? Hi, I'm a man of just over 40. Months ago I broke up with my wife and soon afterwards I called a young colleague from another city, which we had seen on one course and only once drank coffee at work a year earlier (our conversation was professional). My intuition did not lie to me and after 3 weeks we met, we made love "from the door to the feet"-very beautiful and to the heart and so three weekends in different places. We were very fit in sex and not only, but that's what we did most often. We fell in love and decided to live together after 3 months until she finished her two jobs in her city-she had commitments. At the end of the first weekend she was eager to provoke me again very soon after I had finished, for my amazement again, she asked me to relax completely, i.e. if I wanted to, and beat the slaps, to call her "Kurvo" and others. And I was wild... It was great, I emptied cool (and it was for the 9th time in three days, and most of the acts were between 1 and 2 hours), but she started questioning me how many women have brought me to this state, and so, as she thought I was in passed out, my orgasm is very loud-roar, growl and then, limp, I have convulsions... After an hour, he decided that I was dangerous and he went to go to the night... I had to let her go. In the morning he called and wrote to me on the net that he was sorry and wanted to come back next weekend and we saw each other twice. We became even better, we matched ourselves completely-once we made love almost 6 hours in a mountain house, we changed all the rooms... She ended up twice on one of mine... After this meeting everything was spoiled by communication on the phone and the Skypa: I once asked her to call on time, because if she missed my breaks, which she knows when they are, we'll just skip; The second time (because she, having been with me the first time she left her boyfriend and left the house), she saw me wanting to control her because she had no money and I offered to pay her the internet, so that we could hear and see each other at night, as before on the Skyway. You see, for me, that was crap, ' cause when you turn your chimney off and even the program, you can do whatever you want, right? Her mother also had a thing to do... She first asked not to see me next weekend, second she told me she fell in love with me based on wonderful sex, and he didn't matter-we were different people, we wanted different things (but nothing concrete did not say)... We were very wiped with our relationship, I was everything you had asked for and which was missing, but so many good things stacking looked improbable, it was not to believe, that is, my caring was manipulative, etc. If I wanted to wait for her to decide what to do, she was fine on her own right now. I explained to her that I haven't lived well in the last few years, so I'm sensitive to even small gestures of attention, and I feel good about caring... I have been quite discharged, I consider myself more mature and accepted the reality. After another week of not reading my letters, she called to tell me that there was no point in waiting for her, because the more she thought, the more she convinced herself that we were incompatible... After another 10 days came to work in my town, visited me in the evening, but kept distance-told me he could no longer be with me and seemed to hate me... Left again in the middle of the night and yelled at me not to send it, it fell even in an affect... And I was afraid of raping her around the neighborhood (it was half-naked up). Anyway, I wrote it again, and I saw that she read the letters after only 11-12 days... I know it because I made our general mail with our first letters + the word "love" to use it just the two of us, as our refuge... I'm very confused, I think absurd the situation... Maybe I should just add that she's a psychologist, and I'm nearby like a pro-PR, and that I think she's more in her way of understanding--she thought that "my wonderful letters" are manipulative messages, because that's my job... The problem is that I love her very much today, and in this state I am sincere and honest, but I am forced not to disturb her, if that is what she wants... Finally: She told her two bosses that after 2-3 months she left and now, although she broke up with me, she would still leave because she had dignity and when she had told them... And I don't want to lose my job-maybe that's why hate me (and she called two mistresses with whom she had rare meetings that she also left)... To you what this story looks like (it became a little long, I did not want to bore you, but to present the facts more fully...)??? I read about such a retraction at Karen Horney-"Women's Psychology", ch. 6-"Distrust of the sexes" and a little at C. Reich... What am I going to do, hope? My čoglavo is crazy, instead of being on the sea, I have an apartment, and it sits empty... Thank you for your opinions!
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It's a pretty weird situation. This woman is not very aware of herself. Maybe all women want to be cared for and sexually satisfied and she runs away from this. Most people like me think all psychologists, psychiatrists, etc. that are quite wacky in the head, this story is proving it. I'm sorry I can't give you advice, but things are really confusing and incomprehensible. , but you don't know what's going on in the head.
