Hello, I need your advice. I am a 21-year-old girl, I have a 3-year-old friend, he is my first, I went to work abroad last year, I need him, but in the summer I started working, I had a colleague, there was a lot of chemistry. between us, but neither he nor I did anything because I'm busy .. We didn't even talk about it, shared conversations and everyone with their thoughts .. After I went to study, we continued to keep in touch via Skype and Facebook, but our conversations become much more frank. This colleague of mine is not what I look for in a boy, he just attracts me with all his differences from me. I don't want to part with my boyfriend, I care a lot about him, he always helped me, we love each other, we have a great time together. We've seen each other recently, but I think I was cooling off to him, no matter how hard I tried, it wasn't the same thrill as before, I miss that feeling. That's why I want to try something new, I know that if I see this colleague of mine I will not hold back and I will cheat on my friend. I've never been with anyone else. I want to relax and go downstream to feel the thrill of the new again, but I know I will hurt and lose a person I love. And if I do it without telling him, I will hate myself, I do not want to lie or cheat. I'm looking for the best option in which everyone is happy, but I don't think there is one. If my friend wanted to be with someone else because of the thrill, as I described him, I would freak out and understand if he reacted that way.
And the boy I worked with revealed some side of me that I didn't suspect I had, to want something completely different from my moral values. I know that if I see this colleague of mine, I will not hold back and I will cheat on my friend. I've never been with anyone else. I want to relax and go downstream to feel the thrill of the new again, but I know I will hurt and lose a person I love. And if I do it without telling him, I will hate myself, I do not want to lie or cheat. I'm looking for the best option in which everyone is happy, but I don't think there is one. If my friend wanted to be with someone else because of the thrill, as I described him, I would freak out and understand if he reacted that way. And the boy I worked with revealed some side of me that I didn't suspect I had, to want something completely different from my moral values. I know that if I see this colleague of mine, I will not hold back and I will cheat on my friend. I've never been with anyone else. I want to relax and go downstream to feel the thrill of the new again, but I know I will hurt and lose a person I love. And if I do it without telling him, I will hate myself, I do not want to lie or cheat. I'm looking for the best option in which everyone is happy, but I don't think there is one.
If my friend wanted to be with someone else because of the thrill, as I described him, I would freak out and understand if he reacted that way. And the boy I worked with revealed some side of me that I didn't suspect I had, to want something completely different from my moral values. but I know I will hurt and lose a person I love. And if I do it without telling him, I will hate myself, I do not want to lie or cheat. I'm looking for the best option in which everyone is happy, but I don't think there is one. If my friend wanted to be with someone else because of the thrill, as I described him, I would freak out and understand if he reacted that way. And the boy I worked with revealed some side of me that I didn't suspect I had, to want something completely different from my moral values. but I know I will hurt and lose a person I love. And if I do it without telling him, I will hate myself, I do not want to lie or cheat. I'm looking for the best option in which everyone is happy, but I don't think there is one. If my friend wanted to be with someone else because of the thrill, as I described him, I would freak out and understand if he reacted that way. And the boy I worked with revealed some side of me that I didn't suspect I had, to want something completely different from my moral values.
Answers 16
I will just quote you and draw your own conclusions about how you feel and what delusion you are in: - we didn't do anything because I'm busy ... - my friend, I care about him a lot, he always helped me, we love each other, we have a great time together - I want to try something new - I want to relax and go downstream to feel the thrill of the new again, but I know I will hurt and lose a person I love. - moral values. The lesson of history? I don't want to be a critic of you, because you see, the haters weren't tolerated ... but what do you expect, to congratulate you? Moral values, what moral values was a girl, what kind of love was she? You people still love someone, but do you see there are second and third and fifteenth ... was that love? You do not know what love is. Don't use that word girl, you're just messing it up. This is yours .. well I have a boyfriend .. so I'm not alone. . it's best to tell your friend "your great love" that things won't work out for you, because otherwise the boy will live in a lie and delusion .. love .. tc tc tc ... she wanted you all to be happy .. well find you are a pimp man and let you go at 2, 3 in the evening and you will all be happy .. you didn't do anything because you were [busy] .. like someone tied you up by force .. IF YOU LOVED there would be no other guys for you .. but calm down .. you are not the only person who does not understand love and life in general. Success! :)) as if someone had bound you by force .. IF YOU LOVED, there would be no other boys for you .. but don't worry .. you are not the only person who does not understand love and life in general. Success! :)) as if someone had bound you by force .. IF YOU LOVED there would be no other boys for you .. but calm down .. you are not the only person who does not understand love and life in general. Success! :))
comment 1 is painfully correct. She wanted two chairs at the same time ... it won't happen. You choose one and sit down (and literally giggles).
