Hello, please from the "share" team to publish my story. :) I'm H. at 19, I'm Turkish, I fell in love with a Bulgarian. We had a happy relationship for 4 years. We loved each other a lot, generally from a young age until now I got used to him, he was my first love my "childish" love. My parents were against him and did not trust him, he tried in every way to gain their trust. My parents insulted him, what did they not tell him and he smiled, he never said anything bad about them and they tried to touch him every time they saw him. He had his name tattooed on his left breast, proving to me in many ways that he loved me. But that was the sweetest thing he did for me. We had quarrels in the relationship because there was no "sex", he told me that he would wait for me as long as necessary, but last year he pressed me a lot. I wasn't ready and I didn't want to, I wanted to have sex when we got married. He was very angry with me, even when I refused, he didn't pick up the phone and then apologized, saying it was a man's need. I was in a lot of pain and I lost my trust in him. I had paid a hacker to hack his password on "facebook", I am not happy with my action ... But there was a period in which I had an instinct that he was doing something behind my back. I saw that you wrote to a mutual friend of mine who I don't particularly like, and she briefly gave him her address. He had said he would come in an hour. I was crushed. So I went and caught a taxi, I was at the given address I couldn't call right away but finally I gathered my strength I called, he opened it for me .. I won't describe what I saw .. I told him that everything was over and much more .. For a month and In 2 weeks everything is over, he keeps calling me and looking for me. I wouldn't forgive him ... But do you think he loves me? After all, he endured the insults of my parents, he tattooed his name ... But if he loved me, he would be completely faithful to me, wouldn't he?
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I think the boy still loves you, but you are big people - you are 19 years old, he is probably older, and the love between adults and sexually mature individuals wants to be consumed. 4 years he was not without sex, unless he was sick or something abnormal, but whose fault is it? Traditions, parents, virginity were more important to you than your relationship and love, and at some point his body prevailed and he had sex with other women. Is it? Who is right and who is wrong? In my opinion, it depends entirely on you whether you will have a future together, but the sacrifice can be very big - to give up your nurtured "values" and live as a modern woman of the 21st century. You know very well why your parents don't like him and will never like him - not because of him as a person, but because of his origin and religion. Until you marry a person of their choice - another Turk, a cousin or at least another Muslim, they will not be at peace. I'm not just talking about this boy. Even if you decide not to forgive, you will have the same problem later, unless you marry the man your parents choose. Your friend would immediately marry you, but you know that this will not be enough for yours - if he is going to do a somersault, it will not be enough, because he cannot change his ethnicity or gender and will never become a real Muslim, because you can't grow up with modern values and go back to the Middle Ages even if you love a woman, and 4 years is not much - how long will he endure harassment? But yes - the man loves you. It depends on you what you will do with it and what is more important in your life - love or your parents. And I will not lie to you, that love gives some guarantee of eternity and life, because that is not the case. You will have a lot of cultural problems if you live with a Bulgarian, including for our men, virginity does not make you more valuable or less valuable, but is just a zipper. Yes, he will appreciate it, because he will be the first, but if he is not happy with you and things do not work out, it will not prevent him from parting with you, because he will not think that he owes you who knows what because of a zipper, with which every woman was born. Hey, this is your risk - if you have nothing but virginity to offer to a man, rather keep it for your parents' chosen one, but here you will say whether the ties between Muslims are for life or you are just practicing serial monogamy, but under marital attire and you break up just as often as other people ... you will say here ...
If he loved you, he wouldn't cheat on you.
Този филм съм го виждал и друг път. Няма среден вариант. Авторката или трябва да се откаже от семейството си или да се откаже от това да има половинка, която наистина обича. По стечение на обстоятелствата общувам с доста добре образовани наши мюсюлманки и мога смело да заявя, че никак не им е лесно. Интелигентността и културата им дава широк мироглед и съответно по-сериозни изисквания към мъжете. Изборът им обаче често влиза в противоречие със семейството. Българите не можем да разберем колко е важно семейството и роднините за мюсюлманите. По тази причина процентът стари моми сред интелигентните и образовани мюсюлманки у нас е страшно висок. Съветвам авторката да се съобразява със семейството си, не някакво сляпо подчинение разбира се. Семейството ще ти е подкрепа през целия живот, а в любовта нямаш гаранции. Колкото дали те е обичал. Да, сигурен съм, че е било така. Просто сте се срещнали прекалено млади. Не те съветвам да се "събирате" и жените. Съветвам те да отидеш да поживееш в друг град, отделно от вашите. Аз лично не мога да приема хората да се женят без да са правили любов преди това.
Enter the 21st century because you are now in the 17th! Of course, you are not to blame for the environment in which you grew up, but you are to blame for not doing anything for your love. I am a man and I lost my virginity when I was a boy of 17, although I am neither very sexual nor impudent. I don't think it's normal to procrastinate. Of course he loved you. The question is did YOU love him? Don't you think that he has endured the meaningless, undeserved and unprovoked insults of yours for 4 years? Don't you think that you kept it "dry" is enough? He endured all this for you! And what did YOU do, what did you suffer because of him, because of your love? There are other forms of sex, not only penetration - read on the net - necking, petting, fellatio (whistle), anal (especially popular among Muslims), there is even a re-sewing of the virgin zipper, so that it turns out that the girl is a virgin for the wedding - widely practiced among 90% of the "Turks" in Haskovo (I have a friend, doctor, I know - a house built of such sewing ...). And you what? Did you do something? Did you do something? NO! Prefer to remain blind and deaf to these things, to continue living with and because of your prejudices! Instead, he hacked his account ... ARE YOU SATISFIED WITH THE RESULT NOW? You deserve it not 100, but 1000%! to continue living with and because of the prejudices of yours! Instead, he hacked his account ... ARE YOU SATISFIED WITH THE RESULT NOW? You deserve it not 100, but 1000%! to continue living with and because of the prejudices of yours! Instead, he hacked his account ... ARE YOU SATISFIED WITH THE RESULT NOW? You deserve it not 100, but 1000%!
Hello author and I am a 19-year-old Turkish woman. I have been with my friend for 2, 5 years. We did it together on the 5th day after the acquaintance, I don't understand you. I am ashamed that I am a serious Turk !!! Only people like you are exposing us ...
At the age of 19, by law, you are a mature and adult Bulgarian citizen in Bulgaria. You have the right to decide for yourself what to do with your body and life, as well as with whom to meet to have sex or whatever you do, as long as it is not illegal and does not violate the rights of others. Your friend loved you very much to endure the attitude of your family, and the fact that he satisfied his instinct with another woman after 4 years of waiting is not a pain to die. However, he has made it clear many times that he wants you. When I get hungry I want an apple, but when I don't have an apple I satisfy my hunger with whatever I have ... do I have to starve because I don't have an apple? !! Instinct is a physiological need as well as hunger, which in our men grows into physical pain in the groin and if not satisfied regularly leads to disability. The boy loves you and I'm sure you want intimacy with him, at your age it is normal to feel the desire for sex. It is up to you whether things will work out for you - not from your parents, nor from the Almighty.