I may not be as old as you are, probably the savvy and the experience, BUT for all of my almost 30 years I have met not one and two such women... That means knowing what they want and appreciating what they have. This woman is obviously another proof that they really don't know what they want. To harass her motives and reactions, I think it is absolutely superfluous-you will not understand. , if I can give it, e-save your wonderful memories and move on.
When we got together with my current friend, I was amazed and even startled by how well I could feel. For me, it was an implosion of new experiences and feelings. The sex was more than amazing when I was with him I felt amazing. I never imagined that was possible. At times I wondered if it was real or even scared that it might end. I think it's perfectly normal. When you find what you've always searched for in one person, the next logical thing is the anxiety and fear of losing it. Sometimes people deliberately give up on happiness and joy and are sad in loneliness because it gives them peace and security and happiness is uncertain and can be lost.
I'm a friend of the two. For my sake, I think there are many such women who really do not know what they want from life, I hope to the conclusion that they do not tarring the good qualities of a mom, as if they have become masochism, they want maca and suffering. Accept the Saveta of 2 it is most accurate and most correct, I am going to use it...
As it is written, it turns out that a woman has a psychological problem-a meeting with an authoritarian demeanor that she is afraid of! Whether or not you want subliminal obedience, which is ready to give during sex, but then experiencing strhove. Maybe she's not realised enough, and she's afraid she'il be obedient. Consider if there is anything that scares her in your behavior!
Hello, thank you for your opinions and empathy... In each of them there is truth, the problem is that only explanations do not help... By "5": There may be such an element, but we talked that with me, in a larger city will realise its potential and it seemed to be ready to accept the challenge. Rather, it started to compare to my previous wife (and they are too different), which I couldn't almost entirely and we parted, she decided that it would happen in a few years and there will be problems between us-if not now, after 10 g... She's very fond of saying that she manipulated something or someone, or that she tried... Twice in the affects you said I underestimated her... It's like I'm trying to work it out... Finally, he looked that my goal was "to spend it" (and I was willing to spend my life with her, from the first time we talked about having children). Get her some kind of trauma, I guess... Of the provincial girl, seduced by "Sophia", who actually wants to deal only in the big city, not to owe anything to anyone, but at the same time does not dare to do anything more, for example, to look farther from his nose and wider than his mouth, it is from his hometown... Why is it a disadvantage that I live in a business apartment and I have my own on the sea and it could come "ready"? I think it's an advantage, a man over 40. is not a good sign nothing has achieved... Yes, it can scare her "my orderness" in the sense that I like to plan things, make reservations for hotel and restaurant-for me it's nice, authorarity is another thing... I've always consulted with her, I asked her about her opinion of what she thinks... But she's still living to impulses like an animal... Which for me is immature, passes 30... And there's the "upbringing of feelings"... Or don't you think so? Thank you Again!!!
A friend who's stupid and doesn't know what you're doing, you'il see that after one month she's going to be running with you again, but don't bother if she allows her in her life again, it's going to happen again.
That's me -5, that woman left a big imprint on you! Do you ask yourself if you only like sex in it or is there something else? I understand that you are a relatively successful man, nowadays in Bulgaria the situation is such that to make a success requires a lot of efforts with elbows and teeth, this requires having a rather authoritarian attitude, which inevitably is transferred to the relations between the people, she is afraid of something in your behavior , you are more adult and mature, and as a sensible parent knows when a child has to hold on to the hand and when to be left alone to deal with, so should each one of us go with the person next to him. Another question is whether your partner deserves it!! Think about what you like? He also thought about the reasons that led to the first divorce! Each of us needs something to correct in order to have harmony!
