Hello! I am writing on this site about some perhaps quite familiar problems that have been encountered a lot. There really aren't many people around me with whom I can share, but I just need to let these things go now. I have a friend I love very much and he is the most wonderful person I have ever met. He helped me a lot and I helped him a lot, and he is a very positive person. I am proud of many things with him and I really want the best for him. We are both still learning and we are quite wise for our age. The problem is that he is religious, and a lot of them. I believe in God and I know that He exists, but not as a real figure or a man on a throne, not as religions describe him, but as a real light and energy of love and protection that is in each of us. However, he does not think like me. He is a Muslim and like all of them and you may have guessed, he is engrossed in his beliefs. I love him and I care about him, but his religion completely obscures his judgment. He is incredibly intelligent and I do not understand how he could let books and religions take over his mind. We want to do a lot of things together, but it's very difficult for me to pretend to agree with him. I would do anything for him, I would even wear these clothes in his religion, but I told him that I do not believe and do not want religions. I really love him and I would like him to feel that, but his religion bothers me. All these rules and dogmas, requirements ... I really don't want our relationship to go to bad things because of something so false. I myself have been a religious girl before and I know how difficult it can be to break these beliefs. All wonderful things and miracles are completely real, but not as some books and rules describe. Islam is not a religion of peace at all, he is full of violence and I am afraid of how he will react if I try to explain this to him. I know that, like me, he has deep doubts about his faith and the things he is learning, but he will not trust his feelings. I know nothing can be done at the moment, but it is. I just wanted to share.
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Sweethearts of gold, learn not to confuse literacy with intellect! One has nothing, but nothing to do with the other ...
You felt right. With it, you always have to pretend to believe in the same things. If you try to shake him, he will sacrifice his life and be proud of how he overcame the temptation. Otherwise you have the prerequisites to accept his views. You already believe in an abstract god (from some Protestant denomination in May), imagine an old man with a beard on the throne in heaven and you're done. Islam is designed to improve Christianity, it is not so different.
I think you're exaggerating the problem a bit. My faith is similar to yours. I believe there is a Lord and I believe that he is light-energy-power, something invisible whose history is not exactly in the bible. I believe that traditions help us to remember the spiritual. However, I do not know and do not believe whether the burning bush and all the personalities in the Bible are true. In my life I have met complete atheists, fanatics, more or less believers. I have found the story with everyone, we have never judged our beliefs. I don't know how normal it is and how much it is from my environment, but my friends and I have always reached religious topics. I have heard all sorts of opinions, but I have never imposed mine and I have never been forced to argue. Why? Because we finally realize that we all believe in good and miracles, but we call them by different words and explain them in different ways. To me, God is one, his name is irrelevant, he is one. It is important to have the same family ideal with your friend. You just need to know that he will respect his wife and will not touch her. For Muslims, the topic of women is sometimes dangerous. The Qur'an encourages a woman to listen to her husband, to be faithful, to accept if he has other women. What guarantees that your friend wants to dominate you and make a harem in your backyard? The man does not think anything like that. He believes that there is a Lord, he believes in the Qur'an, he hardly lives with all the traditions and understandings of his religion. He is with you, even though you are a Christian. This should tell you that his parents did not go to explain to him that he must be with a woman of his religion. Do you hide your connection from society? Has he ever touched you? Did he say something that made you think he wouldn't respect and love you for life? Has he dropped an opinion that hurts and offends you? Stop thinking about this religion without knowing his point of view about his future marriage and family. Sit down and talk to him. Explain your worries to him, study his morals. You will never understand his opinion if you do not ask him and give him a chance to explain his views.
If you are a Christian, know that you are in a big mistake and delusion. There is a great danger of ruining yourself spiritually. God is one for all, but Muslims reject Our Savior Christ, who, as we know, is one of his three faces. From now on, you decide, but if you lose God's love and protection, know that you lose everything.
Hey, people like you put on your burqas and left with those from an Islamic state. Don't waste your time with this one, you won't change it, and according to their manners you are at the level of a slave. Remember Betty Mahmoudi's book. You will be sorry if you connect your life with such a fanatic, no matter how intelligent and wonderful he may seem to you now, in time he will show his essence. For them, the 21st century has not come, they are spiritually in the Middle Ages. I'm sorry, but it seems to me that you overestimate the minds of both of you - since he is obsessed with Islamic dogmas, with feelings for a man with a religion in which women are stoned to death. True, love is blind, but seeing is quite painful. Think with your head, not with other parts.
A religious person is not intelligent if he starts talking about his beliefs. You will try to bring it closer to reality and what is reality to you or what you want to build and live, but he will quote other people instead of himself. It is very annoying and annoying for someone to teach you on the basis of religion instead of on the basis of life experience and intelligence, because there is no dialogue with religion, no meeting of personality, no living connection with that person. I'm sorry to say this, but I think fanatics and deeply religious people are a ruined cow, the only thing that can happen is that they irradiate you and push you into their world. If you don't want to become an eombie cut off from real life, the way out is to leave that person. Most likely, as a friend, you won't like it later,
Run away !!! And your future children, will this faith not be imposed on them as well? Don't give up your origins and traditions just because of some feelings towards some obsessed Taliban ...
If he has allowed religions to take over his mind, then he is not so intelligent. He thinks it is, but it is not real. And because he is a fanatic, he easily manipulates himself and others to believe him. But reality comes and illusions evaporate only for a moment. However, wasted time, nerves, plans remain - he, thinking and acting as if he is a smart man, and you are convinced that he is what he really is not.