Hello from me too .. I am 24 years old, I am just entering real life, and I am already desperate. I don't know what to do .. I have been a graduate for almost a year, but I never managed to find a job in the specialty, although I knew at the very beginning that the specialty I studied is not very reliable here in Bulgaria, I studied it with desire. I changed 2 jobs, and I could not agree with my colleagues (or they with me), in both places I was the youngest and although I have a university degree, it was felt that there is some difference between us (for both jobs my diploma had no force). One thing is said in the interview, after a while new obligations start to be added and of course the salary did not change. This strained me, exhausted me (they spoke for 9 hours on foot) and I began to slowly defend my positions - I talked to the manager, that at the interview we did not agree to do so many things - to deliver goods to other sites, to clean / tidy OK, given that other companies in this field have a person for cleaning / tidying, consulting, sales and delivery and everyone gets paid for this activity, I was assigned all these tasks, and the salary was one. I said that I applied for a certain position, not for everyone.
The manager tried to justify himself by saying that everyone helps as much as they can, etc., and in the following days our relations were strained, as our colleagues said "if you have any complaints, contact the boss". They are about 10 to 15 years older than me, I was not skeptical that we would not have common topics, but we never found a common topic of conversation. When there were no customers, they entered the rest room, in which there are 2 chairs and I can't go and sit on the ground to get involved in the topics for children, what will be prepared for dinner, etc. And when I allowed myself to go sit on one of these 2 chairs, I immediately wanted to do some work? !! I felt like a thief ... But anyway. After 2-3 days a colleague called me / before work / - go to our other site to take what you are and bring it here, where I said that this I don't get into my duties, but I will go ... And she angrily answered me "you have a boss" and I said "okay". I went, took it and took it away. Neither they greeted me, nor I greeted them. After a few hours one came almost to me and on high heels in front of customers told me "at work, I'm talking to you, I told you to bring me what you are", I had not heard him call me, whereupon I got angry and honestly ashamed that he was talking to me like that in front of the clients and I answered "it's good that you tell me I'm at work!"
Then an hour later the boss came and told me that they had told him that "I haven't listened to them" and we don't understand each other. His words were, "I have to fire you." It was hard for me because no one wanted to hear my version and try to understand me, but I showed no weakness and said OK ... Elsewhere we were 3 girls, about one year old and a man about 35 years old. We became friends with him and it was fun and enjoyable for me until the other girls started telling him that it was not right for him to separate us, that is, they felt isolated. He used to praise me in front of them and in front of the manager, my colleagues didn't like that ... One day I went to work and one of my colleagues was nervous and quarreled with this colleague, the scandal continued even after I left. I was trying to focus and do my job, but I heard him say, "Come on, tell her what you said about her yesterday, not to make her kind eyes and not talk to her behind her back." Whereupon I looked at her and tried "What have I done to you that you are talking about me?" She was ashamed (maybe) and stroked my hair and said Nothing darling, nothing ... And immediately smiled and said to the colleague Abe, let's not fight and their scandal stopped, we were silent for about 40 minutes and she had to leave because her shift was over, and after she left, my colleague told me what she said about me - that he praised me a lot, and there was nothing to praise me for not doing work for 2 stotinki, etc. She asked me not to tell her anything .. I called the manager and told her I had found another job and left.
This is my experience with colleagues and jobs. I have several "girlfriends", with one we only talk on the phone (she is from another city) when she has time and is not with her boyfriend ... and with the other we rarely see each other because she lives with her boyfriend and has other priorities, which is understandable ... I'm lonely, I don't have a friend, I don't know if I even want to have, because I'm afraid I'll go through the same stages again ... I had several relationships that ruined me. I don't know if I could take it yet. I am in love and naive and I always do my best in relationships, but after a while it becomes clear that we do not want the same things. and with the soul. I don't know what to do with my life, sometimes I ask myself the question “why do you take a place when you do not contribute anything?” I am a half-orphan, I cannot feel complete happiness and comfort at home. I'm shy and I find it really hard to trust people, but I don't think I'm a bad person. I am thankful to God that I am healthy! But why isn't it going well in my career or in love? I have dreams of enrolling in an English language course + a driving course so that I can try out as a medical representative (my diploma will be valid for this position), but I am a little scared - well, if I don't need the book or English? While working, I raised money for both endeavors, but I don't know if I should take a risk ...
