Здравейте на всички, преди около час се прибрах от работа, където и днес ми спукаха нервите и се сетих за тази приказка "Мачкай, за да те уважават". Млада жена съм, а като момиче напълно отхвърлях този възглед за живота - просто отвътре не ми идва да се държа зле с хората, такава една добра и наивна съм, чак избива на глупост понякога. Все гледам да помагам с каквото мога, че дори и само с добра дума, НО ВЕЧЕ СЪЖАЛЯВАМ ИСКРЕНО ЗА ТОВА!!! Като се върна назад във времето ето някои запомнени от мен моменти : - В детската градина се скарах с приятелка, после дълго се извинявах, но тя не ми говореше. Като и казах, че не ме интересува, тя ми се заизвинява... - В училище ( до към 7ми клас) ме бяха нарочили за аутсайдера на класа, а аз бързо забравях обидите и прощавах. После естествено всичко се повтаряше. До момента, когато аз започнах да ги обиждам. -Пак в даскало (след 7ми клас) някакви "кифли" ми правеха какви ли не гадни номера, страняха от мен (понеже не съм имала маркови дрехи например, ами "парцали".. )и ги чувах как ме одумват от задния чин. До момента, в който избеснях и 2 от тях изядоха шамарите-и заваляха покани за кафета, рождени дни и събирания... -Имах гадже, което толкова ме ревнуваше, че буквално ми забрани да говоря с момчета и сложи парола на входящите повиквания на тела, за да не ги трия. То не бяха скандали, то не беше чудо. Като го разкарах, обяснявайки му, че не струва и пукната пара... пълна промяна - той ми вярвал, той ме обичал, той винаги щял да се съобразява с мен и личният ми живот... Забрави, човече... Подобни случки "с лопата да ги рия", ето и днес - взех да помагам на една колежка, че е пълна флегма и не може да си свърши сама работата... Трепя се цял ден заради нея, а накрая ми казва, че говорила с шефката да поема половината нейна работа... Какво нахалство - тя закъсала, а сега ТЯ да помага на МЕН ли! !?? ! Мислех да си премълча, но направих точно обратното - вдигнах и скандал и с мек, но уверен тон заявих на шефката, че няма да стане. Резултата - когато излязохме в почивка нахалницата купила шоколад и кафе и ми вика "Това за помощта днес, нямаше да се справя без теб.... " Така че, мили ми хора, колкото и да сме добри и наивни, най-добре понякога да се сещаме за заглавието на историята ми, че и ние да видим бял свят. Истината е една и работи, ако не стигаме до крайности: МАЧКАЙ, НЕ ЗА ДА ТЕ УВАЖАВАТ!!! МАЧКАЙ, ЗА ДА НЕ БЪДЕШ СМАЧКАН!!!
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I am a lone wolf, I do not help, but I do not harm, I do not interfere with people at work and I do not allow them to interfere with mine. Rebel
Number one, you're not right at all if your profession allows you to do that, but when you work with more people, you have to be a team. And there are professions in which you will not have to help everyone ... author I also help everyone, for everything, I took on foreign shifts, I worked overtime, and when my uncle died even though I went to work early, early in the morning, well, I left last ... they called me in the middle of the working day, no one but a colleague expressed condolences, not only did I leave last at 4 in the night, but they left me to fix the mess, and the next day come first change .... only I didn't learn a lesson and then, finally, I gave it back to them in a hurry .... which won me 2 days off .... I'm not of the opinion that we should crush people, mainly because we don't I want to, but in this case you are right
And, author, did you just now feel like a doll? aaa be a little more witty ... greet the grandfather
That's what I've been thinking. When I say goodbye and want to please myself and even forget myself, the opposite happens, when I stand up for myself and show that I don't care, the attitude changes. However, it seems that only now I have started to apply it in practice, and by accident, because one made me too angry, otherwise I would have tolerated it again ...
You are absolutely right !!! I helped a foreigner, he wanted company, he seemed very lonely and kind. I gave him everything: friendship, love, food, understanding. In the end, he just dumped me and not only that, but he said that I was wasting his time, that he was polygamous by nature and you know he couldn't be with only one woman ... this is just one example in my life there are many more. When you are good they think you are a fool!
You're right. I used to be like you, but my husband weaned me with a lot of advice. My people had climbed on my head. I live very well now.
I do not completely agree. The reasoning is partly correct, the final conclusion (as well as the title) is not. Only the mediocre ones crush. If they are given such an opportunity at all. The strong do not crush. They beat. They fight to be respected.
