Last week I really liked a girl from the neighboring company - I will not explain she was just unique. I waited and looked around - she was alone without a friend. And even though they were a company of 6 people, I still allowed myself to go to meet her. She said her name, but she didn't want to deal with me at all. In general, he seemed to respond to me with force and something like a surprise: “why is he talking to me? “. The conversation was less than a minute, because one of her company called her to come back to them. And that was a failure… This week in another disco a girl looked at me several times and I had thought that if she looks at me more than 3-4 times, then there is interest? Yes, I went and she just said her name and turned her back on me to dance with her friend. Otherwise, I had noticed another case that night, where a guy tried to do something and talk to a girl from another company, but they didn't pay any attention to him either. And he wasn't bad-looking or anything. And I want to ask some things about discos. 1) To the girls: Do you really put on make-up, make-up, do hairstyles, heels, short skirts, etc., and go out just to have fun without caring about the boys? I have heard this many times from girls: “I go out to discos because of the music. “. So if you don't want guys, then with such provocative sexy clothes… how so? 2) How exactly should I meet a girl at a disco? I know it's very relative and it depends on the situation, but still as you read, my meds above don't work. I never thought I was ugly or boring. On the contrary, I do not consider either of myself.
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Seriously 2 days already and no comments. They don't even feed her :) Maleee, it will be fun soon. I'm afraid we won't read anything but morals here, although your questions are super specific. I am something like the author and I ask. I think the topic is drastically sore! I allow myself to add - please do not say that beautiful girls do not go to such places and that he does not need such "beautiful girls". Please don't say "they don't deserve you". ------------------------------ Author, I think they are afraid of us, because we will start having such "smart" conversations and they feel complex in such an environment. I think we need to fall a little bit on their surface level. The smart one has the advantage - he can always be stupid, while the opposite is impossible. But how can I be stupid? People say! It doesn't come naturally to me somehow! All men with the intelligence of a programmer up suffer from this problem! HELP !!!!
Try "Hey, sweetie, I want your fb" or somehow approach with humor :) And remember, where it doesn't happen with a normal attitude, it happens with persistence! What do you want to talk about until dawn? Just meet, exchange fb and in 2-3 days act! If he doesn't give it to himself, approach theatrically and try again! Most girls love when a man is persistent and with a sense of humor :) It's not a failure at all, just to gain attention and it's not just about dating, flirting, hanging out, sending air kisses, etc. Good luck!
Well, put yourself in the shoes of a beautiful girl. For 1 night, say 3 boys come to you and all of them look good. Who will you choose and will you choose anyone at all, given that there will be at least three more candidates the next night? If you were offered 10 different job offers, if you are not convinced that you want a new job at all, how would you do it? Will you bother to explain to each boss why you won't? Will you waste that time? 10 different offers and all just works as it works, think about it. This is the human psyche - when you have a lot of choice, you don't care. When available, it is not valuable. Imagine that the same girl was not so beautiful and attractive and had no hints for years. After so long, someone comes and talks to her. What do you think - will it react as attractive? So my thought is - she has the right to choose and all choices are relatively equal. No one stands out significantly. You are only 1 out of 10 who downloaded it for the week and you are no different from them. You have excelled in absolutely nothing. And you will not be remembered for anything, you will only be one of all. But imagine that in some way you stood out and caused a strong emotion in her. Will it just pass you by so easily? Myth is that a girl gets off with chanting and activity. Be a little mysterious, provoke attention with something original / emotional, then withdraw, do not be accessible, have self-esteem. Just think about how you can stand out from everyone else. Surely you have something that few have. Then think about what type of girl would be impressed by this advantage. For example, if you have a witty sense of humor, don't expect it to work for someone without a sense of humor or unintelligent, or a muffin type looking for an uncle-coin. Just choosing and feeling the right "victim" is 70% of success. Think for yourself, I can't give you ready advice, you have to invent it yourself. If I give it to you ready, it will not be your way and you will not feel in your comfort zone while doing it.
These acquaintances in the discos take place mainly in the movies. That's why you don't succeed. You have to try in another environment.
Brother, the answer is very simple. It doesn't matter if you are nice or funny. Before entering the disco, ask yourself 1 question: do I look like I have a lot of money? If the answer is no, then your chances are slim. When you are at the bar you have to order expensive drinks - the chicks immediately smell the money. I've done this a few times and it works, women just have to think you have money, even if you don't. They lie easily because they are dumb.
