Hello! I need advice or at least an opinion! Here's what happened. Last night, I was just going out for a commitment I had made and my phone rang. My colleague asked me to go to work (immediately) because there was no one to take over the shift and the other colleagues were busy. One was not in town (I was also on my way), the others were busy too, and only I could take the post. I refused! I could not ignore my commitment. Whereupon one of my colleagues called me that I had acted badly, I could not be relied on, my act was a huge minus for me ... such and such. I said they were causing me problems at the moment, and my colleague said, "Don't let the one who is causing you problems feed you" Do you think I should have done everything? However, I cannot be available 24 hours a day if it has been established earlier that there is no one to work, I was going to cancel my appointment and go to work, no matter that I was on schedule. What do you think I did wrong? And for you, which is more important, personal life or work? Not to mention that the salary is so meager that I am ashamed to tell you how much I work and how much I earn. It wasn't like that before, otherwise I wouldn't have taken up this position at all. I get some faxes to leave. I'm tired of colleagues making remarks to me about things they never do themselves. To screw me ... come today, come tomorrow. I can't at any time, I was up the night before. I hadn't slept during the day and how can I drive at night again in the evening ?? Am I not a robot? It wasn't like that before, otherwise I wouldn't have taken up this position at all. I get some faxes to leave. I'm tired of colleagues making remarks to me about things they never do themselves. To screw me ... come today, come tomorrow. I can't at any time, I was up the night before. I hadn't slept during the day and how can I drive at night again in the evening ?? Am I not a robot? It wasn't like that before, otherwise I wouldn't have taken up this position at all. I get some faxes to leave. I'm tired of colleagues making remarks to me about things they never do themselves. To screw me ... come today, come tomorrow. I can't at any time, I was up the night before. I hadn't slept during the day and how can I drive at night again in the evening ?? Am I not a robot?
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Yes, you did the right thing :)) I know this, and I have experienced it. And the moment I decided I was going to respect and stand up for myself and I started doing it, I started to feel better. I no longer really cared who thought what and what he did, even if I was fired :). You did very well, you should have done so even if you had no commitment and you were lying down to rest. Fear is a bad advisor, I tell you from experience. The more you submit to them and please them, the worse for you. Respect yourself, hold on to your rights, and to what YOU think is right and proper. These bastards (employers) will increasingly have to see that as much as WE depend on them, so do THEY on us. And don't go out with the number that NO ONE, that's not your problem. I tell you, things turn around,
And I think like number one.
don't make excuses, you're not guilty and I would do that. You are too conscientious, it looks and shows and now you are fucked in the weak spot, making you feel guilty.
I fully support number 1, I have nothing to add, except that I advise you to look for some other job. Be mobile and be ready to leave your place, even the country, because it is obvious that you are a young person - now is the time to prove yourself and realize, and in this environment there is no way to become Laura
Of course you did the right thing. Who are these, come to work now? !? As 1 said, even if you're lying down to watch TV, you don't have to be available at any time from now on. I understand that they will tell you 1 week in advance, then if you have no commitments, at least it is not collegial to refuse, because you may have to, but you are OBLIGED! What they apply to you are cheap psychological attacks, don't get attached to them! When asked which is more important, work or personal life - for me specifically personal life, but there are also people who live for their work (they are called workaholics). In general, the most important thing is the balance between the two - there is no universal one, everyone feels it. But in your case, it's not a question of what's more important, it's just that they're just blabbering on! Kubrat
Number 1 is absolutely right. I would tell you the same. One recommendation. I would not tell them that they are causing me problems because it sounds like an accusation against them. I would tell them, "I can't come right now." If they don't understand, you repeat the same words. You did very well when you refused, do not bother your mind at all with what exactly you said and because you refused. After all, we're not talking about a job to make a career out of. And those other times they may not dare to bother you anymore. Look ahead.
In number 5 I mean "... but you still don't have to". Kubrat
And I agree with 1. Wow author, this is nothing. I have worked abroad say speeches 24 hours for meager pay. I worked for 3 employees and once I did like you, everyone hated me and I became bad, lazy, frivolous and what not. But it's my own fault I allowed it all. It was my first job, and I was afraid of being fired because it was very difficult for me to find a job. It wasn't until the last month that I realized that they had been using me all the time and making fun of me. I talked to the former employee and found out that she did half the work I do, she worked 8 hours. working day and received higher pay and left because it was not enough. Only then did I see. I found all this very humiliating. They gave me hard work, watched me struggle, cried, got sick, and even smirked, they didn't give me a day off. A complete mockery, I don't wish it on anyone. But like I said, I'm guilty of it myself.
Well done just like that!
You did the right thing. Everyone was busy with something, and you have no commitments ?? !! It does not teach them that you are always available to them, because then they will always look for you and if you say "no" once you will be the only one to blame, nothing that there are 10 more, who will always be justifiably very engaged. I experienced this - I was still free and had to stay after work because I had no children - so obviously I had no right to privacy then. Well, deal with the situation.