Hello everyone who visits this useful site for anonymous sharing. The title directs you to the topic of the story ... In short, for me I am 20 years old, at first glance quite a normal boy. For some time now, however, I've noticed that I like to look at men with nice bodies, not so much boys my age but men around 30+. I can't say I'm excited about it, but somehow I feel weird and doubt myself. I attribute this liking to the fact that I don't have an athletic body and I'm a little full. When I say that I like to watch muscular men in these moments, I imagine that I have their biceps, their breasts, their backs, I imagine that I am also muscular. That's why I decided to go to the gym to change my body. To some extent, I think that motivates me to train as well. Tell me, is all this normal, because I still think that I have something gay in me ... Otherwise, when it came to women, there were girls who attracted me, but because I had complexes with my body, somehow I still didn't get there to go with her and as you know I remained a virgin. The last girl I liked had a boyfriend and I decided it wasn't right to stand between them and stepped back, but that's another topic. Thanks for the comments :)
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I don't think you're gay. You actually answered your question - you just want to look like them. There's nothing to worry about. :)
No sun, you're not gay! ;))) You like what you see, you envy them nobly, and the best thing is that you have directed this in the healthiest and most positive direction for you - fitness. You say yourself that you imagine yourself as them, muscular. Well, if you are serious about fitness and you will be. I am a woman and I also look at women. I don't even have such complexes (although modest :), but when I saw a beautiful woman I looked around. I appreciate it as a good picture. But I'm straight. It is absolutely normal. Don't worry, look at your parents, ask them without embarrassment if you need advice for some exercises. I'm sure they will be happy to share the "secret" about their muscles;)))
I don't think you're gay. And I sometimes admire tight male bodies, but it's just something like noble envy. Not that I'm ugly and shapeless, but I'm not like them. Definitely not sexual attraction. I have no intention of sleeping with a man, I even hate the idea.
It depends on whether you put sexual connotations in your liking of muscular men or not ... If you just admire their bodies and want to be like them, imagine that you are in their place, etc. - There is nothing gay in this, we have all done it at some point in our lives. But if you imagine that you are dominated by them, or you want some intimacy, and in general if I write to you with such thoughts, then there is no salvation - you are gay (or bi-) and the faster you realize and perceive it, the more It will be easier and easier on your soul. With girls - the condition of your body should not demotivate you! Not for anything else, but because you get used to some defeatist style of thinking, which will gradually become your second nature. It's better to try, even if you fail, than to calm down. If you continue with this way of thinking and this attitude towards things, you will see that even when you sculpt a nice body - and then there will still be some "obstacles" for you not to take a firm stand on the issue. After all, man is not just a body and appearance ... they are, roughly speaking, only about 5% of his essence. And you don't need to get involved with the greatest beauty, smart girl or millionaire from the first time ... you learn about relationships with women and people in general. And whether you are gay or not - whatever you are, your problems will have a slightly different tone, but they will still be the same ... Can't you create emotional, intellectual, spiritual, sexual, etc. connection with another human being, it is unlikely that gayness will be your fault, or the relaxed body ... Keep that in mind! for you not to take a firm stand on the matter. After all, man is not just a body and appearance ... they are, roughly speaking, only about 5% of his essence. And you don't have to deal with the greatest beauty, smart girl or millionaire from the first time ... you learn about relationships with women and people in general. And whether you are gay or not - whatever you are, your problems will have a slightly different tone, but they will still be the same ... Can't you create emotional, intellectual, spiritual, sexual, etc. connection with another human being, it is unlikely that gayness will be your fault, or the relaxed body ... Keep that in mind! for you not to take a firm stand on the matter. After all, man is not just a body and appearance ... they are, roughly speaking, only about 5% of his essence. And you don't have to deal with the greatest beauty, smart girl or millionaire from the first time ... you learn about relationships with women and people in general. And whether you are gay or not - whatever you are, your problems will have a slightly different tone, but they will still be the same ... Can't you create emotional, intellectual, spiritual, sexual, etc. connection with another human being, it is unlikely that gayness will be your fault, or the relaxed body ... Keep that in mind! learns about relationships with women and people in general. And whether you are gay or not - whatever you are, your problems will have a slightly different tone, but they will still be the same ... Can't you create emotional, intellectual, spiritual, sexual, etc. connection with another human being, it is unlikely that gayness will be your fault, or the relaxed body ... Keep that in mind! learns about relationships with women and people in general. And whether you are gay or not - whatever you are, your problems will have a slightly different tone, but they will still be the same ... Can't you create emotional, intellectual, spiritual, sexual, etc. connection with another human being, it is unlikely that gayness will be your fault, or the relaxed body ... Keep that in mind!
In general, "gay" symptoms appear at puberty. I don't think you're gay. And it often happens to me in the summer to look at the girls around me in the flat belly, which I have been trying to achieve for years, but I can't. This is rather noble envy. And I never thought of sleeping with a woman, although I look at them. If you can't imagine any intimate scenes with the men you're watching, you have no problem. Don't worry, you're fine.
