Hello, friends, in principle I do not like to share my problems, but I am already very confused and do not know what to do and I will be happy to have a competent opinion. I give straight, the problem is He, the Former. Yes, he is an ex and even though we broke up about a year ago, he still holds me in his arms, he knows that my feelings have not stopped for him, they are even stronger than before and this uploaded gives him the right to play with me. I have experienced it 100 times so far, but it is very difficult after seeing it every day, we study at the same university, we are from different cities, but that does not stop him from doing everything just to not forget it! I broke up with him and not because I didn't love him anymore or something like that, on the contrary I ended this relationship with tears in my eyes but he just cooled down to me, he wasn't looking for me, I realized that he was hanging out with other girls in my absence, comparing me to other girls ,, even once he hinted to me that he didn't miss me, I talked to him then and more than once, I told him that it hurt me, but he didn't hear me, it made me end this relationship, even though I knew it would ruin me. How I spent the months without him, only I know. Well, the summer has passed, I have recovered, but now the semester has started, I still had feelings for him, it was obvious to me and he has felt and since then until today, he does everything to hold me in his arms and not to forget it. He is constantly looking to ignite the fire of interest in me. I had stopped all communication with him, but he found me again and I don't know where. He started writing to me again, of course in spite of himself, I didn't answer him, although it was very difficult for me. The problem is that he does everything live so that we are in the game. He's looking for me at the university where I am and he's "supposedly" there, if he sees me talking to another boy, he stands and doesn't take his eyes off us until the conversation is over, he compliments me when we meet, he wants to go out, he hints that I miss him and he keeps telling me how good we had. I try to avoid him as much as possible, but the constant infusion of his presence into my life only strengthens my feelings and I just can't experience it, because he literally does everything not to achieve it. And for example, for a day or two he looks for me constantly, then for 1 week a complete lull and then he looks for me again because he feels that he is losing me. In the eyes of my friends, he is madly in love with me and wants me to return to him, he's just the same and he'll hurt me again, they just don't know him as well as I do. I've tried everything from talking to him to minimizing my contact with him, but nothing helps and he always wins. I want him to leave me once and for all, to experience it, to have my wounds heal completely, instead of bleeding now. It's like being a drug addict, but you can't stop taking drugs because you're given the dose. If I was sure he had changed, I would have come back, but he didn't, and he would hurt me again. I don't know what to do after I've tried almost everything, and it only complicates things! I am asking for advice, how to act, how to experience it, how to rub his nose and see that he will not be the only one to set the rules .... Thank you all for your time and opinion! I was going to come back, but I didn't and it will hurt me again. I don't know what to do after I've tried almost everything, and it only complicates things! I am asking for advice, how to act, how to experience it, how to rub his nose and see that he will not be the only one to set the rules? .... Thank you all for your time and opinion! I was going to come back, but I didn't and it will hurt me again. I don't know what to do after I've tried almost everything, and it only complicates things! I am asking for advice, how to act, how to experience it, how to rub his nose and see that he will not be the only one to set the rules? .... Thank you all for your time and opinion!
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Honey, where you went, he will break your heart again. You show your feelings and he will turn things around in such a way that again YOU will be the one who will "chase", again you will love him more than he will love you. It will hurt you again and you will not have a good relationship at all anymore, because for you everything will be suffering. It is very likely that in time he will blame you for leaving him and he has suffered more (the truth is that you have suffered more) and so keep you, as you will forgive him for teasing with others, he will go out without you, and you will stand true and wait for him to pay attention to you, and you will be sure that he is the right one, not you. THAT'S WHY: Leave this story ... whatever it was, it was. Don't go back. Don't show him your feelings. You are young, you will meet another, bigger love! You will meet a man who will not allow you to be hurt because he will really love you.
It's good that I saw the topic, because I'm in the same university with my ex, we're even in the same course. So I can give you advice. We broke up with him a year and a half ago, he did it, I was heartbroken. After the separation we had to see each other constantly. Well, I completely ignored him and he started ringing like crazy (since he was the one who ended the relationship). But I have been ignoring it ever since. It used to be because I had feelings, and although at times he indicated that he probably wanted to reconnect, I did not respond in any way. And today, today, I ignore him simply because I don't care. Now I find it hard to believe that I had feelings for this man, every time I saw him, it was as if he were a stranger. Before there was trembling, palpitations, and now a great emptiness. This, of course, is also due to the fact that I was already with another man, but he would not have appeared if I had shown weakness and characterlessness in the past. There is more than just feelings. Have dignity and don't let anyone play with you. Most men are like that, he is with you, then he is without you, he misses you (from time to time, however), he has you, he gets tired of something and this is repeated indefinitely. Correction - most boys. Boys, not men, because these are immature actions. The only way to save yourself is to make it clear that you don't care about him, and you don't even have to tell him! The truth is one, do not react in any way. As soon as he spoke to you, he answered in two words and continued. Otherwise, you will continue to suffer, and the chance of meeting someone decent while thinking about this one becomes minimal. There is more than just feelings. Have dignity and don't let anyone play with you. Most men are like that, he is with you, then he is without you, he misses you (from time to time, however), he has you, he gets tired of something and this is repeated indefinitely. Correction - most boys. Boys, not men, because these are immature actions. The only way to save yourself is to make it clear that you don't care about him, and you don't even have to tell him! The truth is one, do not react in any way. As soon as he spoke to you, he answered in two words and continued. Otherwise, you will continue to suffer, and the chance of meeting someone decent while thinking about this one becomes minimal. There is more than just feelings. Have dignity and don't let anyone play with you. Most men are like that, he is with you, then he is without you, he misses you (from time to time, however), he has you, he gets tired of something and this is repeated indefinitely. Correction - most boys. Boys, not men, because these are immature actions. The only way to save yourself is to make it clear that you don't care about him, and you don't even have to tell him! The truth is one, do not react in any way. As soon as he spoke to you, he answered in two words and continued. Otherwise, you will continue to suffer, and the chance of meeting someone decent while thinking about this one becomes minimal. Correction - most boys. Boys, not men, because these are immature actions. The only way to save yourself is to make it clear that you don't care about him, and you don't even have to tell him! The truth is one, do not react in any way. As soon as he spoke to you, he answered in two words and continued. Otherwise, you will continue to suffer, and the chance of meeting someone decent while thinking about this one becomes minimal. Correction - most boys. Boys, not men, because these are immature actions. The only way to save yourself is to make it clear that you don't care about him, and you don't even have to tell him! The truth is one, do not react in any way. As soon as he spoke to you, he answered in two words and continued. Otherwise, you will continue to suffer, and the chance of meeting someone decent while thinking about this one becomes minimal.