'm just wondering where you meet all these women?
To number 1, I'm the author. I haven't talked about money because I don't think it's important for true love. But if I have to add - I have my own company, a shiny car and a nice house. And when I say that I was brought up as a gentleman, I really mean as a gentleman - I am brought up, educated, I usually wear suits and shirts. So money is not a factor very much ...
Stop making up stories. At 18 he started thinking about family! What a boy. Just got rid of his parents he will want to be enslaved immediately!
Unfortunately, your problem started with your mother's "gentlemanly" upbringing. As number 1 mentioned, being a gentleman does not mean putting women on a pedestal and fulfilling all their whims in the hope of opening their legs and taking care of your needs. Subconsciously, this means for them that you place yourself lower than them and "compensate" for the lack of masculinity with gifts, ie you try to buy their favor. Things definitely don't work that way in life, and I see you've already begun to realize that. Your kindness to women automatically puts you in the category of a good boy. The soft and pleasing attitude makes you weak in their eyes, and for a woman weak is equivalent to unattractive and boring. Because you realized your mistake, you stumbled to the other extreme - a bad boy. You've had short-term success, but it's just not your character and things have fallen apart. After all, the truth is in the old cliché - in the middle. To attract women you only need to be a strong and self-sufficient man. You have to have your life, your passions, your goals. Under no circumstances should women be a central theme of it. They should be a nice addition, but not a central theme. Be a gentleman if you like, but if necessary, be firm and uncompromising. Never do anything just to keep a woman in your life at all costs and to tolerate disrespectful and disrespectful behavior. The paradox is that the more independent and self-sufficient you are, the more women begin to respect you and feel more attracted to you. They want the man next to them to be a strong leader and protector, not a scoundrel, who hopes with greasy and gifts to buy a good attitude from them. About your family - in the first place you do not know what your mother and father went through. They may have had their problems, infidelities and dramas that they did not consider necessary to explain to you. Besides, 30-40 years ago, morality was on a completely different level. Infidelity and divorce were almost unthinkable and were strongly condemned by society. This forced people to suppress their true nature and "press their rags" so as not to blow them away. For better or worse, we live in "modern" times, in which men and women (especially them) can express their sexuality much more freely. And true female sexuality is what I described to you above. I wish you success! M43 About your family - in the first place you do not know what your mother and father went through. They may have had their problems, infidelities and dramas that they did not consider necessary to explain to you. Besides, 30-40 years ago, morality was on a completely different level. Infidelity and divorce were almost unthinkable and were strongly condemned by society. This forced people to suppress their true nature and "press their rags" so as not to blow them away. For better or worse, we live in "modern" times, in which men and women (especially them) can express their sexuality much more freely. And true female sexuality is what I described to you above. I wish you success! M43 About your family - in the first place you do not know what your mother and father went through. They may have had their problems, infidelities and dramas that they did not consider necessary to explain to you. Besides, 30-40 years ago, morality was on a completely different level. Infidelity and divorce were almost unthinkable and were strongly condemned by society. This forced people to suppress their true nature and "press their rags" so as not to blow them away. For better or worse, we live in "modern" times, in which men and women (especially them) can express their sexuality much more freely. And true female sexuality is what I described to you above. I wish you success! M43 which they did not consider necessary to explain to you. Besides, 30-40 years ago, morality was on a completely different level. Infidelity and divorce were almost unthinkable and were strongly condemned by society. This forced people to suppress their true nature and "press their rags" so as not to blow them away. For better or worse, we live in "modern" times, in which men and women (especially them) can express their sexuality much more freely. And true female sexuality is what I described to you above. I wish you success! M43 which they did not consider necessary to explain to you. Besides, 30-40 years ago, morality was on a completely different level. Infidelity and divorce were almost unthinkable and were strongly condemned by society. This forced people to suppress their true nature and "press their rags" so as not to blow them away. For better or worse, we live in "modern" times, in which men and women (especially them) can express their sexuality much more freely. And true female sexuality is what I described to you above. I wish you success! M43 For better or worse, we live in "modern" times, in which men and women (especially them) can express their sexuality much more freely. And true female sexuality is what I described to you above. I wish you success! M43 For better or worse, we live in "modern" times, in which men and women (especially them) can express their sexuality much more freely. And true female sexuality is what I described to you above. I wish you success! M43
I don't know how young you are or if the story is true, but I can tell you that you only came across whores. And don't deal with married people yet, because their husbands, beating their jesters, will cry at your door. From some problems you fall into others. You don't really solve your problems, you deepen them. Women are not as black as you describe them. You just haven't come across a normal and responsible woman. Try divorced with a child, you can make life meaningful in some way.
