Hello. First ... I'll tell you a little more about myself to get a better idea of what I represent. I am a 19 year old girl. I study in a normal high school, I am an excellent student, I will soon apply for a university. Tall, thin, colorful eyes, thin lips, long and brown hair. The only thing one would define as a minus is probably my big forehead. But ... I look normal, I think. Quite an ambitious and purposeful person. But the positives obviously end here. My problem is this - I have never been loved by anyone. Nobody fell in love with me. Understand it as you wish. My only relationship was with a man who turned out to be gay and described me as "the scapegoat he needed for his loved ones." You may think it's a joke, but ... unfortunately, this is the brutal and difficult truth about my love life. Which is an absolute and uninhabited desert. I am writing this to share my anguish over the situation I am in. Normal human experiences for my age such as caresses, kisses, compliments and even sex are completely absent from my existence. And ... that makes me pretty sad. I have been observing those around me for years. I see my peers. Some of my classmates have been with the people around them for about 3-4 years now. And I just wonder ... why isn't this happening to me? I try to hide my unhappiness and dissatisfaction with this through learning and grades - the twelfth grader, who will graduate with full honors as expected. Gold medal ... praise. I try to compensate with this activity ... with some apparent development that adds to my value as a person. But now... it's quite difficult for me. My friends are constantly talking about their halves, and when it comes to sex, I stand and have nothing to say. Simply because I haven't experienced anything close to it yet. I can't say that I feel any shame, but I will lie if I save the information that I somehow feel pushed to the periphery of this type of relationship. I don't even know if it's a periphery or ...
I'm completely out of the circle if love was defined as a circle. I will also lie if I write that everything is fine and I do not feel a strange inferiority. And ... I really feel myself being crushed slowly but steadily emotionally. Try. It's not like I don't communicate with boys, but ... it's just that no one is interested in me. This year I was rejected once again because of what I am and the values I follow, namely, I was told that I am too "old-fashioned" (I understood love in a different way than I thought it was modern). Maybe so - I would never compromise if feelings and emotions are missing. And I definitely don't think that love is just animal needs. I do not want to be left alone, I am afraid, because in my family I have an example of such a person - an adult, left alone, resentful of life, complaining, secretly happy. I don't know ... I don't know how to deal with this problem, and time goes on. When this happened to the boy (I was in the eighth grade) who turned out to be gay, I had told myself that everything was fine ... and when I turned 18-19 I would have found another person who was honest and deserved attention. we. And I will be happy in a relationship. I will even laugh at what happened. But ... now I wake up at so many years and realistically, everything is the same.
I am still alone, rejected, rejected and unwanted. I write this with tears in my eyes. I am far from thinking that this is the biggest problem in my life, because I have quite serious family problems, scandals between my relatives and difficult cases, I do not feel at home, but ... at least outside my family I wanted to be . And outside the learning atmosphere. I would be happy to hear your opinion, your advice. Thank you for your attention and reading this. I would be happy to hear your opinion, your advice. Thank you for your attention and reading this. I would be happy to hear your opinion, your advice. Thank you for your attention and reading this.
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I understand you because I felt the same way at your age. When you enter a university, you can meet love there. Although I never had a boyfriend from university, I always found them elsewhere. And for the first time I was exactly 19. You have plenty of time for boyfriends, even if you change a few until you find your partner. Don't stop looking. One day you will wake up to a person who loves you.
You will find it, don't worry! But at this age it is difficult for people to realize, want to "live" or as they say.
Girl, your life is yet to come. As a student, I was very crazy. I was exactly in your position. Everyone around me had boyfriends and talked about sex, only no one liked me. If I asked for one, I was immediately cut off. I was constantly heartbroken. Well, I went to university. There is a completely different world from the average. People are new and no one knows you, you find new friends. That's when I changed my appearance, started to support myself, to go to the gym. On average, I was a toothpick - a rather despised quality. But at university, a lot of people came around to help me. Including girls. I learned to talk to them. I learned not to waste my feelings in vain. Gradually I became a preferred company. Imagine until the 1st year I had not kissed. I made several short and unsuccessful connections. I felt confident. At one point I met my current wife. She was next to me, but I didn't notice her. We liked each other and after 5 years we got married. We are now a happy family with a child. I'm 36 now. I'm not handsome, but I don't look bad either. I enjoy constant attention from different women. I constantly participate in jokes and flirtations, but I do not cheat. I will do it while I can. So your time is up. You need to change a little, both in appearance and in thinking. Move among people, be kind and polite to everyone. Love will find you on its own but I'm not cheating. I will do it while I can. So your time is up. You need to change a little, both in appearance and in thinking. Move among people, be kind and polite to everyone. Love will find you on its own but I'm not cheating. I will do it while I can. So your time is up. You need to change a little, both in appearance and in thinking. Move among people, be kind and polite to everyone. Love will find you on its own
Here we seem to comment only on people who were like you :) At 19 I was the same .. that until 22: D I was beautiful, but also very shy. It may sound cliché, but the person for you will come the moment you stop thinking about it. Otherwise, if you overdo these thoughts about how you just have to be with someone or you will die alone, you will start dealing with people who are not suitable for you :) success, everything comes on time in this life :) Otherwise I agree that you can try with refreshing the appearance - a new hairstyle, light makeup and so on. :)
That's enough, you're not 39, egati! At 19 she sat down to complain - don't do that. What half, what serious relationships at 19? !! It's just that the complexes have to show off. Stop going out with them, find a more normal environment. And always go out with an uglier friend to a restaurant, so your parachute will open for you. An old truth.
Honestly, you seem ... dry. You have taken so much time to develop the doctrine that you have neglected these things that matter to men. Namely, appearance and social skills. Work on yourself and there will be results. You say you're old-fashioned. From what is written, it sounds like a synonym for boring and inaccessible. I'm not saying you have to be easy or abandon your principles. But find a way to show men that you are interesting and give them a chance to reach you without having to tear down dozens of thick walls. Openly show your interest when there is one. Learn to flirt. Try to look well-groomed and emphasize your femininity.
In addition to number 6, I will tell you to find a man with some financial status and a nice car who can predispose you. After all, for men the most important thing is the appearance and skills in flirting, and for women money and the car. :))))
# 7, from # 6 It seems to me that your comment is an attempt to heat up, but it can't work because I'm a woman. Otherwise, for men, social skills and appearance are also essential, even in front of this notorious money, for which everyone is so shaky.