Please give me advice. Thanks to everyone who took the time and patience to read my story. I can't feel the complete happiness and comfort at home. I'm shy and I find it really hard to trust people, but I don't think I'm a bad person. I am thankful to God that I am healthy! But why isn't it going well in my career or in love? I have dreams of enrolling in an English language course + a driving course so that I can try out as a medical representative (my diploma will be valid for this position), but I am a little scared - well, if I don't need the book or English? While working, I raised money for both endeavors, but I don't know if I should take a risk ... Please give me advice. Thanks to everyone who took the time and patience to read my story. I can't feel the complete happiness and comfort at home. I'm shy and I find it really hard to trust people, but I don't think I'm a bad person. I am thankful to God that I am healthy! But why isn't it going well in my career or in love? I have dreams of enrolling in an English language course + a driving course so that I can try out as a medical representative (my diploma will be valid for this position), but I am a little scared - well, if I don't need the book or English? While working, I raised money for both endeavors, but I don't know if I should take a risk ...
Please give me advice. Thanks to everyone who took the time and patience to read my story. nor in love? I have dreams of enrolling in an English language course + a driving course so that I can try myself as a medical representative (for this position my diploma will be valid), but I'm a little scared - well, if I don't need the book or English? While working, I raised money for both endeavors, but I don't know if I should take a risk ...
Please give me advice. Thanks to everyone who took the time and patience to read my story. nor in love? I have dreams of enrolling in an English language course + a driving course so that I can try myself as a medical representative (for this position my diploma will be valid), but I'm a little scared - well, if I don't need the book or English? While working, I raised money for both endeavors, but I don't know if I should take a risk ... Please give me advice. Thanks to everyone who took the time and patience to read my story.
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Well, so far I haven't seen anything abnormal from what I've written. You describe the annoyances of most people in the workplace. By the way, the described position is just a formality - yes, maybe this is your main task, but you have seen for yourself that especially as a young employee you do things that no one wants to do, but MUST be done. And if you think it's just like that with you or in Bulgaria - you're wrong. I graduated abroad and worked all the time in a very famous, large, international company with a "staff" department, organization, DESCRIPTION OF POSITIONS, but I was a "trainee in deliveries in May", but I made contracts, I even made coffee (and I cleaned coffee machine for the whole department), I made copies and ... I worked with a 10 year old laptop, although our company produced laptops, but I didn't complain, and even then I learned to download various programs and make some settings so that my laptop works faster. I worked for several different departments and even for a subsidiary, and I was employed by my mother. I will not describe exactly what tasks they gave me, but they are similar to yours - involving a lot of running, carrying heavy folders in the hallways, even throwing garbage and destroying documents ... At the moment I am a manager, but do I work as such? Ok, I sign various documents, but I'm actually at sites all day, driving 100 km. per city day (without exaggeration), I have three phones (with two SIM cards inside, because I have foreign phones and a separate "landline" phone rings through one exchange directly on ALL phones at once ... I fly at least once a week, although no one told me that at the job interview (I can sing a song about the girls in the hotel beds, including the 4-5 star ones in the West) and I do all sorts of nonsense that don't work for me, including rescuing our employees who got stuck with the NRA, loans and even drove a company car drunk. Hey, I do this instead of sitting in the warm office. My boss is like that and new and strange responsibilities are constantly emerging. For example, we have a chair that belonged to the company, but it turned out that no one is satisfied with the quality and price. Well, we fired the employees and gave the chair to an external contractor, having previously agreed on the prices of the food and the quality (it is subsidized by the company). And since the bosses also eat in the chair, there is no movement. Now there is a rich buffet and the price is half. To organize it was, by the way ... I had my own tasks, business trips and meetings. Recently I allowed myself to delegate most of these buckets, but as the youngest in the management, everything still rests with me, including personal belongings of the boss - documents and institutions to fix it, to drive his car to service and whatever you can think of. I do not write about colleagues, but advice to you - separate the personal from the business and you will not have problems. For example, do not talk to colleagues outside of work and topics such as time. Do not meet colleagues outside the workplace and DO NOT FAMILY especially with men! As the youngest, you set yourself up to double the others. When you push yourself a little and prove yourself, then you will have someone to do things for you, but not fulfilling tasks is a condition for dismissal all over the world and even in our country it is quite large. I work for bg. company and I have worked abroad and I guarantee you
Don't be afraid of anything, enroll in an English course and get a booklet. You just have to be bolder and not think so much of him. As for your colleagues, you should not give up so easily. In the beginning you are new-OK, they may push you this-that, but then, especially if you prove yourself as a good employee, these things fall away. You can leave because of bad conditions, bad pay, bad attitude, because of a bad boss, but you can leave because of forgetful colleagues. You all went there to work, you don't care what they think of you.