Disgusting thing, but you know, rather think about whether you like women and whether they arouse you, if the latter is not true, then you have crossed to the other shore. Everyone can admire their peers, but within certain limits, and the fact that you started training is commendable. Just be careful not to start staring at the men in the gym, that there are two options or you will get lucky or take a strong fist that will instantly land you on the ground ... Good luck ... and in training!
And I don't think you're gay. I used to be fuller and since then I've been looking at pictures on the net of girls with strong bodies, the meaning of such fitness pages, for sports, etc .. I don't get aroused by them and I know I'm not a lesbian, just by having them I watch, I admire and I am inspired to go to train and not to relax again with eating and not to become lazy, but to fight to have my desired body. I think it's because you don't like your body, but you want to look at them like them or something, and you kind of admire their bodies and motivate yourself to achieve something that I think is very good. If you don't like your body, get to work, start a regimen and trainings and you will see in time when the results become clear how you will start to like yourself and everything will be fine :)) Good luck :)
From the author: Thanks to everyone for the comments, you managed to calm me down, but I still really have to be careful not to turn the thread all of a sudden. H7, in general I happen to look at someone while training, but I do not imagine intimacy at this time, but for example that I like for example his biceps, etc. I do not imagine intimacy, but I will still be careful because I do not want to use ******* you ... Otherwise you're right
My brother, when you see a Doug Miller, for example, you can't help but envy him (noblely) for what he has achieved. When someone has a body, you can't help but admit it to him. It doesn't mean you're a pedal, you just know what you want to achieve.
I've had similar problems to yours, but I liked other things because I didn't like mine, not to mention that I tried one thing for 1 minute, not sex, but you guessed it, and I didn't like it at all, from that moment on then I realized what a delusion I was and how much I was wrong. I always felt attracted to men and these things in my thoughts and as I looked at them, and my real attraction was only to women, but I just had some complexes, worries and it was so hard for me in the beginning with a woman, because of pretensions and worries, but to this day I can tell you that I feel hellishly happy because I found myself and what I found was the most pleasant, that I like and get aroused only by women and beyond recognition, but I do not experience an orgasm with thoughts or feeling alone, just a real thrill. If you feel your emotional attraction to women I advise you to stop thinking about men and their bodies as soon as possible, etc., I personally do not judge gays, I doubted whether I would, homo, until I found out that sexually and It's like I'm straight, but don't lose your mind about men until you try with a woman, so you'll inflict a lot more complexes and you'll need an awful lot of time to even realize you're straight. I don't think about dicks and stuff anymore and when I watch them I don't imagine any things, but they aroused me a hell of a lot in my thoughts and while I was looking at them in photos, but really no thrill to a man and to give pleasure, it was just another movie, with a woman is just the opposite, I really go crazy if she's my type and I have no words to describe him even what I feel.
10, author, this does not happen with "attention" - either you have it embedded in the firmware, or you do not have it! The only "third option" is to have it set, but for a long time to deny it even in front of you and to torture yourself, trying to follow social trends. So think very well ... From number 5.
No, you're not gay! Unless you have sexual fantasies with them. You just admire them and want to be like them. There is a word in English about this: "fight crash".
You definitely went there! like intelligent men, not dull muscles. The muscular body is ugly and reflective, radiating violence!
Number 15, I don't know if you're a man or a woman, but you're making an extremely uncivilized comment! What these men have achieved has been achieved by hard work and perseverance, I do not mean the anabolic types ... Take for example the men of Ancient Rome, all of whom were respected and high-ranking were muscular :) Greetings
You are not gay !!! You just dream of having their body and admire them .. And your desire is very great to have such a body .. But if looking at them you have thoughts of intimacy and desire to be with them, then the situation is completely different .. Then you're gay or would ..
We are all more or less bisexual, we all have a masculine and a feminine principle, which according to Taoism must be in balance. Otherwise you're not gay, for sure. But even if it was - there is nothing wrong with that. I don't understand why people are afraid of this?
At the age of 15-16, I had developed such an obsessive-compulsive disorder ... I thought I was gay. From the age of 11 I beat checks only on women, I looked only at women and I imagined how I was with women .. And at one time one summer when I was 15 I caught myself looking at the tender face of a friend who is quite feminine in general .. but it's a man after all! And some thoughts started coming to me - well, how did I look at him like that and he is a man? This somehow stuck in my mind and I came to the point that a few weeks later I deliberately looked at gay pictures on the net (the internet was weak for videos) to see if I would get aroused. I wasn't aroused, but I still thought "maybe I'm not aroused because I'm worried, but it can't happen because of anxiety?" And so on ... Finally I shared with ours, they sent me to a psychiatrist who told me, that I have nothing ... And in general then I almost got better. A few years later I had sex with a woman and the OCD disappeared.
