Hi, girl, I'm almost 20. Lately I'm starting to notice that I have a problem communicating with the opposite sex. I don't know if this is due to the fact that I haven't had boyfriends friends since elementary school and I don't have any acquaintances so far. When I'm in a girl's / woman's company, I have nothing, but when a boy shows up, I start to worry that something won't give me peace until this boy gets lost. When I find myself in a situation with something pretty like that, I always worry about not saying something wrong, and I end up drowning because I'm ashamed to say it and just say something stupid and pointless like a complete jerk. It's not that I want a boyfriend, but friends, or at least to be able to communicate with the opposite sex normally without breading. I know boys / men avoid girls who don't have confidence, but I have no experience with them and do not know how to relax. I even avoid eye contact, whether I like the boy or not. I feel very ashamed. I just feel awkward, and I'm tired of being a "nun." I want to be like the other girls, to be noticed, to be confident. I can't run away from men forever. In this way, I probably vow never to marry. How do you think I can overcome this problem and do you really think there is something abnormal in me? I will be happy if both sexes express their opinion. In this way, I probably vow never to marry. How do you think I can overcome this problem and do you really think there is something abnormal in me? I will be happy if both sexes express their opinion. In this way, I probably vow never to marry. How do you think I can overcome this problem and do you really think there is something abnormal in me? I will be happy if both sexes express their opinion.
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Well, I'm in the same situation, only I'm a boy. And I don't know how it will be. I don't know how to deal with the situation ... I have noticed that I am more relaxed talking to some girls, but there are still those moments when I keep quiet and I'm ashamed. Every time I talk to someone (boy or girl) it doesn't just depend on whether I feel like a nice person, but it also depends on what situation we are in, location, who is around us, who is in our company, etc. A complicated story. I hate myself but what can I do? Social anxiety. This is what we have with you.
It is not true that boys run away from insecure girls. The opposite is true. Nobody likes someone to do a great job. I prefer girls like you
Number 2, as a rule, I have the impression that boys communicate with confident and beautiful girls. Not that I'm ugly, but they definitely avoid quiet girls. Something is repelling them.
I advise you to start communicating with boys as often as possible and to put yourself in awkward situations in order to overcome it. There is no other way. Talk to strangers, ask them for directions and all sorts of random things. You are not crazy, there are a lot of shy people, calm down! You just need a little more confidence and stop trying to please other people. Just be yourself, no matter how cliché it sounds! (you have the whole internet available to learn techniques) 1 - Chat with guys online, for example in omegle or anywhere, so you won't be so bored 2 - Find a boy as shy as you or with people like you interests and so there will be something to talk about 3 - Stop putting everyone on the pedestal, and we are people just like you, quite similar 4 - Trace where the fear started and what causes it. What exactly are you afraid of? If he cuts you off - a big deal, there are 4 billion more ... Good luck!
I really like to lick people like you between my legs ...
Number 5 are you okay?
Hello! I'm a 16-year-old girl, almost 17. I'm exactly the same as you. I am very shy and anxious. I'm afraid that even when I look at a boy, he won't notice that I'm looking at him. I'm as afraid as you are that I'm doing something wrong. I just don't know what to do. I don't know how to talk to him and what to tell him. If I do something wrong, I experience it very badly. I have a feeling he'll think I'm useless, that I'm stupid. I'm even unsure of my appearance if anyone will like me. I'm not ugly, but sometimes I feel this insecurity. I don't know what I can do. Please advice!
And I'm in the same situation only with the girls. I haven't been able to overcome this problem for years. I feel like a jerk.
Your behavior is a little stupid, it's your country! But, hey,,, cheer up, bud "', as they say. Don't worry! If the boy is behaving normally, you have nothing to worry about, did you hear ?! If he is friendly and has no dirty thoughts in his head about You, nothing prevents you from becoming friends with him. I'm serious! I'm telling you from personal experience. I've never been good with girls, but not since I was a child, but on the other hand I have a lot boys comrades.We walk, talk, even some of them want me advice on how to impress a girl in the sweetest way.Of course, you will certainly still meet simpletons, but this does not mean that all the boys / men who will you meet on your way they will be idiots! Trust me! Yes, you are young and all this is strange to you, but you will get used to it, I'm sure! Remember, I think there are two types of men: decent and idiots. You treat decent people properly, and you treat idiots in an idiotic way! It's so simple! Well, good luck!