Hello, I want to share my story with you. I am a 17 year old girl. A few months ago I met a 30-year-old boy. We were having coffee with our mutual acquaintances, after a while we started to write and see each other, we understood each other perfectly, we were together 24/7. There were no arguments, arguments or quarrels ... Everything was more than perfect and by the time I realized it became very important to me. I fell in love with him, no one had treated me like that. But after a while he pulled away from me ... we slept to see each other and even stopped looking for me. Of course, I immediately wanted an explanation for his behavior, and his answer was "You are too small for me." Of course, I didn't believe that was the reason, because he knew about the age difference from the beginning and had no problem with it. I would like to ask you what your opinion is and I ask for advice. Thanks!
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I was in the place of this friend of yours (happened a week ago), he is not a boy, he is already a man. The age difference is really big, as it was with me (upstairs like you, but I'm a little younger). A person may want a family, for example, and you are now starting your life, university, in time you will want to "change" men a little. I was in your friend's place, and so I stopped anything between me and this girl.
If he was 24, for example, and he was 37, things are connected, but in this case, you are small and even a minor. Otherwise, the difference itself is not striking
If I'm not mistaken, I'm pretty sure that having a 30-year-old man in a love affair with a minor is illegal. I don't know if it's just about sex or in general. Maybe he really likes you, but he's worried that what he's doing is wrong. However, you can sue him for pedophilia, and this can seriously damage his reputation, his ability to find work and his life in general.
At 30, people are men and women, not boys and girls. At least from the perspective of a person your age. (For example, from the perspective of 50 and older people will be boys and girls) He is obviously a reasonable person and correctly judged, because in the next 10 years your thinking and tastes will change at least 10 times and therefore the probability of being hurt by you is very big. And in the beginning, he just fought between his mind and his emotions.
No, a girl of 24 and a man of 37 is DEFINITELY NOT OK for a relationship. Nothing that is the dream of many dudes ..
That's right, you're right, but he himself said that he still doesn't want a family and children, he called me again yesterday and I don't know what to think and what to do ... he says one thing, he does something completely different ... I'm confused from everywhere, but I am sure that I hold on to him and even if we are together we will be neither the first nor the last with this age difference. n. After about 3 months I turn 18 and I don't care that I am a minor at the moment
N5 Everyone has a personal opinion and a different point of view :)
Leave it as a minor, leave it and the difference is not so huge. The point is that he still needs to have a family - then it's too late! He is now 30, if he has a child now he is only 48/9, when he gets up he will be an adult, and at 40 if he has it it is too late, because by 60 it is not known if he will be alive to look after him, and you are small. You're 18 now, it's not your time, for children, or you're too old to walk, cook, etc., to say you can, but that's not the point. You will want to go out, to study, you are small, this is the problem. If you are 24 and he is 37, it is somehow much more normal and really possible for everything, but you are small - tomorrow you will fall in love, you will want to try, you will realize that he is big. When he's 42 you'll be 28 you'll still be young, you're just young, for something serious with him, and if you try one day you'll understand, it'll be ok for you, you'll be young, but he does not. He may be right, he may have feelings, but he also has the human mind to realize things realistically.
There is a big difference between 24 and 37, because if she is a woman at 30, he will be an uncle at 43 and will no longer have the energy he used to have. While she will be a woman in her prime;)
I think he got scared and pulled away. Especially if he wasn't really immersed but just liked you - it's very possible that he doesn't want to make things serious. Or he just felt it wouldn't happen. When people are of different ages - they are often of different minds. So the perfect fit becomes much more difficult (by no means impossible, however). For me personally, if there is emotional and, so to speak, "mental" compatibility, the age difference is not taboo, but that's me. The truth is that in most cases - it just doesn't work, and society often puts a stigma on such relationships - another motive for him to withdraw. Leave it - by force beauty does not happen - as it will not, will not. If you really care so much about it - you can wait for it for a while, see if it doesn't change its mind, but in general - start thinking, that maybe it won't happen and you have to look for your happiness elsewhere. Good luck!
Until 9 Now I am 44, my wife is 37 and it often happens that we have sex 2-3 times a day, which I go to quite often and hard and constantly looking for more sex!
Hi, my situation is similar. I am 20 and my friend is 30 years old. I know that the age difference between us is big, but I still love it very much. My family and friends tell me that I am still young and I don't know what I want from life, that I am likely to meet another boy, etc. He tells me that he will be waiting for me to finish my higher education and then we will be a family. . I love him very much and I want to be with him, but I don't know what will happen, only time will tell. My advice to you is, if you want to be with him, okay. This is your life, live it as you like. If you love each other, be happy together and smart!
Love has no limits. There is no big difference, as long as you love each other!
You are a small author and he knows it very well. Don't you suppose that "but he himself said that he doesn't want a family and children yet" could be a kind of test of your attitudes, but if he is looking for the exact opposite, if he has decided that it is time for his wife and children. He checked you out, he realized that you want to live, now you will have fun with him, then with someone else, and when you have already scratched the scabies, it will be too late for him to look for another. A separate issue is that I do not play with much smaller than me for a number of reasons, it is one thing to smell a blooming rose, another to wait for the bud to open, then you can feel its aroma. At number 11 I will tell him not to be tied at 9, we were all young and 40-year-olds looked like uncles to us, when we turn 40, 60-year-olds seem like paparazzi to us,
To number 9. A 20-year-old liglio cannot satisfy a woman like a 40-year-old. I tried. The difference from earth to sky.
Hey my case to tell the girl, don't be young and I got up early with serious relationships young like you, but then I was left alone with a child of 27, then it's very hard believe me, but I was lucky and met another 12 years older than me and 28 I gave birth to a child, he accepted mine and we lived for 15 years now everything is ok, but the age difference is always but always felt and no matter how much we love each other he is already 52 and still have sex, but feels that it is not the same he can no longer as before and I still can and got up so now I have a lover and I am terribly confused