You are not the opposite, but you want to be like them - healthy with a lot of chicks. ** Sunny Days **
I am the same with women. I admire them, as I sometimes look at my ass and get aroused by myself, the folds, the stands. That was before I got a girlfriend, I was a friend to myself and I liked being gentle with myself. When I looked in the mirror necessarily that physiognomy with the lips, I did not like to see the masculine in me when I am alone with myself: D and when I go out I try to pretend to be as big a man as possible. We humans are complex and strange, everyone has some preferences and tastes .. but the real thrill is always different from what we imagine, and I thought of being gay for other reasons, but when I relaxed with a girl who at first It was very difficult, I realized that I can't and will never be able to do anything but with women :) otherwise I would pretend to be a transvestite by myself, but not anymore,
I liked watching dicks and I was even aroused at the thought of giving a blowjob to a man, because with women I was a bit complex, big man, but until he took off his pants, I thought he was small and I liked other people's members and I tried whistle, which I was happy about, I realized that I was in a big mistake and I do not like either the male member or me to give pleasure to a man. I caught a friend, my penis alone with the nipples and nonsense was always soft, smaller, with this girl it became hard and much bigger and I realized that I am actually a man, hetero and I am aroused only by women, only by delivering pleasure of women. I didn't like the clitoris, but at one point I started dreaming about licking, caressing and touching the clitoris, to such an extent I started to like them, otherwise I liked everything female before, without the genitals, now I like everything.
I don't think you're gay. Rather, you secretly envy their muscles and well-maintained body. I'm a woman, but I also sometimes look at women, but not because I have any intimate intentions, I'm just interested in their style, how they take care of themselves, how they combined their clothes and if a girl makes a big impression on me. then I try to buy at least part of her style. But just because I like watching women on the streets doesn't mean I'm a lesbian. On the contrary, all my partners were men and I can't even imagine doing it with a woman.
To number 22: your comment is quite interesting, I think you have overcome some psychological barrier or complex, you are not the only one who has felt this way. I want to ask you - how old was he when he had such doubts - at puberty or later, and when did you experience your first intimate contact, which helped you realize that you are attracted to women?
It was like watching Belmondo, in the old movies, I enjoyed it. He smokes like crazy, everywhere. And it doesn't hurt him. And fagots for people don't count them. He did the stunts himself, even at the age of 70. But he was not civilized, now I understand ... Civilization, we know, arose in the last 20-30 years, in my generation. And it makes us feel uncomfortable when a man likes a man. YD
depends on whether you get an erection when you watch men.
25 out of 22. Well, I women knew that I was attracted to a first grader and I fell in love. Then I was madly in love between 14, that to this day I remember the same girl, she aroused me while I hugged her, looked at her and touched her, but my first sexual experience was with another woman at 18, ugly and fat and I just didn't want to hear about sex more. As for my doubts, they came a few years after this experience with the fat and ugly woman, 21 and I was intimate with a man for a blowjob and the chick lasted 1.2 minutes, and for years I was aroused by myself, my ass in thongs as if he was a stranger to similar photos, I was aroused by myself, it was also in puberty, but to a lesser extent, but somehow it gradually happened as I watched porn to imagine how I make a blowjob and it started to arouse me to the maximum. Another strange thing is that as a child I liked to fuck with the pillow at 14, 15 and once she was my girl, another time I was the girl and I folded her dick underneath and I was interested, I played some roles with myself, like I didn't know that in time they would cause me any complexes and problems. Always a dominant role in life among others and a great man, but with myself I was humble and close to the female person and I never lacked relationships, because I did some nonsense alone and seemed to have a relationship with someone fictional, with my female self. It's very complicated and difficult to explain, but I got enlightenment about my sexuality when I mentally shook off all complexes with a girl, fulfilled the fantasies of domination that I imagined I was alone with another man, and the one-minute whistle I tried, and that tried to kiss and caress me, it pushed me away a lot. Women have always acted as a magnet for those who are attractive, and as I went to that I felt some warmth and attraction, but I had not sexually relaxed until 22 and a half, and even 23 and did not know if I was sexually normal, and, would and so called
Yes! And you're probably passive
Number 16, this is a work of halos, unnecessary and stupid. Dull muscles do not deserve attention! Develop your brains, if you have them!
You're gay ... and you know it! It's full of gays who know it and last. They get married, have children and still remain gay. Deep down, you want a big, muscular man to hug you and give you what you've been looking for all your life. This desire makes you gay.
You are 100% homo. That's how it starts. Now you like to watch, soon you will like to swallow ... and finally you will like your colon to be full of semen :( You will feel the man inside you, if you understand me ... Read how harmful anal sex is, go to church, consult a psychologist, drink sedatives and don't let him in !!! I was married to who you become. It only happened to him when I messed with his back ... Disgusting! I kicked him out when I caught him in our bedroom with some Gypsy! Don't become a homosexual!
Don't be gay. You're just jealous and envious of their body because you don't have one, it doesn't make you gay. And if it will calm you down, there are also girls who, when they look at other girls, feel the same way simply because they do not have a body tray or like it more than their own. So don't be gay.
I like to touch them, but I'm sure I'm not gay!
Number 35 I guess you're a woman?
If it doesn't work with women, try it with men (y): D
Watching gay doesn't work! But touching is already dangerous ...