Hello! I'm a girl who had some emotional adventures ... so the moment came to the question - "Well now, WHAT ?!" A little over a month ago I met a boy (7 years difference) at a party. We saw each other, we talked, we danced together - everything was okay. I didn't even remember his name. Anyway, 2 days passed and a notification popped up on Facebook - an invitation for friendship from him. Of course I accepted ... He wanted us to go out, but then I worked and I didn't have much free time, so I refused ... After about a week we met. We walked, we talked a lot, we laughed, but here's the thing (I'm sorry) We drank beers and could not drive, so I let him stay with me. We took something to drink, I had no intention of going to bed with him .. But "we were already on the cherry" and it just happened. I pulled away 1/2/3/4 times, but the pressure continued, so I just went with the flow. It was nice to me, without denying it - it attracted me in some way .. After all this we laughed and fell asleep. The next day we went to the beach ... And the most shocking thing for me was that in the week after that ... things turned out so that we behaved as if we had been together for a long time. I slept with them, we did what we did, everything was ok, hugs, kisses, emotions ... However, I had not received information that he would go to another city. Next week, everything seemed to change. We stopped contacting each other so much .. as if the flame went out .. I started to get more and more confused and decided to ask "And now what ?!" His answer was - I don't know .. I'm there for you .. Anyway Well, he stopped paying any attention to me, he got colder at times. We've been together for the last 3 days, but nothing special .. The last day, hours before he left, I went to him to help, to see him and I said that I would miss him, and his answer was like: "Enough, don't talk to me like that ... I'm not such a person "?? Leave me and leave ... It is very clear that it takes time, but what was all this and why? I am an emotional person, I like to give warmth ... For the first time, it's so easy for someone to get under my skin .. We hardly contact each other anymore .. I try to write it down a bit on social networks, to call, but it's with friends and ... he can't or hurries to close .. He doesn't care So, the problem is that I want to keep him until I go there to study .. Is there any chance or just too hasty actions and developments between he and I were led to a lack of interest ... I am terribly angry and slightly confused. Is there a way to arouse any interest? !! Am I "stupid" that I don't realize something? !! At one point it gives me some hope, at another it just doesn't ..
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Well, don't do nonsense. Fucking on a first date, do you really think anyone will think of you as a literate woman? If there is "to go there to study", then you are 17 years old ... which makes your story even more stupid. Forget him, as he did, the second you are uncomfortable. This is done with easy girls. Get used to it. Brother.
"For the first time, it's so easy for someone to get under my skin." - Was it just under my skin !? You obviously wanted it, and now you're pretending to be conscientious !? Strange creatures are women!
When a man does not have to make an effort to "get under the skin" of a woman, he does not appreciate her. He has no respect and trust in her because he finds it easy. He says to himself: tomorrow he will go out on a first date with someone else, he will get drunk and let him go. My advice is to stop writing to him and if you meet again to let him make an effort to be with him. At this stage there is no chance to have a long distance relationship, he really has no motivation for such a thing.
Honey, he had no interest at all, he won't. He was looking for fun, he gave in and left. He didn't have time to wait, nor did he want a relationship. Now what? !! Well nothing! You have another earring on your ear. Totally forget it, have self-esteem. The right one will come. Success!
He's fed up with you and he's on his way. What are you wondering? It seems that the development of the relationship is only in your head. To him, you're just another babe he's slept with a few times, and that's it. He doesn't want you or anyone else hanging around his neck. He just saw that you give easily and that's it. Men quickly lose interest if you don't resist and you're ready. There must be a thrill. Easy women on the road and over the road, the point is to grab his attention. And especially if you show yourself to be very emotional and sticky. They flee like the devil from incense. Apparently he was just looking to fill the time until his trip and you were perfect for the occasion.
You don't care, don't push yourself where you are not wanted.
When you ask if I'm stupid, I think so. You introduced yourself to him as an easy and gentle woman. If for a week after your acquaintance you let him sleep in your bed (as he drank and can't drive, isn't there a taxi?), What else can he think of? He got what he wanted very quickly and easily and lost interest in you. He probably thinks that after he leaves, you will do the same with others and he does not want you for a serious relationship. Don't expose yourself anymore and don't look for him, there is no point in annoying him after he has shown a lack of interest in you. If he needs you, he will look for you. And I don't see from what you write that he gave you much hope, but rather tactfully tried to get rid of you. In a word - there is no chance. Let it be for a lesson - first do not drink, as you can not and do not rush as much as you like someone to reach intimacy (not to use the real word).
He used you to fill time. Easy prey for men always stays in the background. Not that you can't have a serious relationship, but you need to have time to get to know each other and find out if you would fit.
It was easy and the one she slept with was hellishly difficult. Don't cut your hair, forget it, it doesn't make sense. Take it as an experience and if you are not ready to bear the consequences next time just do not rush. And remember, no literate man will judge you because you slept with him if he did the same. Only rubbish does it, but it's better to get rid of rubbish even if it hurts now.
№ 13 -Like one, so is the other. If he is rubbish, then the girl likes rubbish and flirts with it. When he knocks on the door, why does she open it for him? I will ask again - the one who drank, isn't there a taxi that accepts him to sleep with her? They fucked each other, they both had fun, so the responsibility for what happened lies with both of them. From there, everyone on their way. It happens to millions of people every day. There was a liking between them, sexual attraction, not love. Thrill, as he is called, for the moment, urge. She may have wanted a relationship and development, but it takes two. Once the other does not want, nothing will happen. He resigns himself so much. And she is more careful with the next one, if she can draw her own conclusion, if not, the same thing awaits her.
By no means listen №13. The best thing about your story is that you realized you were in a hurry. And she advises you to gain experience. Will you respect yourself if you go from man to man and "gain experience" I do not agree with her that only garbage does not want easy women. And readers don't want them. It may be your first time doing it, but it doesn't say it on your forehead. The unpleasant truth is that he used them for entertainment, as a free prostitute. He wanted to get rid of you. I hope you listen to the sensible advice above and do not repeat this nonsense.