Hi, once again thank you for the comments! Of course, everyone has to go their own way to the other and I am also a dynamic kind-I can change... But the other side must be willing and able to do it. How would you feel if, after all, a good look at you like "Thunder from the sky" that if not now, after 10 g. Will you have problems because she had such an inner feeling that was growing up until you were seeing her? About sex: So it came to us that we shredded ourselves with letters, and when we met, we did it with a wild drive, "from the door to the feet", without knowing it – we were perfectly fit for fantasies, style, size and whatever else we had, and so then it looked so perfect, so improbable... Now life is such that you first make love with a stranger, and then you build up a relationship on that basis (if you find meaning and desire)... She explained that she fell in love with me on the basis of sex and that was not nice (and I think it was wonderful that I fell in love), very respected me as a professional... I also didn't know about ourselves? Our meetings were on weekends filled with passion... Why is sex compatibility a problem? It's just the opposite!
Sir just over the 40!. Without knowing either one of you, I'm telling you that this woman is really not a match, and you have no future together. I know people like you--so I can guess what annoys this lady. A tremendous self-esteem (bordering with that of some GOD) frenzied need to keep everything tidy... Be just like when you say... No surprises and confusion of your own plans.... Feeling that you are above all women (especially the provinmials of course) and therefore, with a great deal of generosity, you give them a miserable gesture of help so that you can subconsciously manipulate them and let these women feel how pathetic they are! I congratulate this woman for the power she has had to break away from you, because she deserves to have a man who does not change her, not to instruct when to call him on Skype and not to offer to live "NAGVOILA" and D-not just over the 40, you forget that it is a man younger than you with more than 10 years and if you have for so long been sedate and put out all sorts of impulses in your arranged life-leave this opportunity to this girl, as well as the choice of how much to "sigh feelings" or disagree???
Look, it's too easy for CS to be okay... Some people just run and search and search and search (as a rule without a clear idea what)... It doesn't matter if it was good or bad, whether it was long or short. This woman is one of them... She may not have lived, she may be afraid of tying for reasons that are sometimes difficult to comprehend, if you will, she might just want to run away from the whole world... or feel old... Or feel that it starts to fall in love and wants to stop the process... Wait... Do not try to understand anything and accuse her or yourself... Just give yourself time...
By 10-My lady's behavior resembles a heavy inferiority complex, not a gentleman. She seemed to have created the link to destroy her subconscious, and the information shows that she had more connections she'd done the same. As a woman, I do not understand the attack on the "successful" man, you do not expect him to apologize for being like this? After talking about family, children, etc. In my opinion, its qualities are valuable for organizing, arranging, etc., rather than its rather immature behavior. The situation of a woman over 30 is the same as that of a man over 40-5-6 G. To catch the last train. I am glad the mature husband and colleagues, but until I find my man, quite the trouble I had with the complexes. I think the gentleman got rid of bigger future problems with such a "chick".
HI, I HAVE DOUBTS THAT THIS WOMAN HAS BEEN DISAPPOINTED IN SOME WAY FROM HER PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP AND THEREFORE SO QUICKLY AGREED TO A MEETING WITH YOU, SHE LIVED THE GREAT MOMENTS AND THEN THE CONSCIENCE AND SPOKE. SHE CHECKED TO SEE IF SHE WAS BACK WITH HER OLD FRIEND, SO SHE WOULDN'T WANT TO MEET WITH YOU...
In my opinion, everything has evolved too quickly, I'm not talking about meeting and sex.. Plans for a common future. I think she was either really hurt on a previous relationship, or she has another man in her life that you don't know about. I would be interested to read what happened or how things work out?
I believe that this illusory knowledge of the other partner only through conversation and chat has created a feeling of closeness and outside sex. Is it falling in love or just attracting two people? The lady has a practical attitude and does not want to experiment. She has other connections, clearly holds on them and is not attracted by your good material status. It seems to me that you are too candid, and that with women does not bring benefits. Be cryptic and do not reveal your plans for a life together too quickly.
Hi! I just want to congratulate you for being such a wonderful man-loving, wanting to take care of the woman, honest and honest! Men like you are extremely rare to meet! Unfortunately for me, I haven't met him yet! And as for this woman, I don't think she deserves you at all! A woman who cannot appreciate small gestures, who is not aware of herself and what she wants-I think there is no place in your life! Always stay like this! I sincerely wish you to find a woman who will Appreciated and will be worthy of you!
How do you even deal with women like that? I just don't have the words...