I do not agree. In general, your thoughts are a bit superficial, I don't know how big you are. What kindergartens, what schools? What do you think that only you were mocked or insulted? In primary schools, when puberty shakes you, you go crazy. Children make themselves bigger out of misery, they get offended, they fight. You will hardly meet someone who will tell you that it has not happened to him even once. I thought so too. Crease to respect you. And they were silent to me, and they did what I said, but after a while I realized that they were doing it not out of respect, but out of fear. And what is this false respect? I behave the way I want them to treat me. There is a thought: It doesn't matter if people throw stones at you, what matters is what you build with them - walls or bridges. And when you look at the good as a bargaining chip and wait for it in return,
Too bad, some crushed them more, and with others it didn't happen at all. Even if "crush" is not the right word (rather self-defense and a bit of nepotism), the author's reasoning is not superficial at all, but it is yours. Have you read anything other than the title ....
10, and did you read anything other than the last line in my comment? There is a big difference between crushing and defending the personality, for me these are not synonyms. We seem to be talking about different things, what do you mean by "crush"? Bad
Bad, I wrote that not everything is assertion and the author has expressed herself well enough on the issue in her own topic. Where did she see her write that she crushed people before they did something to her, on the contrary - she gave it back to them. It was very easy for you when you crushed people. Given that you don't seem to know what it's all about at all and you're talking about looking at the good as a bargaining chip, etc., why are you writing at all? To do a great job of being "above" these things, as the people in this topic have been crushed by people like you? The more naughty a person behaves, the better they treat him. I have thought about others so many times and put myself in their shoes. Even if I didn't expect a replacement for the simple reason that I couldn't expect one. What did it matter? And in most cases, I expect them to treat me well in return, yes. Not to do me any good, but simply not to get on my head, not to talk behind my back, to make fun of me, etc., as I almost never do. Even if I did something, it was many times less vicious than what they did to me. The bad one - the big hole. In real life, I've put them in place after confusing restraint with cowardice.
Where did you write that "not everything is assertion" that I did not see something? And where did you see that I wrote that the author crushed people before they did anything to her? I didn't even see her "crush" anyone at all. That she opened her mouth where it should be is an assertion. Please have your views on things, but don't try to impose them on me. By the way, I did not insult you anywhere and I asked you a question that you did not answer, and a series of attacks followed. I don't do anything, and if I do it by accident - this is my personal job, which you don't have to do. I don't know in life who and where you put me, but you personally can't put me anywhere. Good luck and have a nice crush and put in place! :)) Bad
Nonsense. Bullshit. At least think that children come in here and you can influence them very badly. The fact that something unpleasant happened in the kindergarten and you acted in a certain way to fix the situation does not mean that you form an opinion that this is the way it should be in life. It's just ridiculous. What happened to you has nothing to do with "squeezing" and behaving badly with people. When you become inaccessible and resist, it is normal to look more interesting and respected than other people. And it's normal for others to feel it when you're confident. Don't you realize how many musicians and actors have made careers because they have such behavior and radiance? Doing good to see any benefit from it makes everything meaningless and now your 'goodness' becomes worse than any evil. Some humiliate and crush others in order to " Guess what type you are and think if it's really right. The crooked rocket and its space are crooked. The fact that you do not have the necessary skills to communicate normally and still give yourself an example of a situation in kindergarten speaks badly for you, but it does not mean that you become an angry aunt who is just waiting for someone to raise a scandal. Do you sell your valuables for a chocolate from a colleague and a birthday invitation? I do not envy you, I suggest you consult a psychologist about your communication problems, childhood memories and your willingness to sacrifice everything for the sake of public approval. Guess what type you are and think if it's really right. The crooked rocket and its space are crooked. The fact that you do not have the necessary skills to communicate normally and still give yourself an example of a situation in kindergarten speaks very badly for you, but it does not mean that you become an angry aunt who is just waiting for someone to raise a scandal. Do you sell your valuables for a chocolate from a colleague and a birthday invitation? I do not envy you, I suggest you consult a psychologist about your communication problems, childhood memories and your willingness to sacrifice everything for the sake of public approval. but it doesn't mean you're becoming an angry aunt just waiting for someone to raise a scandal. Do you sell your valuables for a chocolate from a colleague and a birthday invitation? I do not envy you, I suggest you consult a psychologist about your communication problems, childhood memories and your willingness to sacrifice everything for the sake of public approval. but it doesn't mean you're becoming an angry aunt just waiting for someone to raise a scandal. Do you sell your valuables for a chocolate from a colleague and a birthday invitation? I do not envy you, I suggest you consult a psychologist about your communication problems, childhood memories and your willingness to sacrifice everything for the sake of public approval.