Hello. I'm a girl of 18. I've been writing to a boy for a month, a few years older, we haven't met yet (he's not in my town at the moment). It all happened quite by accident on Facebook, but from the very beginning our conversation started and we entered even more personal topics. One thing confuses me. We write to each other a lot, sometimes for 1-2 hours without stopping, he teases me, compliments me, but at some point he disappears. When he's busy or can't write, he shines and leaves it for later (for example, in the evening for the next morning, which I do too, only I leave it delivered, not seen). But from time to time he leaves me to wait for a few days. For example, we had written to each other for more than two weeks every day and then he turned blue and answered me after 5 days. Then he wrote to me as if nothing had happened, we wrote to each other for several days in a row and he did it again. At one time, when I answered him after more hours, he had started answering me right away, but lately the more I do to him in vain (it's not intentional, I'm just out all day and I can't always write), I have the feeling that he answers me even more makes it interesting. I'm not sure, but I don't think he's that busy, because in the evening, when I'm in messenger and writing to friends, I see that he's active. I like the photos when I upload. I don't know what to do. I'm patient, but it annoys me a little. I am very pleased to write to you and I would like to get to know him, but I cannot and will not swallow my pride and write after the blue message. Even if he seemed to have finished the conversation (in the latter case it was not). Every time I wonder if I said something to offend him, if he will write to me at all. After all, it always says but after how long? Otherwise, on several occasions I did not answer him (delivered, not seen) and after 1-2 hours he sent me a new message asking if I was angry. I can't understand - so he may not answer for a few days, but if I'm a few hours late, it's a problem. Several times he hinted that when he came, we would see each other (it was approaching time already). I don't know, I'm very confused. I don't like such numbers, do I like it, or is it his character? If he wasn't interesting to me as a person, I wouldn't put up with his games. I behave in moderation, neither too withdrawn, nor too close, sometimes I answer soon after he has written, sometimes after hours (still within a day or in the evening for the next morning, if I go to bed). I'm sorry it took so long. Please, moderators, post it, because I need opinions,
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Either he doesn't take you so seriously, or he just is. I often do that myself. I see the message, I come up with an answer and I forget to send it. Or he may not be writing at the moment. It's just that if you think he's not just spending time with you, he's probably not pretending to be interesting.
This is a tactic just to make you cry. Ask Uncle Gugal;)
You always answered quickly, you got used to it that way, so he asks. Otherwise, it seems frivolous, for now (judging by what you wrote). He may like you more when you see each other, but it's not certain, nothing in this life is certain - not to be seen ... He seems to test you in a very childish way, but you're at a distance, he invented it - to check if you will look for him, because he is wondering if you will "tie" him. Don't go into it too much, be careful.
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He pretends to be interesting (per player) ... that's it! Don't write to him for a while and you will see how he will start looking for you himself, but just show him and you will take power and if he asks you, why don't you write ... you just tell him that you are busy!
Thank you very much to everybody. :) Of course, nothing is serious, we still don't know each other. Like I said, I'm just happy to write to you and I'd like to meet you eventually. But I find this bluing rude and disrespectful. And I'm out all day, and sometimes I don't feel like writing, in which case I just leave the messages unopened. I have also forgotten about a message, but several times already? I think it's on purpose. Number 2, what is this tactic? I will be grateful if you light me up. :) Number 3, on the contrary, I already mentioned that when I can write, I answer relatively quickly, when I'm busy, 5-6 hours pass. In the evening, when I fall asleep, I leave messages for the next morning. I don't do it on purpose, just when I'm out with people, my attention is entirely on them, I won't get stuck in the phone. And I think he can test me. Of course, I have no intention of writing to him until he writes to me (last time he turned blue). I never write after syn, that's my rule. I want, as number 5 said, to "take power" (as childish as it sounds). At one time it worked, but then he started doing it to me. Do you think I should pretend to be him too? In general, I do not like such children's numbers and games, but you know what called ... Thank you very much for the advice! I will be happy for more opinions. :) but you know what called ... Thanks a lot for the advice! I will be happy for more opinions. :) but you know what called ... Thanks a lot for the advice! I will be happy for more opinions. :)
Yes, because you raised his shares a lot.
