Hello, I'm a girl of 18. I have been living in another country for two years, coming every summer, winter and spring. I had a friend for two years and a few months. The summer before I left we went for a joke on the condition that it would be only for the summer and when we left we would part. In fact, it didn't happen that way, it was the most wonderful summer and I just left. After a year of long-distance relationship, things were fine, I couldn't wait to come back every time and be together. From the second year the problems started when he was dealing with other girls for whom he either confessed or I understood, there was no excuse for that, when he got up for the third time I couldn't forgive him and we broke up, yes, but every time I come in Bulgaria we can't sit apart and when I'm there he shows me that I'm the only one for him and he always tries to be the happiest girl. This thing has been repeated for a year.
This summer I will be back forever and preparing for exams so I didn't have much time for our relationship and we moved away (there are times when due to obligations I don't have that much time for him and we don't hear from each other, for this reason I blame myself) a girl who claims to love for the first time admitted that the problem was that the distance and jealousy of not hurting me hurt him and he needed love. He also said that he would always love me and we could be friends. His intentions for this girl seem serious, but we both know that once we see each other, nothing can happen. For information, he is my first time and first friend. No matter how many times he "cheats" on me, I can't imagine loving anyone else. Please for a simple opinion or advice. How much should you love to cheat? Should I just let them be together? I would be very grateful for any type of opinion or even criticism.
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I think he thought it was worth it. The ocean is full of fish. If their relationship is serious, do not fail it, because these are unnecessary nerves and dramas. Look at the boys more now and if you like someone, do it if you want to take the first step. Not very useful advice, but try again and still be careful with the choice. Good day! / Good night!
No it's not worth it. But you will understand this when you grow up.
It may be your first, that doesn't mean it will be your last. Distance is a distressing factor. Don't be angry with him, he's not guilty of loving you and he's lonely without you. But such relationships are doomed to suffering and sooner or later separation. Even if he hadn't cheated on you, when and how far would you get? I will give you an example with myself. I have had such a relationship for many, many years. We did not cheat, but we suffered a lot. We were small, nothing happened and at one point another man appeared, I got pregnant and ended with great love. Years later, I broke up with the child's father, with whom I was very happy just because he was in my city and I didn't have the difficulty of long-distance communication. But fate again met me with a new great love from another country. He and I immediately realized that if we loved each other, we had to be together and I moved in with him.
With first love, it almost never happens. Keep going and stop looking at the past. This is not the only man who will love you and you will love. Just don't be a "horse with lids" and look around. Greetings. M. 32g.
I think experience is a good thing and when you change a few boyfriends you can make a more realistic assessment and answer what you want. I would not allow myself to spoil someone else's happiness, if he has a girlfriend then it is so and if I can not restrain myself I will not see him.
What you are describing to you is the male phenomenon Unicorn. Almost every man has a woman or has had a woman once in his life who will always remain the only one in his category and in front of whom he has no choice and being with her is not a solution. One, the only one that makes him feel like no other in the world. The strange thing is that this almost always does not mean that the two want to be together, or that they have serious plans with each other. She is simply his unicorn, in front of whom he loses his mind and to whom he can never say "no", in front of whom something overwhelms him and makes him love her in a special way, an eternal way, not necessarily replacing his love for the girl, with which he is and with which he wants to be serious. He may have hit his head on the wall 1,000 times and vowed that this was the last time ... it didn't matter - the next time he saw her, all this is washed away and nothing and no one can deny his need for it. The unicorn creates a third category of love, apart from family love and that of the other half. Special love ... wrong in so many ways and at the same time undeniably true. You are his unicorn. USA
N. 3: "We were small, nothing happened and at one point another man appeared, I got pregnant and ended with great love." "We haven't cheated on each other." N. 3, do you see any discrepancy? Or is your name the Virgin Mary ?! And how do you twist the facts: "a man appeared" ?! And of course you forgot you were engaged. And of course you have no guilt. Author, you will have "another man" or your boyfriend will appear with other women. At least I tried to express myself in a feminine way.
From the Author :) I really thank everyone who took the time to help and you really succeeded. Special thanks to number 6, whatever we talk about which girl does not want to be unique :). Number 3 I care about the way your life has developed! Number 5, I think you're right, and I'll limit meetings with him. As soon as I wrote the topic I felt better, maybe it is very useful to gather the problem in a few lines and see that it is not the end of the world. Love yourself and love!