Let's not forget a circumstance. This woman is a psychologist, and she's met all kinds of people in her life. Doesn't that tell you something? I think she's mature enough and she's got experience. Apparently she saw something she didn't like. There is something true about the words of Number 10 for authoritarian terms, don't you think. Not every woman likes to be in a subordinate position. I think I might be wrong.
You're wrong. For many people, special knowledge is more about them than they help. It examines itself as unchangeable, but requires everything that gentleman represents. When he gives it to her and responds to her most detailed expectations, she begins to doubt that it is real and possible, that is, there could be no such conformity... That's why he jumped him "from the foot door." The problem is definitely in it. She must have come back to her old boyfriend and her grey plantain, hiding from him for her three-week stormy and polar passions.
If I were her, I'd be doubtful. As they say in a proverb-very nice, not of Nice. There can't be a catch. A little distrustful sounds, but better a little distrust in time than much suffering after a while.
Are you sure she didn't understand anything about your past from someone or somewhere to embarrass her so much as to scare you and want to break any relationship?
I will express my opinion and give you advice according to my own experience. I am a woman of her age and I hope you understand me, I have fallen in a similar situation and I will try to explain at least according to what I felt. You say women don't know what they want, why they're running away from luck. Well, because if you didn't keep up with a serious relationship, and you're used to freedom, a "full-on-care" thing comes out of your mind. I mean, every guy wants it, but in words it's one thing, in fact, when you happen to get hit with something hard and scream out, I can't breathe. I understand you completely, that when you are in love you want to do everything for your partner, everything you think is good. And it is true that every woman (most including myself) dreams of being cared for and pampered... But by the person she is in love with at the moment and to whom she is experiencing such desires. Everyone else is being tested for boredom. But we are the people and the men and the women we feel that they love us very much, we begin to retreat, we are masochists, we are hunters do not know, but it is a fact. But there is good news, nothing has been predicted. If you keep a lot of this woman and you want to be together just... and annoy. Seek it, insist don't give up. You will meet frenzied resistance, hiding... But if you do not give up your caring and good attitude to it, believe me you will succeed, patience and perseverance is the mother. Gradually you will emerge and in it already the real feelings and soon and she will want to take care of you, and since after a few months of work then a whole life you will lie on your back and the woman will nurse and pamper you. Come with luck and impossible things. P. P happily married, for one of whom I was hiding;)
This woman definitely doesn't know what she wants! You mentioned her mother... Apparently she, as many girls, is under the strong influence of her pedagogical right-wing. And if Mom is looking for a peasant "wisdom" of the type of: "It's really nice not to be nice" or "it's better to fall in love first and then have sex and not vice versa" and she's already wound. How, please, you understand that you are incompatible when you have not even seen each other? It's absolutely immature... And when it's 30, I don't think it's going to get better. Unfortunately, I know three such women, one on 22, the other on 34, and the third of 65... All three are absolutely insane. They do not know what they want and very much like to philosopit on "independence", "development", "dignity", etc. Oh, I forgot to point out and they're full of fears! The two younger have never had a relationship, and the old one has never been able to create a lasting such... For her there is no man just created... And the whole world is guilty, and the other women are whores and they have no principles. They are alone because they have "high criteria". I forgot to add that all three of them considered the mother to be an absolute Kumir, and also as described above, often affected on insignificant occasions and they were howling at the heavens. You don't need that hysterical! Forget it and go ahead. It is a pity that something as wonderful as love and sex should suffer because of one's prejudices and because of the rural black-eyed, so "fashionable" in this country... I sincerely wish you success and happiness! Boronia
Very long scripture, I could not read it...
Dear Girl. He's worried that some of them are hitting a shoulder. That he'd pay something for her. That he'd live in your apartment. She's worried you're orderly and you think about everything. She's not a ready-made sucker at her house. Because she didn't wonder how to take care of the family like she was a man. Some women are dumb and dumb again. And this one is obviously still a piranha. I'm sorry for you for having wasted time and feeling about the one that can't appreciate the real male presence. Having a real man by yourself is a rare privilege.
Excuse me, autolere, do you complain or brag about it? ;)