Another one who gets bored and creates stories in shares. I, of so many women around me, saw only one cheating. One and only. And the man started first. The other 20 girlfriends look after their boyfriends, and some families (who have) and that's it. And because I'm quite social and constantly communicate with many people who often share their problems, in 99% of cases men are the ones who cheat, hide, they lie, make fake profiles and go out with girls who have no idea that the gentleman has a relationship. I say because it's not a relationship for me. Some even change their names on social networks so that they can't "catch" them. Many, many fewer women would do that. So the author's fault is in your TV. Accept the fact that you fall for whores, women, with such radiance and such behavior, and that attracts you. Not bad, realize your fetish and the type of woman you like and accept it. You obviously like the opposite image of your mother.
Even if you are so damaged, you just attract them. Every woman, even if she didn't cheat, at least thought of another ...
Einstein said: Men marry women in the hope that they will never change. Women marry men in the hope that they will change. Both invariably remain disappointed. Do you understand the subtle idea? The woman wants to change and re-educate, she is a mother by nature. If you're perfect enough to have nothing to change, you're not interesting to women. This is the paradox. You think like a man and you think that women want men in the hope that they will not change. And they want men who can make a difference. Do you warm the subtle difference between a man and a woman? If you don't get into her skin, you'll never know how to treat them so they'll appreciate you.
To 7: This is nonsense. Who do men cheat on? With women. Therefore, both men and women cheat equally. But women are better at hiding.
Author, it's basically like you told my story. Like you, thank God, I was born into an extremely close-knit family, and naturally I always wanted to create one. Until the age of 26, however, I was super naive, thinking that there were infidelities and users not only in the movies and they are very, very far from me. However, it turned out to be something else, or more precisely, that I did not know how to judge people, which is why I got burned several times and was disappointed in women. The result was that, like you, I got involved with a married woman older than me, even though I was clearly aware that it was not right at all. There is no point in sharing details, because 99% of such cases are the same. This is pure, animal sex, without emotion, without feelings, without anything. Our "relationship" lasted several years and I felt empty all the time, and the guilt never left me, no matter how deeply I tried to bury it. In the end, God took pity on me and helped me get out of this vicious spiral. During this time, however, all my friends and acquaintances started families and have long had children, and I was left alone. I turned 37 last Sunday and all the women around me are married. I also realized that there are a lot of decent, and not as I thought for a long time - 99% users. If I hadn't lost 4 years pretending to be very hurt by life, I probably would have had a good wife by my side now. I haven't given up looking, but it's a lot harder now. So I advise you not to waste your time with nonsense and to end this toxic "relationship". Not to mention that besides you, there are almost certainly at least 2-3 more. no matter how deeply I tried to bury him. In the end, God took pity on me and helped me get out of this vicious spiral. During this time, however, all my friends and acquaintances started families and have long had children, and I was left alone. I turned 37 last Sunday and all the women around me are married. I also realized that there are a lot of decent, and not as I thought for a long time - 99% users. If I hadn't lost 4 years pretending to be very hurt by life, I probably would have had a good wife by my side now. I haven't given up looking, but it's a lot harder now. So I advise you not to waste your time with nonsense and to end this toxic "relationship". Not to mention that besides you, there are almost certainly at least 2-3 more. no matter how deeply I tried to bury him. In the end, God took pity on me and helped me get out of this vicious spiral. During this time, however, all my friends and acquaintances started families and have long had children, and I was left alone. I turned 37 last Sunday and all the women around me are married. I also realized that there are a lot of decent, and not as I thought for a long time - 99% users. If I hadn't lost 4 years pretending to be very hurt by life, I probably would have had a good wife by my side now. I haven't given up looking, but it's a lot harder now. So I advise you not to waste your time with nonsense and to end this toxic "relationship". Not to mention that besides you, there are almost certainly at least 2-3 more. In the end, God took pity on me and helped me get out of this vicious spiral. During this time, however, all my friends and acquaintances started families and have long had children, and I was left alone. I turned 37 last Sunday and all the women around me are married. I also realized that there are a lot of decent, and not as I thought for a long time - 99% users. If I hadn't lost 4 years pretending to be very hurt by life, I probably would have had a good wife by my side now. I haven't given up looking, but it's a lot harder now. So I advise you not to waste your time with nonsense and to end this toxic "relationship". Not to mention that besides you, there are almost certainly at least 2-3 more. In the end, God took pity on me and helped me get out of this vicious spiral. During this time, however, all my friends and acquaintances started families and have long had children, and I was left alone. I turned 37 last Sunday and all the women around me are married. I also realized that there are a lot of decent, and not as I thought for a long time - 99% users. If I hadn't lost 4 years pretending to be very hurt by life, I probably would have had a good wife by my side now. I haven't given up looking, but it's a lot harder now. So I advise you not to waste your time with nonsense and to end this toxic "relationship". Not to mention that besides you, there are almost certainly at least 2-3 more. I turned 37 last Sunday and all the women around me are married. I also realized that there are a lot of decent, and not as I thought for a long time - 99% users. If I hadn't lost 4 years pretending to be very hurt by life, I probably would have had a good wife by my side now. I haven't given up looking, but it's a lot harder now. So I advise you not to waste your time with nonsense and to end this toxic "relationship". Not to mention that besides you, there are almost certainly at least 2-3 more. I turned 37 last Sunday and all the women around me are married. I also realized that there are a lot of decent, and not as I thought for a long time - 99% users. If I hadn't lost 4 years pretending to be very hurt by life, I probably would have had a good wife by my side now. I haven't given up looking, but it's a lot harder now. So I advise you not to waste your time with nonsense and to end this toxic "relationship". Not to mention that besides you, there are almost certainly at least 2-3 more. So I advise you not to waste your time with nonsense and to end this toxic "relationship". Not to mention that besides you, there are almost certainly at least 2-3 more. So I advise you not to waste your time with nonsense and to end this toxic "relationship". Not to mention that besides you, there are almost certainly at least 2-3 more.