To work at your job, not for the sake of others, but for the sake of yourself, others will always have their own opinion. So everywhere there is always something bad in every job.
Well, the fact that you are like that and you accepted it as normal does not mean that it is right and that it should be so. It's just that people like you make sure there are such absurdities in companies. If people like the author were the majority, this would not be the case. As long as there are balaks, there will be tarikats. That is why today companies thrive and accumulate huge funds on the backs of their employees. And that this is the case in the West is also not entirely true. Maybe for the category of work you performed, it was so, but for a local, in a tolerable position ... hardly ... They not only value their work, in the west, but they are not very hardworking, but that's another topic. Admiration to the author of the topic, I also defend my rights, but I understood one thing - never say in plain text "I will not do this or that", if you stick to your work, it automatically discredits you. Your protest could be a little more discreet, not for anything else, but because you will jump out and not win anything good. Just what is not part of your obligations, you can easily skate or simulate activity. Just don't do what you shouldn't do, but make sure it's not intentional. From the many years of experience I have, I will tell you that you are rarely fired for incompetence and inefficiency, but you are almost always fired if you are not comfortable - that is, you talk a lot and seek your rights. Learn to merge with people not to be conspicuous, no one likes different and you will always be discriminated against. You are a woman, you almost always have female malice and envy, because you are younger than them, it is just a must, find a way to overcome these differences. There is much more to tell you, but this is not the place. You are what you are, precisely because you are still young and your life has not broken you, but sooner or later, this happens to everyone, or almost every mortal, like most people in the world. :) Don't despair, give it a more non-puckish and big :)
What can I tell you, it's the same for me, and I'm 30 in the State Administration. I do not want you to despair, but it is in many companies and institutions. The struggle for power, a higher salary, for positions in front of the boss and who to let do the dirty work is great. If you are shrunken and decent, they crush even if you are 50. Doing your own and successful business has more risks than bankruptcy, lack of vacation and more stress. You just have to find a job that suits you best. And the themes for dinner and the children and you will feel it in time. It's just that your child fills up all the time (even 7 hours of sleep you see a mirage) and you have no room in your head for anything else. I am a man and I sleep for six hours and a little, because of commitments around the child, during the week of babbling, during the weekend looking after the child, this is life. The other option you choose to be childless, you travel a lot, you relax and change your job often. YOU CHOOSE!
You will definitely need English and a driver's license for anything you do in the future. This is an extremely good investment and there is nothing more useful to spend the money saved. Otherwise, what can I tell you ... In the beginning it was difficult for all of us. It takes time to teach a person emotional discipline. That is, the understanding that colleagues and bosses are not your friends and relatives to make you angry and insulting them, but people with whom you have business relations and your responses must also be of a business nature.
You will definitely need English and a driver's license for anything you do in the future. This is an extremely good investment and there is nothing more useful to spend the money saved. Otherwise, what can I tell you ... In the beginning it was difficult for all of us. It takes time to teach a person emotional discipline. That is, the understanding that colleagues and bosses are not your friends and relatives to make you angry and insulting them, but people with whom you have business relations and your responses must also be of a business nature.
You will definitely need English and a driver's license for anything you do in the future. This is an extremely good investment and there is nothing more useful to spend the money saved. Otherwise, what can I tell you ... In the beginning it was difficult for all of us. It takes time to teach a person emotional discipline. That is, the understanding that colleagues and bosses are not your friends and relatives to make you angry and insulting them, but people with whom you have business relations and your responses must also be of a business nature.
You will definitely need English and a driver's license for anything you do in the future. This is an extremely good investment and there is nothing more useful to spend the money saved. Otherwise, what can I tell you ... In the beginning it was difficult for all of us. It takes time to teach a person emotional discipline. Ie the understanding that colleagues and bosses are not your friends and relatives to make you angry and insulting them, but people with whom you have business relations and your responses must also be of a business nature.
Well, like everywhere, the young do all the work, and the old gossip and cover themselves, or talk behind your back, I've been in the NRA for two years, it was so bad there, with gossip and nonsense.
№4 is right in one thing - we, the Bulgarians, very easily "squat" in front of employers. I remembered an acquaintance of mine in Vienna. It so happened that my husband and I became friends during a trip with an Italian who had several pizzerias in Vienna. The man invited us to one of his restaurants in the evening. We were very surprised when the waiter greeted us in pure Bulgarian. It turned out that the entire staff of the Italian, in all his pizzerias consists of 50% Bulgarians. "Why?" We asked him, even slightly flattered. "Well, because," he said, "the Austrian worker, if he only lightly sprays grease from the fryer, takes sick leave and sues the owner for an accident at work. While the Bulgarian spits twice on the burn and goes to deliver the boards ...