I am No2. Thank you for comment No5. I do not agree with its first part. This is exactly where the sociological problem comes from. These are too good - they choose too much. Normal boys (programmers, for example) wear themselves out emotionally because, believe me, they make an INCREDIBLE effort to get scared. For them, the effort to meet a girl at the disco is equivalent to a muffin to take the C exam in the 4th year. Finally, the "attractive girl" cuts it with just one glance for 2 seconds. Somehow it's not fair. Then the same muffin will go to the disco again to scratch his ego and again no one chooses. That is, he goes there only to discourage men, nothing more. We all know that the disco is like the labor market. If you are not looking for a job in jobs. opensubtitles2 en you don't enter right? Then where were the men ... well, men are already disgusted and are accumulating mass aggression. We even stopped going out ... we clicked in front of the computer and drank with friends in the "ram company". After a while, this complex kills, we make money and we fuck and run or we cheat en masse. And we, in turn, respond. And then the girls roar, but what to do - karma. For example, I am a teacher, I don't know why the children like me so much. Sometimes a child would come to me in the hallway and tell me in plain text, "Can we be friends?", Holding out his hand. The most naive elementary question. There is nothing intriguing in it, nothing pretentious. I see that he is ashamed, that the whole thing is red, that he has thought 300 times what to say, at the beginning I am also annoyed because these children are very much around me and my time is precious. But in the end, I know how much it cost him, I try to suggest it and take the initiative. I fall to his level and ask him simple questions. Once he relaxes, he turns out to be the most wonderful child and is extremely intelligent. The conversation goes super easy and pleasant after that. I also see how unique it is and it is very easy for me to remember its name. Dear "attractive" girls, you are too busy to attract attention around you and forget about normal, primary, human relationships. Do your best, his old mother, at least a little! Why do you think someone still has to win you over? I guarantee you that EVERY person is unique, you just don't see it. And it often happens that these clumsy jerks who end up winning you with wit, are playful women or shallow-minded idiots, to whom simplicity is given. The people who then roar the most and are prejudiced against men in general. They beat you, they get drunk, they have 2,000 complexes, they don't even have a normal job. -------------------------------------- Anyway No5, I think in the other part of you did a good job and you really help, unlike the other comments. For which I am personally very grateful to you and yet if you give an example of dialogue we will all appreciate your efforts!
Nonsense. I had dating at a disco. As number 5 said - you have to get out of the crowd. To be original. Not original with its name, but original with the approach to the chick. You need to think not only about how to get her number (or Facebook), but how to make her remember you tonight. And that doesn't mean stripping completely naked in the middle of a disco. : D
Until fat 5 and 6 listen.
This with the clothes is shocking. TT, for example, why do you dress well, why do you shave / bathe ...? Is it because of the women? Or for yourself. Aman from those who think that a woman wants to look good for someone .. The world does not revolve around you (or any other person), because the girl is dressed for it.
Be yourself if you are looking serious! Because anyway, if you will be together for a long time, she will understand that you were not in the beginning and she can justifiably eliminate you. Be yourself and do not look for chalga for the simple reason that they are considered a commodity instead of a person and are quite limited and disoriented. Being yourself is the best and only option for a long relationship. The one who evaluated you can ask for you herself.
Author: Thank you for responding and giving opinions people . Now on to the topic… To stand out from all 10 downloaders a day, I have to be different. I understand this and there is logic in it. And I can be very poisoned and I have a sense of humor. But I allow myself to be like that in cases, or when I don't care at all, or at least I know the girl for, say, 5-10 minutes. The bad thing is that it obviously turns out that no one will give them to me for these 5 minutes until I relax in her company. Is this the only way? Apart from that - women, you don't do anything to make it easier for us… and as if we owe you everything to do just because you are beautiful? We want to get to know each other very clearly, but obviously you want it to happen like in a movie? Or if I'm wrong, at least give an example of how the situation came about. Just because some of us meet a girl in a normal way doesn't mean we're boring and the same as other "strippers"… I don't know when you'll realize that.
Hello guys. I'm a girl, um, everyone says I look good, etc., I'm not going to say it, I'm going to guess. Let's say I look good, I get along well with people, and let's say I'm funny. I am something like the author, boys never talk to me and I have not noticed anyone paying special attention to me, although I communicate with a lot of people every day. I'm not writing here to complain because I'm not looking for many boys, I'm only looking for one. For example, I don't talk to people at bus stops, on buses, only at work, if necessary, because I communicate with strangers. I don't like boys, no one even talks to me in a friendly way. They wrote to me only two or three, but only because they were alone and there was no one else for sure, out of nowhere, because they found some friends there and they don't even remember me anymore ... So why any advice? Should I try to talk to strangers? And I wonder why the forums, as here the author and the commenters, are full of guys who look decent and intelligent, but they are not outside ... Could you explain to me?
14, decent boys do not brag, do not brag, do not stand out and therefore go unnoticed. Unfortunately, it is precisely those who stand out a lot that stand out, but say nothing in essence. It is dull and pointless for a decent person to stare at each other, which is good, of course, but sometimes it bothers him.