I agree with the opinion of 7, except for "the damage is in your TV". I was also super brazenly lied to, but I didn't choose that. No one is responsible for the actions of others and to blame someone for hurting them with nonsense like "you chose her" and so on. , is insanely ridiculous and inadequate. In both sexes there is over 95% waste and a decent person not to fall into the trash, at least once, is almost impossible. Not to mention what kind of manipulators there are and how they play with people's feelings. Grow up now, see the reality and forget about the banal idiocies you vomit all the time.
# 10, in order for your logic to be true, the infidels have to infidel only with other infidels (that is, bound). And even if it was (and it isn't), 1 can cheat with 10, and those 10 only with him. That is, infidels in one sex have risen by 10 and in the other by 1. Think a little before you speak.
Author, the problem is in you. You can't judge people, you ignore the red flags from the beginning. Ask a psychologist how to learn to recognize women better and what is ok and what is not in one person, obviously you do not orient yourself and you will always come across such women. I am a woman of 30 and so far I have not cheated, although I have come across a man full of garbage that he deserves, but I see no point in lying to anyone. If something doesn't work out for me, I'll rather tell myself and if this thing continues, I'll leave. This infidelity is strange to me. Do you come across daffodils? Is there anyone in your childhood who has been naughty with you and developed a complex?
There are passengers for each train. Just believe that the best will happen. Success in love and family.
Hello, a 26-year-old woman writes to you. First I want to tell you that there are decent women, you just are not lucky. As immodest as it sounds, I am giving you an example with myself. I am a beautiful and desirable woman, I receive offers from everywhere. I can easily turn 3-4 without being noticed. I have a master's degree in London, I speak 5 languages and work in a high position in Berlin, I am modest, I do not walk with my nose up and I have no self-confidence, on the contrary, I am too self-critical, I am friendly and open to everyone, I have no prejudices sanore advertising, I want you to get an idea of what kind of person I am) I have been engaged for 8 months for an Italian. Since the beginning of our 6-year relationship, I have not looked at another man, for me other men do not exist or I just do not perceive them as sexual objects. We had a very difficult period when we were facing separation, then there was a man who was my support and I felt attracted, but I immediately stopped contact because I was afraid that I would cheat on him. For me, infidelity is a betrayal of the other and a lack of self-esteem. However, my current fiancé succumbed to the desire at that moment. I forgave him, because then we went through hell together and only he was next to me, no one else, this proved to me his unconditional love for me. What I want to tell you is that there are faithful and decent women, but the mentality here has changed a lot. The material displaces the moral, our generation is too superficial because of the environment around us - social networks, chalga ideals, mercantilism, empty hopes. Don't change, because you risk writing the exact girl when she comes. Have the same heart, manners, hopes, manners, but put an iron door on your heart and wait before you give the key. Don't be in such a hurry to be so dedicated in the beginning. This is how you become a dream prey for manipulators and users. Be more reserved, mysterious, but kind. Keep your heart, but don't kill it! Success!
Don't be so dedicated from the beginning. There is nothing better than being real and really wanting to give your best to a woman, but not so fast. There are big users and they know how to pretend very well, so the next babe, with whom you wait to get to know better and give it slowly, people really use it when they see that they are allowed, but not all women are like that! As for sleeping with a married woman - believe me, then you will break down even more and when this is over for some reason you will be much worse. Not to mention what you're both deliberately doing to her husband. Sooner or later these things come back, don't go on this way, I'm convinced unfortunately ... No matter how broken you are and how lonely you feel, don't you poison with such broken ties. I understand you completely, because I know what it feels like to be alone and feel so broken, but better alone than that. It's great that you were raised that way and that you are like that and one day a woman will really come who is worth it and will appreciate it. Don't change, just change the type of women. Not all women are gold diggers, just learn not to give away so easily and think more, judge them. Everything comes from within, focus on the good things in life, do not get involved, think positively and you will meet her :)