People only appreciate some when they lose it. The period of falling in love with your friend is over, now you have to accept him as he is with all his shortcomings. If you leave him and go with your colleague, you will soon see his shortcomings and the thrill will go to some others. Stay on your ass and don't do things you'll regret later. Falling in love has a deadline, it's like an hourglass and it goes away because you see all the flaws and shortcomings of the person next to you. Reality and expectations diverge. As one French writer said. -,, Life is a comedy for thinkers and a tragedy for those who feel.,, You will have to choose which one to be.
I'm sure it's best to break up with your boyfriend now. I know when a relationship has a future and when it doesn't. You definitely don't have one with him. Separate, and you will be able to scratch your scabies without remorse. When you make a living and understand that a relationship is built on trust and fidelity, then look for a serious friend.
The author represents 95% of modern women. There is a similar joke on the Internet - "women in a nutshell". XII
So, huh? I love one, but I want the other. Here one was asking, am I a whore now ... Well, get together and decide at last!
And to attack the girl, the facts are as follows: a man can not learn to love, appreciate the other and respect him BEFORE he has put at least one 5-6 SERIOUS relationships behind his back! And tell me now, after her boyfriend is the first, and the colleague POSSIBLY the second, then where will the girl have this experience, so that she behaves and thinks the way you want ??? №1 (and the others) - you would be absolutely right if it was a 40+ year old woman, but a 21 year old girl ?! ISN'T IT TIME NOW to study, to experiment, to make mistakes? To see what is right, what is not right, and most importantly - WHY is it not right? Yes, she is WRONG, she is DOING WRONG, but she is not yet aware of this, she will understand it from the consequences ... And isn't this the ONLY WAY TO TEACH HIM? Yes, there are people who are much more mature for their age, but why do you expect EVERYONE to be like that? Really - be a little more tolerant! I believe you wouldn't call a small child "IDIOT" just because he doesn't (yet) know higher mathematics?
Up to 7 You are a bit deluded, because there are a hell of a lot of people who after 1-2 relationships meet true love and lack of experience is absolutely no problem for them. I have only had ONE man (I met him at 19) and to this day we are very, very happy not to say how many years already. And by the way, the real experience is gained with ONE person, not with 500. Moreover, each of these 500 will take a little of her soul. So don't tell me these things about the experience.
7, I wonder how my mother married her first (my father)? And another chamber of people. Only 30-40 years ago it was not abnormal to have 1 relationship and it was for life. Well, there were still various people there with many connections, but now they are the majority. It's not like that. To try this one, to try that one, to try a Negro, to try a Chinese man, to be a blue-eyed blond Scandinavian, to try a "bad old man", is to stop.
Decide if you want commitment or fun and variety. Make a bold and timely decision so as not to waste your youth. And yet do not forget that 2 chairs sooner or later fall to the ground - I'm convinced of that! :)
9, 30-40 years ago a person worked all his life for one Moskvich and one panelka. There was a set of dishes at home all my life, and when one of them broke, it was a tragedy of a global nature. But it doesn't seem to be like that now ... Your mother had spent her life with her first, maybe she married a virgin - and will you do that too? Let us distinguish between coercion and natural development ... 8, if you had come across someone who beats and humiliates you - you would sing a completely different song ... Or would you still sacrifice yourself to the grave of your beliefs? Enjoy your luck and do not challenge Destiny!
to 11 of 8 I don't "sacrifice" my beliefs, I'm just saying that you don't have to go through 500 people. If circumstances so require, yes, but not in principle. Because you're trying to make it a must.
I read and mess with the letters above. So far, only numbers 3 and 4 have answered directly. The first comment is something wonderfully accurate and thorough, but I doubt that the author is on this wave and will appreciate it? And the others bit the 7th number and ... just ignore the wisdom in there: ... "And isn't this the ONLY WAY TO TEACH HIM?" Let's read at least 2 more times what is written - and the answer to the author of 21 years old emerges from the top. M 44/45
And I'm my wife's first and I'm very annoyed by people who say you have to "make a living" first. What does it mean that we are dead? You will say this is to change partners, to try different ones. Well, it's true that women have to make a living, that's proof that all women are whores. Does a woman have to go through 5-10 men to become a faithful wife after that? To the author: it is true that you are not married, but it is still 3 years. My advice is to stay with your current boyfriend.
Oh well, people wait a minute! How do you know what flaws her boyfriend has, they can be big, but she may have seen something unusual in her colleague. Honestly, choose a colleague. Or your boyfriend is great, but you want to have fun and that's why you want to dump your current boyfriend, if that's not the case, I don't know, you decide. It's as if love has died out between you. Choose a colleague.
Oh well, people wait a minute! How do you know what flaws her boyfriend has, they can be big, but she may have seen something unusual in her colleague. Honestly, choose a colleague. Or your boyfriend is great, but you want to have fun and that's why you want to dump your current boyfriend, if that's not the case, I don't know, you decide. It's as if love has died out between you. Choose a colleague.