First of all, I don't know which self-respecting man will look for a girl in a disco. It is clear that no woman will go there to look for a friend. At most to fuck someone for the evening, but I would not humiliate myself to waste energy with such. If it's for one sex, I'd rather go to a prostitute, get paid, get my job done, and go live healthier than go out and expose myself to stock up on a muffin that will require me to be someone I am. I'm not and in the end he may turn around and not let go. Such women do not inspire respect in me to want them, and in the beginning I do not like pure sex. And starting a relationship in a disco is hard work and I wouldn't waste time and energy even trying. Otherwise, if you flaunt expensive alcohol, expensive clothes, an expensive watch and a gadget and if you treat yourself to it or just dance with it, without even talking, the muffin is guaranteed to be in your bed, but who needs one. And what normal man would flaunt such superficial things, and only to drive some funny muffin. I once - twice deliberately did experiments to take off muffins in discos. Well I can tell you it's very simple. You don't even need words, it's generally difficult to talk in a disco, and there's no point in talking. I just went and started dancing with one, little by little the dance happened with a sexual connotation and all the time without talking. Then I asked her only her name and 2-3 general questions and at the end I said that I was not from there, but I was staying at a nearby hotel and I invited her to go for a walk (I deliberately did not ask her, but directly and confidently invited her) . She agreed, and I pretended to leave in a moment, then I pretended, that my friends were calling me to leave and I left. Author, if you want a decent woman, look for her in an interest club, in universities, etc. If your problem is the first 5 minutes, then this is not a problem. Basically how to talk to an unknown girl if you don't have a sense of humor. You are still strangers and you have nothing to talk about. Well, just think of a reason. Ask, for example, where the "cheers" bar is (there is no such thing), while she is wondering, she adds that she is very sweet with this astonished face. The most important thing is not to focus on whether he will cut you or not, but just to say the line like that, by the way, without a visible reaction. If you do that, even if it cuts you off, it's a big win and you shouldn't feel defeated. Do it with another 20-30 and you will catch the turban. If he doesn't care, you just apologize and leave, as if nothing had happened. The point is to suffer with rejections. Once you suffer, then the women will stick to themselves. They adore men who are not afraid of rejection, and this is evident at the time of the conversation. It's confidence, it makes you independent of them, not their faithful puppy. If she seems intrigued, you just take the number and leave. But ask, because he can refuse you, and insert, by the way, that you can drink something sometimes and you don't.
It's not done at discos like that, dude. You reserve a table and lead the girls. Downloading strangers in the disco is a pathetic picture. Good luck.
But 14. There are no decent boys. There are decent men. Boys are not interested in monogamous, and for their men too small probably more, unless you like older. However, these men find you, you don't look for them. So don't worry, your time will come. If I were you, I'd hit it on polygamy now. Then don't cheat on your husband, not in a wedge, not in a sleeve, by hitting 40s. In any case, if you want to win a man, first be his FRIEND, not a boyfriend. Be with him while he is with others, share with him everything that excites you, in 1-2 years he will start looking with different eyes and then you will gain a lifelong friend. But again, it's nice to do the same as him.
From 5/15/16 to 8 Aren't you asking for a specific download example? I'll tell you one of my crown numbers, which I came up with myself. Let me add before that I like to look for girlfriends not in a disco (I've probably gone to a disco 10 times in my life and only because of my friends). I love the street because there are all kinds of girls there, not mostly disco carpets and you have a wide choice. It is obvious who is right and who is not, at least I feel them. So I go to someone and say, "Excuse me, can I have some help? I got on the bass with my friends over there so I can get your phone number. I'm not a brat and I'm not going to ask you to do that. So can you just to write me on this slip some fake number with a fake name below, just to win the bass? " I assure you,
Author: By the way, I also met on the street directly. From 5 times, I talked to only one very well, it depends on the girl / woman de facto whether there will be a conversation or not. My approach was the same all the time. No matter how friendly everyone is, most of them just pass by. And there is something so unloading in meeting a new person… We are very crazy people in Bulgaria, we can not do anything like people - even to meet. Everyone is looking to be careful and pass you by faster and he doesn't even know why he doesn't want you to meet.
Number 18, hello, I'm number 14. As I read you, you seem to have had several unhappy marriages with various modest wives, or maybe the other extreme, persophones with hidden numbers. I don't want to offend you, but if you push young people to polygamy and vulgarity, then you are missing something, no matter that you are probably 40 or so. Just because you have "unexperienced youth" doesn't mean that some young people think your way. Real people are always there, no matter what age. You very much limit the definition of the word sanity, which I used, and you are right that a man who is 20 is no longer a boy, but you contradict yourself with the fact that the sane and settled were men of a certain age, and you think like a boy under 20.
The idea of women having a good time in a disco is not to meet someone and have sex. The girls want to adjust, to be seen and liked, that's it. Probably some want to be noticed by a bartender and a paralytic, not just a young man, he was also good-looking. Quite a few women would go for sex overnight and there is no guarantee that you will like them.