For 4 years I went out with a girl (the most beautiful creature in the world) we loved each other very much, we have been together since we were little. We were both very jealous, we went through all sorts of things - good and bad, we were together every day - it was beautiful. But one winter she left me! She said she was tired of wanting to try something else, that she was too small for such a relationship. Two months after our separation, she caught a friend. It's been 9 months, I still love her, I think about her every day when I see her I tremble and when I see them together I want to die. In general, I'm not a romantic, I'm not very sensitive, I had many friends, my girls have fun, but for 9 months these things do not excite me, I went out at most 5 times and with another girl I have no desire to be and I have not been - 9 months. Maybe I'm not normal ! She is with another, kisses him, touches him, whispers to him, makes love to him and I suffer every day. The weather healed !!!! SO 2 days ago she called me, we had not heard from each other for months (except that I wrote her text messages) but she did not answer. we saw each other, she kissed me, we had sex and she left. It gave me hope and disappeared. When I asked her, "What are we doing now?" she replied that she wanted us to be friends. I don't know what to do anymore, I had just calmed down a bit and now she confused me again. And I have a stable job, good income, I bought a decent car, I have everything, but I'm not happy without her, and she's a bitch, but I still love her infinitely. What to do from now on? I am confused! She is with him!
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She has sex with you and then she wants you to be friends .... it's a hell of a dumb behavior considering you have a past. Try talking to her. He wants to explain. If she doesn't want to or the explanation for nothing happens, don't waste your time with her! If she tries again something that confuses you, cut it off!
You did not indicate how old you are, but I can tell you that you are not the only one with such a fate. I completely understand what's in your soul. The salvation to get out of this nasty state is to do what you didn't do while you were with the babe. No more SMS. Go out regularly with friends and create new companies. Don't look hard for a new girlfriend - she will find you herself. Don't think that the new one will be like the old one - it could be worse. Talk to the new one about your great love for your old girlfriend, but don't overdo it. Be sure to change a few new ones - this will happen naturally without any shocks for you. You will like the fourth or fifth babe more than the old one, but don't treat her like the "whore" treated you. If your old boyfriend calls in the meantime, in the name of "old friendship"
It's not worth it, I'm sorry to tell you, but understand that it's true, if you truly love her, you'll never forget her, but think about her behavior and you'll see that it's true.
He wants to spin you on his finger, he plays with you ... Listen to me, I have experience in these things ... You know what to do - ONE BIG NOTHING ... it did ... he knows you're still crazy about she abuses you ... She wants you to be on call ... When she has a problem with her current boyfriend, she wants you to be her first reserve and to always accept her with open arms ... Do you know what the woman looked like? That until the next branch appeared, she wouldn't let go of her current one :))) I don't want to despair you, dude, but on her part love is exhausted, there is no going back ... If it suits you to be her momentary pleasure, a sex toy from time to time, ok, be and-but it will cost you a lot of nerves and anguish ... Don't say that it's your fault ... It's just that her feelings have run out. ..Just try other women ... I know you won't be all that interested,but just fuck them so that there is some presence around you ... At first you will not find a woman to fill the gap left by this ... But the day will come when a suitable, so-so-from nothing, calm down ... There is no pain that time and reason do not cure :))) Good luck ...
Run as hard as you can, invest everything to turn your back on this girl, focus all your will on not dealing with her, get used to the idea that she is no longer with you, push her away the next time you turn on, are you a man or what ? - a toy? There can be no friendship between you. Finish with her and in time you will meet another, quite unexpectedly you will see how many beautiful women there are actually around us and that in Bulgaria there are 2 times more than men :)). But for now, run as far as you can from her and her surroundings, remove everything from her home, photos, letters, but delete everything from your life. It takes time, but then you cool down completely. It's all from personal experience. I already have a new girlfriend and I can't remember my ex at all. I only remembered once finding one of her hairpins in the trunk of my car :))
Dude is playing with you! If I'm in your shoes, I'll break her nose!
If you really love her, try to be just friends with her, but without any sex. As hard as it is for you, try to be just a friend. Create another environment, go out with girls and try to stay true to yourself. Otherwise, you will be dependent on the whims of a girl who plays you and humiliates you. If you can help her when she asks you to - always be there for her and show that you are her friend and that she can count on you. But don't let yourself be addicted and playful. And if the moment comes when you earn her respect and she tells you that she wants to be with you, then you will tell her what you can't compromise with. If she cares about you, know that she will do everything possible to make you keep as a friend.
He turned his back on everything, no matter how much it hurt. Don't let her make fun of you like that, just be your backup in cases of being left alone, stop showing that you are hurt by the separation, become a hypocrite, see her and her boyfriend, but behave as if you have lost nothing. Swallow the pain and move on will not be the first or the last. go out have fun and don't think about it. Become harsher on her. But don't let it confuse you and keep you in its nets. don't humiliate yourself by running after her whenever she whistles at you.