Hi, I'm a 25 year old girl. I've been very sad lately, I'm constantly suffering, I'm having bad thoughts, I'm constantly thinking about death. The most interesting thing is that during the day I have nothing, and at night these feelings intensify, I have no restful sleep, I even get palpitations and nausea from this thought of death ... We recently lost my grandmother, is it due to of her loss, I do not know and whether it is depression I have no explanation why I have such feelings. It's just that life has no meaning and sooner or later we will all die. Has anyone ever experienced such dull feelings and is there a cure for this without medical help?
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There is a cure and it is very simple. Okay, maybe not quite simple, but ... When some of these thoughts come to you, you just have to close your eyes and take a deep breath. You should not concentrate on thoughts, because this will draw your mind into long, exhausting and in this case not very healthy thoughts. When you ignore them, they will fade away on their own. To make it easier, you can even imagine that every sip of air is charged with positive energy, and when you exhale, you throw away everything negative. It sounds a little crazy, but it actually helps a lot of people. Try to think of good things. "It's just that life has no meaning and sooner or later we will all die." Break them, those thoughts! Life has meaning. What exactly? Hmm ... Who knows? In my opinion, the meaning of life is to improve and be happy. Yes, in the end everyone dies, but it doesn't matter, the important thing is how they will live. You need to look at things more positively. As for the other options ... I don't see how medical "help" can help you, except by prescribing you some stupid drug with a fancy name. You can go to a psychologist, but if a person does not help himself or does not want to do it, then they can not magically fix things.
I have personally experienced it and I will tell you how I coped. I just made a Thanksgiving Diary. At first the idea seemed silly, but I read that it helped a lot and decided to at least give it a try. From personal experience it really has an effect, and it has been proven by research that it reduces depression and stress, as well as has healing properties. It's just that the night before bed you write your date at the top of the page and try to think of little things that happened to you during the day that you're at least a little grateful for. For example, at work someone helped you with something, after work you have a place to go to sleep, you have food, you woke up in the morning alive and well (because some in the world have failed), you have cleaned your home and your ego is clear and cozy, on the street you saw an extremely radiant man who, at least for a moment, improved your mood, that no incident and any such had occurred. The point is to invent at least 3 new things every day. It's good that they are new, so that you don't get used to thanking mechanically, but to think. Separately, you can thank your (not personally, but in the diary) that they raised you, that you are alive and well, that you have a partner, children, for example, that you had the opportunity to get an education, that there is something to wear, something to eat , where to sleep, that you can walk freely on the streets (no matter how much they seem to you, not everyone has them). You do this for 7 days, then you start only once a week. Gratitude is a habit - once you give thanks for something, the second time it will be a little easier and you are grateful, the third time even easier and so you create a habit. At some point you will be grateful even for no reason, it will just become your condition. Even in difficult times you will be grateful, instead of getting depressed. Depression is also a habit. One time you get depressed, the second time it's easier, the third time it's even easier, and so you make a habit of getting depressed until it's normal, even for no reason. In life it is never 100% good or 100% bad, there are always both, but we choose what to focus on. I'm not saying to pretend that the bad isn't there, we're just reacting to it right - instead of letting him create bad habits, we intentionally create good ones. There is a man born without legs and arms, Nick Vujicic. He is an exceptionally happy man nonetheless. And yet he learned to swim and play football and give lectures all over the world. "People often ask me how I manage to be happy, even though I'm without arms and legs. I answer them quickly that I have a choice. I can be angry because I don't have limbs, or I can be thankful that I have a will and a purpose. I chose gratitude. "- Nick Vujicic
Everyone at some point in life thinks about these same things. Getting out of depression is very easy, but you should read one or two books on the subject. The truth is, we don't live a life. The soul is immortal and eternal. The purpose of every life is to learn the lessons that life offers you. And Jesus said it, the Buddha talked about it, all the major religions talk about it. The meaning of life is gaining experience and the pleasure of sharing the good with others. Do good and you will get good. The joy of helping someone will lift your spirits and take you out of any depression. The difficult moments in life are to teach us. You have lost a close relative, but remember that in reality this soul has continued on the path of its development. Nothing real is lost, you may fall into a family again in the next life. Just think of the potential new souls and people you can meet in this life, true friendships continue even in later lives. Nothing is ever lost, it can only be gained from life. Everything is experience, the material is temporary, the soul always remains, it is you, it is all of us.
Panic disorder is called read on the internet, it is not easy to get out of it sometimes, but it all depends on your own strength and motivation to get out. Many people have been affected by this condition, obviously our daily life has deviated a lot from what was set for us at the beginning of human development.
Well, that's out of grief. During the day you have an activity and you don't think about it, but when night comes, you have nothing to do and you start thinking about death, etc. Time will pass and you will recover.
This is nothing "dumb" but something completely normal for us humans .. because we are the most emotional beings and that's why we think so deeply about the things in everyday life that worry us .. no matter what they are and how important .. usually we worry about things that threaten us (physically) this is instinct .. it is inevitable .. death is one of the most discussed topics in all of human history .. it is very good for a person to think about the inevitable that will one day come to him..while there are some who do not .. It is good that you think about this philosophical topic .. I hope you draw useful conclusions from it .. and it happened to me to think about death .. but in a state of severe depression .. then you are I thought I was too old (and I'm only 18) that my life is meaningless..that I've wasted my years .. that I'm going to die and I haven't achieved anything ..I was haunted by paranoia .. the ordinary person does not think about many things .. until something extreme happens in his life or something affects him emotionally .. then depression occurs .. and then similar thoughts are born in our heads .. I don't know whether you were very close with your grandmother .. but I think death has affected you emotionally and now you are depressed .. but don't worry .. most people happen to get depressed at least once in their lives. The fact that this happens to you in the evening is probably due to the loneliness in the evening .. I also feel this way late at night .. then I constantly think about things that worry me .. it is anxiety or fear that are the reasons for your heartbeat .. nausea and restless sleep .. This is dangerous because stress is one of the main factors in a person's health .. I am probably living proof .. anyway ..It will be best for you to try to reduce the level of stress and avoid such dark thoughts .. I know how you feel .. :) I hope you pass .. good luck!
read on the internet about panic disorder described is quite detailed
You sound like a person who doesn't have a person next to him.
Don't worry, everything will pass. Even when I was in 4th grade, I started thinking about why life is like this, why we have to die. Since then I have been depressed, I have had panic attacks because of it, but everything is fine. I am not saying that this fear of yours will disappear, but it will appear from time to time. I advise you to start playing sports, to be among your loved ones and to be positive. Everything passes.
Thank you for the advice, I feel a little better now, I hope these negative thoughts disappear once and for all. I will try to think only of good things. (The author)