I was also impressed that you focus on everyday life and interpersonal relationships. First of all, it should be clear to you that you are at work not to like and make friends, but to do work! As a new member of the team, it is normal to be given various tedious tasks. It may seem to you that you are doing the work of others, but in fact this is how you get into the specifics of the work and the whole technological process becomes clear to you. Once you master things and prove yourself as a full member of the team, both colleagues and superiors will accept you in a different way and will not rush you on insignificant tasks. And of course you will not be friends with everyone - there will still be those who will look at you askance, but this is inevitable. When I started working, I had to prove my abilities and learn new skills (mainly from nasty and boring tasks), and it wasn't until two years later that I was promoted. Then I changed a few more positions and from each I acquired a lot of useful knowledge and skills. If I had given up in the first two years, I would have jumped from one job to another, and complained that I was always given the dumbest and most boring tasks because I was new to the team. As far as I understand, you have an education in the field of pharmacy, and such specialists are in great demand, so you have a good chance for development, as long as you do not change companies twice a year.
We are not in the workplace to stop, we are at the university to study. And where to find friends, especially if you do not like to hang out in clubs and discos?
To number 13: I agree with your question. In universities and at work, one should, if not make friends, then at least establish stable contacts ... Otherwise, where? To the author: At the age of 16 I worked at sea as a shopkeeper in an "alcohol and cigarette" store, as I was told at the beginning. I was going to be in uniform and English was a must. Generally class work. I go and see what - a garage that sells alcohol, chips, waffles, sanitary napkins and whatever you can think of, but no cigarettes - they didn't have a license. We didn't have uniforms. We worked not for 8, but for 13-14 hours every day, and sometimes for 18 hours, without exaggerating. And for 2 months I had 2 days off, divided into 1 per month. My colleague was 20, a mega simple piece !!! But I realize that now. At that time, this fact bothered me a lot. Sometimes he fucked me out of boredom. He betrayed me to the boss for everything. My "blunders" were that I was sitting in a chair at work because my legs couldn't stand it or that I was hiding in the corner eating 1 sneakers because we didn't have time to eat. She sat and ate whatever she wanted. He even went shopping nearby on the donuts and then smelled like garlic to customers. Her language skills were criticized. I was ashamed of her in front of the customers. Eventually I began to faint at work. I opposed the bosses, the colleague, and in this endeavor I received help from clients and it became anointing. I came home at the end of the summer a completely different person. I already knew the price. I didn't let people fuck me. I am very grateful for this experience. Anyway. I'm almost 26 now. I graduated with a degree in economics, I speak perfect English and nowhere do they offer me more than 400-500 BGN per month ... For the city where I live I need at least 700 for a decent standard of living, as we are surrounded by thermal power plants, where salaries are high and prices in the city are determined by this ... It sucks, they make fun of you everywhere. And yet: I hear from acquaintances that they love their job and are very happy with their bosses. Apparently there are such "gems" on our labor market. Most of them, however, work in foreign companies in Bulgaria. My advice is: Look for options for a master's degree and while studying it, go on an internship in a company in a measly position, where you will deliver coffee to the bosses and take it away because of their moods. And be clear about it. The difference with working in another unskilled position is that if you are in the right company, even in such a position, there will be people who will notice your potential and raise you. Why do it? Because they need staff and they are recruiting them - from low positions. And they look not only at the ability, but also at the ABILITY OF THE STAFF IN QUESTION TO BE MANAGED and to do its job conscientiously. Because nowadays many "capable" people with 2-3 diplomas just want to be directors and command. Nobody needs such people. If you continue with large retail chains, grocery stores / detachments or small Bulgarian companies, you will also receive an attitude in Bulgarian - if you are a good coffee delivery person, they will leave you like that, because they will hardly find a better, comfortable and cozy one than you. never to raise you, but even to invent more obligations for you. Regarding your other question: DRIVING LICENSE AND ENGLISH ARE NEVER superfluous !!! As for English, look here: http: // easierenglish. bg / By the way, I am currently working as a language center trainer and I could help you a lot, not only with training, if you wish! Even if you don't show up, good luck, whatever you decide!
n 5 the struggle for power, etc., is available only in the state administration. who got rid of it, just won ...
