Hello, dear forum members! I am a 26-year-old man from the countryside. I have a good, close-knit and happy family. My health is more or less good. There is nothing to worry about (at least for now ...). Visually, I look just fine - 1, 75 skinny with fair skin, hair and eyes. I am polite and cultured. I graduated at 24 and since then I have not stopped working in my specialty. In the beginning I started in a small company in the neighboring town of my hometown. I spent 4 months there and left because of a low salary, but I had no problems with the team. Even when I think about it, I haven't had one. Then I moved to the capital in search of a better life - and I found it. I have been working for a big company for a decent salary for a year and a half. It is not one of the highest, but it is enough for me that it even remains. I am a workaholic and I always try to get the most out of work. So far so good, if it can be called that ... The problem stems from the fact that I am an antisocial, outsider, introvert type or whatever you want to call him. The people I communicate with are either my colleagues or my family. I need friends, a girlfriend and a NORMAL life, but I can't stand being with people for a long time - they stress me out ... So here's what's wrong with me. I haven't always been like that, I would even be proud to say that I lived my younger years quite crazy. But now I'm stuck healthy. I don't want to go out and socialize with people, I prefer to watch a movie at home and relax. But I have such moments where I feel an urgent need to talk to someone, to share with him how my day went, to listen to his, to help each other with the solution of some life problem - such everyday life ... And when I think that I don't have people like that around me, besides my family, I realize what I am, I even feel sorry for myself, my behavior and the refusal to socialize ... but it hurts and itches .... That's how I've been since I graduated. Let me explain - as soon as I enrolled in college, I met a girl. We started a relationship that lasted throughout my training (4 years). It was my best years, but things didn't work out and we broke up. I have been so desperate and depressed for 2 years now. Everyday life crushes me - I work from 9:00 to 17:00 every weekday, I rest on the weekends. I come home from work and stay with us all the time - that's every day. Saturday and Sunday because I have nothing to do - clean, wash, cook, etc. I support myself and do not rely on anyone, but no one relies on me ... I feel superfluous. I live aimlessly and I feel like I'm wasting my best years. Basically, that's me - boring, a secretive and very special man. I guess you've already formed an opinion about me. Based on this opinion, what would you recommend me to do to get out of the abyss of life into which I found myself ... Thank you for your time!
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Hey :) have you tried to have communication with people through Facebook, any interest group and you will find company :)
I'm 24 and I'm in exactly the same position as you ... you're not alone. I have been struggling with this problem for 6 months, but I can't. I am constantly at home, I go out 3-4 times a month. I hope someone gives good advice ..
You are completely normal. You finally grew up and realized that there is a family, children, a wife in life ... all you have to do is find the girl. I don't know how, but find a way to see people and meet a good girl.
start meeting people. For example, sign up for folk dances, there are many women there, some of them are lonely like you, folk dance groups often organize group outings at various restaurants or gatherings, so there will be someone to have fun with. And who knows, you might like a chick there. I recommend that you start going to the gym, not for anything else, but to build a little self-confidence and sport helps a person to get rid of some depressing thoughts in the head, such as those that have begun to gnaw at you. Sign up for a dating site, I don't know if they are literate anymore, a lot of people used to gather from there. You can also try speed dating and see if you can find a girl there.
options: 1. You find a roommate 2. You take a dog 3. In your free time you volunteer, whatever it is, whatever you like and you like 4. You visit your parents more often
Hi, my suggestion is to start with something small, something different that you can do at home. A hobby that will distract your thoughts for at least a few minutes a day. It doesn't matter what, something you find interesting, even if you don't think you have talent for it. A hobby that will make you feel complete. If you are ready to take the time, it will be even better if the hobby takes you out of the house and meets other people. You think your life is boring, it will add a little color to your daily life. You can look for other people who are interested in the same and this will be a ready topic of conversation. Look for something to return the flame in your eyes, then you will be ready to look up and set fire to the girl of your dreams. And also somewhere out there, someone longs for the "boring" life you offer,
You won't get better, go back to your old town if you have any friends. Your 2nd option is to stay that way. Time passes quickly, you will blink and you are already 30. I can reassure you that you are not the only one. A lot of young men from the Bulgarian ethnic group who are getting married live alone and often stay like that until the grave. I know many people and those where they have been remain in the same position, or if they have changed it was in their teen years. I don't want to scare you, but that's what I think of my worldview. Get a kitten and for a friend in Sofia there will always be someone to talk to on the street to drink a beer and so on.
You won't get better, go back to your old town if you have any friends. Your 2nd option is to stay that way. Time passes quickly, you will blink and you are already 30. I can reassure you that you are not the only one. A lot of young men from the Bulgarian ethnic group who are getting married live alone and often stay like that until the grave. I know many people and those where they have been remain in the same position, or if they have changed it was in their teen years. I don't want to scare you, but that's what I think of my worldview. Get a kitten and for a friend in Sofia there will always be someone to talk to on the street to drink a beer and so on.
Health Sofia is a big city, quite fast, but you will still find company to drink beer in the park or in a restaurant after work. People change, albeit with difficulty. It depends on how much you want something. There are many young and intelligent people in Sofia. I have n. places to walk even though I haven't lived there. You have a job, you support yourself. One day a chick will come to You alone and will appreciate You as You are. There are passengers for each train. Good luck!
Dude, if you become much more social, you won't have enough money and you know it!