I am the author again. He wrote to me, of course, after a few days break, we wrote to each other again for more than a week every day, this time even more intensely. There were hints of seeing me soon, he had stopped completely with the blue and the numbers ... and so on for a whole week. And now - the old song again. But when I told him, he wrote me a new message a few hours later. The only thing he achieves with this is to annoy me. Honestly, I'm starting to lose interest and desire to write to him now. I already have enough on my head. Please give advice on what to do - should I play it permanently or should I continue to tolerate his games? And if I decide, how can I refuse him to write to me already, without being too rude and direct (when I write to me a second time, if I write a second time, will he understand the hint?). I can't figure out what he wants.
I think you should see each other now. You will judge live if it makes sense to waste your time. It's terribly annoying all this "sin-vane" work ... It'll be comical if you don't like something in him and you change your attitude towards his person, and he falls for you. : D: D
Since you have nothing to lose ... Why don't you just ask him the question from your title directly? Ask him why he does this and that and what the ajeba expects from you. Why do you complicate your life and tremble over its actions ... This type of behavior is not of a mature person, even if he does it in order to be interesting to you, or that he quickly gets bored or forgets to answer.
10, is not so direct, but this time I couldn't help but ask him, because he was blue when I explained to him about things that are important to me (it was about my dreams and my future) and he wrote me something a few days later that it had nothing to do with the subject. So I asked him a little sarcastically "didn't I bore you with my dreams?" And he told me that he had a job and that's why he hadn't written to me. If so, I respect that, but he does not respect my right to answer when I decide. If I'm blue (and I do it extremely rarely when I have nothing to say or while driving, for example) he writes to me a second time and I can no longer ignore him. 9, you are right that this has been going on for a long time, but he is not in my city yet. He should be back soon and I hope we go out to see if we like each other live. Anything is possible, you can't get to know a person at all just by writing. I do not tremble over his actions, it just confuses me and I lose the desire to write to him. Thank you all for being so kind and responsive, and I'm sorry if I bored you with my teenage nonsense. :)
After reading this, I am almost certain that the boy is a Taurus.
;; Girl, this man is playing with you, which means he either doesn't appreciate your dignity, or he's rude, or - worst of all - he's frivolous. I recently had such a case - and they tried to turn me on my finger (it lasted a year and a half), but in the end I cut the question - very kindly and elegantly, even leaving her a door to look for me, but still, finally. It can't be like that - a person can write to you, and you can keep him in a hanging position, immersed in questions and ambiguity. ... If you ask me (I'm older than your father for sure) - not only be careful, but just cut it off for good. You've given him enough chances so far. I also had short periods of harmony, etc., after which it fell sharply. When I looked for her after a while, she didn't even give an explanation. Please girl, leave him - you will suffer! .... Even more, that you met online. This is an additional factor in creating illusions and failure. I see you as a thinking and educated person, and I will be very sorry for someone to entangle you in their webs - as I see it about to happen. The real man is open and transparent - both in behavior and in his intentions. This man is not, and in our time sincere people are not the majority. Cut him off, and when he insists on you (this will inevitably happen), by no means give in to his exhortations! And don't even think about seeing him face to face - that would be a big mistake! Come and see you soon. Agape. and in their intentions. This man is not, and in our time sincere people are not the majority. Cut him off, and when he urges you (this will inevitably happen), by no means give in to his exhortations! And don't even think about seeing him face to face - that would be a big mistake! Come and see you soon. Agape. and in their intentions. This man is not, and in our time sincere people are not the majority. Cut him off, and when he insists on you (this will inevitably happen), by no means give in to his exhortations! And don't even think about seeing him face to face - that would be a big mistake! Come and see you soon. Agape.
By the way, are there any expressive forms regulated somewhere / in a document or a website / - what does it mean and how is it accepted / interpreted /. Because if not, everyone differently can accept one or another sign. And no one has the right to be angry with the other for not understanding him. This is called a misunderstanding.
If instead of chatting you talked, all the problems described here, there would be none ...