As a young worker, in the beginning they will look at you with distrust .... It is like that everywhere. It takes time for them to get to know you and trust you. You do not write how long you worked in the companies in question, but it is probably for a short time. Usually after the 6th month he gets used to it - both you with the work environment and the others with you. It is good if you fit in with your colleagues and predispose them to you - so they will not cause you problems. You look like a more sensitive person. But it is important to become tougher and not to be concerned about who looked at you, who said what, etc .. LIFE IS A STRUGGLE .... And for the English and driver's license I am firmly "FOR". These are two skills that will benefit you for a lifetime and will open doors for you. Don't wonder about them at all, but act.
PS It is possible that in addition to being shy, you also radiate uncertainty and your colleagues take advantage of this and rush you more and do tricks on you. Try to overcome this and show them that they can't mess with you.
I really like the topic. It's the same job for me. I soon graduated and started in the specialty. The first day, my boss told me that I was not subordinate to anyone but him. I work with two other old dogs. The first is as a foreman. I have respect for him, he doesn't want to explain anything to me, he doesn't make me help him, but he doesn't try to pretend to be my boss. He's not cheeky and I listen to him about a lot of things. The second one suffers from an inferiority complex and constantly pretends to be my boss, nothing that is average and just gives me a nasty job and gets lame. In return, he shouts that he was training me. However, I don't want to be his "waitress". I will learn on my own over time. He tells me lies all day that he knows a lot, etc. We fight all the time. I studied for so long and in the end it happened that I didn't feel like going to work.
Welcome to reality! Here it is. You usually learn something and in the end it turns out that no one cares. In the beginning you are enthusiastic, you are looking for a job in the specialty, in the end you see that it is not possible and you start looking for anything and you are happy that you have a job at all. I know, it's stupid, but that's the way it is.
19, so a person chooses a specialty not according to how modern and nice it sounds, but what realization it has. Didn't you research what demand there is, how many ads have been placed in the specialty in advance? or when he took the diploma, only then did he check and be surprised. you have the Internet, people, research, check, don't just listen to "a woman in the market said" ... otherwise it is normal to have a period of adaptation to a new job and especially in the first job. so open your eyes, ears, study, observe, do not be so subtle, but try to get the most out of each situation. F43
maximum benefit? there are places where you can only overheat professionally, the only benefit is that you have gained a little experience, at the expense of health, which is invaluable. and it wasn't really worth it, because you'll have experience everywhere.
I graduated in European Studies but worked for BGN 500 data entry. You will say sadly, but the colleagues were wonderful and so was the place, so even the boring work was easy and I went there with a smile. It's as if the workplace is better than the university - there are no plumples to give you lectures, you don't have exams and they pay you for what you do.
20, when I chose a specialty I did not choose something because it is modern, but because I was fond of it and because it really gave me pleasure. In addition, my father worked in the same field and had a good chance of finding a job after graduation, with the help of his connections. However, that was when I was in 1st year ... then the crisis started and everything went wrong. The people who had promised to help my father lost their jobs, they were no longer looking for new people and so on. Finally, after 6 years (I also have a master's degree), it turned out that nothing is going according to plan. But good health! I found a job, although not related to my specialty, but I like it. Only sometimes I'm a little sad for all the efforts I made, but I tell you again, I studied it with pleasure, so for me it's been 6 wonderful years and I'm not sorry. Hopefully better days will come and specialists will be sought again, not just service staff. So this is my advice to the author. Do not regret that you studied! Sooner or later this knowledge will work for you. Maybe not exactly the way you imagined it, but any knowledge is useful. From 19
I do not think that the specialty in this case is the problem of the Author, but rather she should reconsider her way of working and relationships with colleagues. I think she has some problems communicating in the workplace. I can't know exactly what the problem is, but I think I wrote above - you have to learn to separate the personal from the business, the private life from the business. It is difficult for a young person without experience and experience. And you also made the mistake of relying too much on your parents on the one hand, and on the other hand thinking that your workplace is a family environment in which older people will patronize you and do things for you. The truth is that every young specialist starts with tasks that no one wants to do - this is the case in every job. Everyone makes connections on their own, BUT at work and as proven. You can't expect that some distant acquaintances will help you because they cannot guarantee you as a specialist. First you become a specialist, then you have the benefits - not the other way around! The specialist does not make a diploma. Craft is stolen - EVERY craft Success
19/23, you obviously studied something related to construction. sometimes this happens, the crisis has hit this industry. however, such drastic changes are relatively rare, and the labor market as a whole is changing more slowly. I wish you to find a suitable job. and for the author: if the problem is not in the specialty, to arm yourself with patience, to gain experience, contacts and to abstract from personal relationships in the workplace. who looked how and what did not matter does not matter, everyone is there to get their bread. of 20