I am writing this article late at night. Thoughts that drive me crazy. I met my boyfriend a year and a half ago. I'm half Bulgarian, half (I don't want to be around, despite the anonymity) I'm not. I dumped the university and my family for him. In Bulgaria, neither for my family nor for my friends (although they don't know him at all) I no longer exist. The different interests and paths in life have had their say. Although I have relatives here who I have seen several times in my life before, I feel lonely. His job is such that he is constantly on the road, at first I was jealous of him, because it's one thing to show yourself in a light on Skype, it's another to show what you really are. He was also hellishly jealous, but at the moment everything is within normal limits. 8 months later - we live - with their (the most amazing people, who can meet, treat me like a daughter they never had, although he took quite a few girls to them, I somehow won their hearts). However, the fact that he constantly goes out with friends and "potential clients" eats me inside, I know he doesn't lie to me, he always tells me where he is and calls me with him, sometimes I go, but I stand like a stump and keep quiet because I know he won't what to say. It hurts because I don't have anyone close here, I have 1 girlfriend who was in love with him and when we started "going out" with him, I hid from her.
I sacrificed everything in the name of our relationship, but he doesn't seem to appreciate it. I notice that she is almost trying to separate us. Suddenly she became a very good friend of his ex (with whom they were together for 2 years). I'm alone in a foreign country, I don't know the language well, in people with a different mentality and it's hard for me, I don't have anyone. In order to enroll in university and not pay extraterrestrial money, I have to have his last name, but he doesn't want us to get married until I get pregnant, which we haven't been able to do for 8 months. I love him, words cannot describe my feelings for him, I have sacrificed a lot, I have cried and experienced a lot, but he is everything to me.
At first, he left me and did whatever he wanted. His mother advised me to leave him and pretend I didn't care. According to her, that way he would see that I didn't care and all this would pass him by. Still, he was used to leading such a life. And so it happened. Everything she had told me turned out to be correct. But his ex continues to interfere in my friendships with other girls from here, even though he is studying abroad. A friend of his who is 38 and has never worked and never had a girlfriend, he is constantly dragging us everywhere and expecting my friend to pay for his drinking. Everywhere they try to separate us because almost the people here envy everything or just have no other job. He is sorry to give money for something we really need, but to drink his unemployed friend - a leech - he is not.
And so every day. I don't have a specific question or problem on which I want an opinion, I really needed to pour out everything that eats me from the inside and that I had no one to share with. Be healthy and happy! I don't have a specific question or problem on which I want an opinion, I really needed to pour out everything that eats me from the inside and that I had no one to share with. Be healthy and happy! I don't have a specific question or problem on which I want an opinion, I really needed to pour out everything that eats me from the inside and that I had no one to share with. Be healthy and happy!
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He doesn't care much for you. Pity. Too bad.
Malee, darling, don't get pregnant by such a man, what if you give birth, see that he is not serious? This love will pass you by, you will meet a really better man, with better conditions ... of life for you and your child
You made a big mistake. Never risk everything for one person, because the more you risk, the more they don't appreciate him. Do you know why? Because that's how you show him that you don't keep to yourself and your dreams, in order to dump everything lightly, and since you don't keep to yourself, why do you expect him to do it? Here you went there, abandoned everything and he doesn't even want you to get married, but he lives like he's gone. That is, your victim went to the wind. The only advice I can give you is to get out of there, no matter how difficult, to graduate from university, to find a job, to get back on your feet. When you already have something personal in your life, then think about love and never make such sacrifices for anyone again. Tomorrow, if he decides to dump you, you will be left on the street without education and work and you will catch the flies. Glad you didn't get pregnant, you still have a chance to leave and get your life back on track. Or do you want to sit all your life dependent on him and crush you as he wants? If he behaves like that now, he doesn't think that will change, it will get worse. I really don't understand women like you who turn their backs on life lightly for a man and don't think about their future. You must have expected him to look at you like a princess and you not move a finger for the rest of your life. But there are no princes or princesses, everyone has problems and interests. The sooner you realize that if you do not take responsibility for your own life and do not have to throw yourself into nothingness, living in illusions, the more problems you will save. Believe me, sacrifices like yours do not lead to anything good, except that you sacrifice your personality and life to please someone who doesn't care about your victims. Once you've started complaining about sites, this is just the beginning, then it will get worse. Don't expect a smart person to tell you that once you get pregnant and give birth, the story will begin and everything will be fine. There will be nothing wrong, cut all this at the root if you do not want to suffer and have at least a little self-esteem. If you prefer to be crushed and trampled, and to be a silent letter all your life, stay there and complain no more about your fate. Especially if your friend is Turkish or Arab, don't expect anything good at all. If you give birth they can take your child, throw you out like a dirty cat and never see him again. There are many such cases. then it will get worse. Don't expect a smart person to tell you that once you get pregnant and give birth, the story will begin and everything will be fine. There will be nothing wrong, cut all this at the root if you do not want to suffer and have at least a little self-esteem. If you prefer to be crushed and trampled, and to be a silent letter all your life, stay there and complain no more about your fate. Especially if your friend is Turkish or Arab, don't expect anything good at all. If you give birth they can take your child, throw you out like a dirty cat and never see him again. There are many such cases. then it will get worse. Don't expect a smart person to tell you that once you get pregnant and give birth, the story will begin and everything will be fine. There will be nothing wrong, cut all this at the root if you do not want to suffer and have at least a little self-esteem. If you prefer to be crushed and trampled, and to be a silent letter all your life, stay there and complain no more about your fate. Especially if your friend is Turkish or Arab, don't expect anything good at all. If you give birth they can take your child, throw you out like a dirty cat and never see him again. There are many such cases. If you prefer to be crushed and trampled, and to be a silent letter all your life, stay there and complain no more about your fate. Especially if your friend is Turkish or Arab, don't expect anything good at all. If you give birth they can take your child, throw you out like a dirty cat and never see him again. There are many such cases. If you prefer to be crushed and trampled, and to be a silent letter all your life, stay there and complain no more about your fate. Especially if your friend is Turkish or Arab, don't expect anything good at all. If you give birth they can take your child, throw you out like a dirty cat and never see him again. There are many such cases.
I missed the deadline this year to enroll in university, as a foreign citizen of course (although fees are sky high and back), but if we stay together I will do it at any cost, I have the will to study and work, I do not expect anything from anyone, I want and will fight for what I want and I think is worth it. He is neither a Turk nor an Arab, he is a Christian. My mother and father categorically said that if I went to him, I would not return. Even if I leave him, I have nowhere to go. Indeed, things are not as I imagined them, nor is he the person he imagined himself to be. Everyone has flaws and of course I ignore them until now, but I don't know how long I will be able to. And at the moment he is with friends for coffee, and I am at home. I'm confused, I'm lonely, but I know it was my choice and I have no right to complain.
You made a very big mistake in dropping out of university.
They have already written to you, never make the mistake of abandoning everyone and everything for the sake of 1 person, whoever he is. always leave a backup option, a back door and keep 1 in mind. Nobody has lost from this, on the contrary, you can only win. You have already realized your mistake, it is unpleasant, but it is not the end of the world. Talk to your mother and father, they must miss you, no matter what they tell you. Take your life into your own hands and go boldly!